im 17 and when i lost my virginity it was okay i could get hard!
but the next time i couldnt ,she tried everything hand, head rubbing nothing worked.
i think its because i may be nervous or i panic from the time before and think oh no what if i cant get hard again!
and that causes me to stay on the flop! i will try and forget about it and concentrate on how beautiful the girl is next time.
hopfully it will work thanks guys!
but the next time i couldnt ,she tried everything hand, head rubbing nothing worked.
i think its because i may be nervous or i panic from the time before and think oh no what if i cant get hard again!
and that causes me to stay on the flop! i will try and forget about it and concentrate on how beautiful the girl is next time.
hopfully it will work thanks guys!
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hey guys been reading your problems and i have the same problem i think its the drink with me im away to be 16 soon and iv tried way on getting it hard and nothing if you guys have anytip on how to keep it or get it up i would help me alot thank you.
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I had the chance to have sex with a really beutiful girl but i got so damn nervous i decided just to cuddle and go to sleep. Now i regret it like sh*t.
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Well guys im just another bypasser with the same sad story, I was 17 when i had my first girlfriend, and man let me tell you, she was F***cking hot but I could not have sex with her because my penis died right when i was about to put the condom on...I felt like a f***g looser. BUT then i met this older chick, she was 23 and I had great sex with her but idk what the difference between the two was until now...the advice im going to give may help some of you...
1) get to know the girl well so that when you are with her you feel confident.
2) when you are alone with her, get into comfortable clothes such as shorts and a tee shirt.
3) follow step one so that you both feel free to touch each others areas and this will boosten your confidence with her. let her grab it and don't feel ashamed for whatever reason you may have.
4) do alot of foreplaying days before you get to be with her in private so that your self esteem is at its level
5) let yourself know that she wants it, and that you got just what shes been looking for ;)
might sound silly but it worked for me...this is how you break that pschylogical barrier in your head because most of the time is anxiety and if not its low self esteem..you might think that she will be disappointed with your size or that you will not do a good job giving it to her......thats why you need to get as much confident as possible
hope this helps ;)
1) get to know the girl well so that when you are with her you feel confident.
2) when you are alone with her, get into comfortable clothes such as shorts and a tee shirt.
3) follow step one so that you both feel free to touch each others areas and this will boosten your confidence with her. let her grab it and don't feel ashamed for whatever reason you may have.
4) do alot of foreplaying days before you get to be with her in private so that your self esteem is at its level
5) let yourself know that she wants it, and that you got just what shes been looking for ;)
might sound silly but it worked for me...this is how you break that pschylogical barrier in your head because most of the time is anxiety and if not its low self esteem..you might think that she will be disappointed with your size or that you will not do a good job giving it to her......thats why you need to get as much confident as possible
hope this helps ;)
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This has helped me so much, i think if we just relax and chill out with our girls then we will be good, me and my girl have only been dating for like a week and she already hits me that she wants to f**k me, it's like... ight how am i supposed to say no, and i do want to have sex, she aint a s*** and its her first time , idk i couldn't get hard due to me being juiced or cause of this problem but i can say that i did get worried cause this has happened twice before, and to the guys statment up there ^get throjan dawg, or serach up on google best condom in the world and buy it, i know there is still a posiblity but i can honestly say i'm just living, and this problem is not going to stop me, take it slow get some head and actually relax we have this problem because we too stressed about stuff in our head, throw all that away and focous on your girl, hope you all get over this problem, also- if you have problems getting it hard when you're at home masterbaiting this is not your problem you got something else better get that checked out, best of luck fbgm*
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This really did help it felt like was alone with this sh*t till i found this. when i was 17 this same thing happened me when i tryed to f**k for first time i figured it was not big deal soon or later it went down and i was with this girl for 3 years now im 20 and now single and living it up. Untill this past weekend me and this girl started fooling around in my car one thing led to another and she on me naked. i get rubber drop it on my dirty ass floor and had throw it away leaving me with a shitty free one i got at PP or something. anyway i get rubber on and i just as it was going down i couldn't get it up for the life of me. This girl is fine and it just really through me off when i couldn't preform but she understood but still disappointed me bad.
