I'm a 20-year female and every time my boyfriend fingers me, I experience vaginal itchiness for several days afterward. Since it goes away without incident, I'm not particularly conerned about an infection or a severe medical problem, however, the whole repition of the scenario is unpleasant and I'd like to find a way to either prevent or cure it directly afterwards.
My boyfriend always trims his nails and washes his hands before hand, but can sometimes get rough. I usually take showers as well and rinse with water in that area, then towel dry. Usually, it is only the exterior vagina like the labia, clitoris, and entrance to the vagina that itches and is extremely bothersome. I find it odd because when I finger myself no irritation occurs. Could this be an infection since it is reoccuring? Thanks for the help.
My boyfriend always trims his nails and washes his hands before hand, but can sometimes get rough. I usually take showers as well and rinse with water in that area, then towel dry. Usually, it is only the exterior vagina like the labia, clitoris, and entrance to the vagina that itches and is extremely bothersome. I find it odd because when I finger myself no irritation occurs. Could this be an infection since it is reoccuring? Thanks