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im 16, same happens to me man. whenever im playing around with this girl im crazy for but her mum is in like the next room and i know sex wont happen, i can get hard.. but then when we are home alone i find it nearly impossible :( can someone please help! its definatly a confidence thing.
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hey i sorta had the same problem i use to get hard alot like mastarbating atleast once a day i went on a school camp and didnt mastarbate for 4 or 5 days and when i got back i was getting with a irl drunk and couldnt get a hard on and now it takes a bit to get me hard and now takes ages to cum helpp
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While everybody has a different body, and my advice may not work for you I can give you advice based on what worked for me because I actually did have to deal with this for a long time. I suffered from this for years. I was 15 when I first tried to have sex, I couldn't get it up. I believe it was because of my performance anxiety. I ended up finally doing it when I was 17, I owe this for it being spontaneous. Trust me I did a lot of research as I was really worried as you might be, and it boiled down to jerks getting a laugh at me and people recommending drugs. I don't recommend either.
From my experience it can be broken down into this:
1. Never plan to when you will have sex. Keep it spontaneous always.
2. Don't put any foreign substances into your body like alcohol or drugs
3. Find a girl that is on birth control so that you don't necessarily have to use a condom. The reason for this is that many people feel anxious about condoms because it slows the process and reduces sensation significantly. You want as much sensation as possible.
4. This will sound corny and people will tell you this is the only thing you need to do but the above things are just as important. Get out of your head. You need to embrace the moment and focus on the sensations, the touch smell and sights not the thoughts. If you embrace the sensations (this is where the no condom comes in) then your body will react naturally with instincts.
You can use condoms once you get over the hump don't worry.
I hope this helps, I had to learn the hard way you are not alone - relax and enjoy getting laid.
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To everyone here,
Im 16 and began to have this same problem. At first, we would bang a few times a week, maybe 3 times a day, and i could get and stay hard. Then recently, my problem started. It started after taking Nitric Oxide while broken up with my girlfriend. I masturbated to porn up to 3 or 4 times a day, and the Nitric Oxide allowed me to do so because of the blood flow. I went off the Nitric Oxide, and between the mental desensitization (from porn) and physical (from masturbation), I had serious problems keeping it going with my girl in bed. As of today, we broke up. It wasent a nerves issue because I was with her for almost 2 years, and even our 1st time (both of us were virgins) I was rock hard. I firmly believe that the excessive masturbation and porn caused my situation, and many of your's as well (after reading this whole blog). Tips:
- For the nerves: Gain self confidence by working out, and also, keep your mind from wandering. Focus on how hot your girl is and how badly you want to **** the **** out of her like a man and how thats exactly what you'll do. That always solved any fleeting nerve issue for me.
-For the people with condom issues (i.e finding that condoms feel weird). If you have the money to buy them, practice with them. Get hard, maintain the hard-on (without stimulation), and put on the condom, then continue to maintain it. Easier said then done I know, but being able to do that will prepare you for long foreplay. Also, Trojan Ecstasy condoms feel amazing...so much better than the others...I HIGHLY recommend them.
-Finally, for mental/physical desensitization. This is what I'm starting now. NO masturbation what so ever for 4 weeks. Avoid all synthetic sexual stimulation (i.e. get hard via your brain or seeing women in real life ONLY). Keep sexual urges at bay by running or other rigorous exercise.
Most of you probably don't need to see a doctor. Your body is very resilient, and will recover itself. I'm already seeing results and I haven't even started the "real" regimen yet. My mental sex drive is rising and I've started to be able to get hard to the thought of women I don't even consider much more than a 5 or 6 (out of 10). Yes, my nerves will be worse now that this has happened, but get confidence back. If your single, boost your ego by flirting with beautiful girls (without being a jerk), get used to being around any given girl, not just your girl, because your screwed if she leaves you and you were only comfortable around her. Do NOT smoke anything, and if you want to take off a nervous edge, get a little buzz, but no more or it will have adverse effects. During the 4 week period, find a goal to take your mind off it. Personally, I'm training for both football and the Navy Seals, so I can find any excuse to work out. Find your own goal. Don't go on any weird diets, but eat healthy enough. Were all in this together. Good-luck to you all, and keep posting!
Im 16 and began to have this same problem. At first, we would bang a few times a week, maybe 3 times a day, and i could get and stay hard. Then recently, my problem started. It started after taking Nitric Oxide while broken up with my girlfriend. I masturbated to porn up to 3 or 4 times a day, and the Nitric Oxide allowed me to do so because of the blood flow. I went off the Nitric Oxide, and between the mental desensitization (from porn) and physical (from masturbation), I had serious problems keeping it going with my girl in bed. As of today, we broke up. It wasent a nerves issue because I was with her for almost 2 years, and even our 1st time (both of us were virgins) I was rock hard. I firmly believe that the excessive masturbation and porn caused my situation, and many of your's as well (after reading this whole blog). Tips:
- For the nerves: Gain self confidence by working out, and also, keep your mind from wandering. Focus on how hot your girl is and how badly you want to **** the **** out of her like a man and how thats exactly what you'll do. That always solved any fleeting nerve issue for me.
-For the people with condom issues (i.e finding that condoms feel weird). If you have the money to buy them, practice with them. Get hard, maintain the hard-on (without stimulation), and put on the condom, then continue to maintain it. Easier said then done I know, but being able to do that will prepare you for long foreplay. Also, Trojan Ecstasy condoms feel amazing...so much better than the others...I HIGHLY recommend them.
-Finally, for mental/physical desensitization. This is what I'm starting now. NO masturbation what so ever for 4 weeks. Avoid all synthetic sexual stimulation (i.e. get hard via your brain or seeing women in real life ONLY). Keep sexual urges at bay by running or other rigorous exercise.
Most of you probably don't need to see a doctor. Your body is very resilient, and will recover itself. I'm already seeing results and I haven't even started the "real" regimen yet. My mental sex drive is rising and I've started to be able to get hard to the thought of women I don't even consider much more than a 5 or 6 (out of 10). Yes, my nerves will be worse now that this has happened, but get confidence back. If your single, boost your ego by flirting with beautiful girls (without being a jerk), get used to being around any given girl, not just your girl, because your screwed if she leaves you and you were only comfortable around her. Do NOT smoke anything, and if you want to take off a nervous edge, get a little buzz, but no more or it will have adverse effects. During the 4 week period, find a goal to take your mind off it. Personally, I'm training for both football and the Navy Seals, so I can find any excuse to work out. Find your own goal. Don't go on any weird diets, but eat healthy enough. Were all in this together. Good-luck to you all, and keep posting!
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Ok the same thing happened to me. Like when me an my girlfriend were gettin really close i had a boner an the first time we almost had sex i had a boner but the the time when we were actually having sex my penis went numb af smh very disapointin
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Im 22 and im having the same anxiety problem. i knew it was anxiety before visiting the site .
I succesfully had sex twice at the beach parking lot but i was drunk :S .
Erection is very hard during foreplay but as soon as im about to get inside her it goes down :(
I succesfully had sex twice at the beach parking lot but i was drunk :S .
Erection is very hard during foreplay but as soon as im about to get inside her it goes down :(
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Last night me and my GF were going at it, and i was too nervous but i didn't know what i was so nervous about, maybe because i was waiting for this moment for ages and i f**ked it up. I couldn't get it up for long. so i decided just to slip my fingers in her the whole night which was fun but still :s
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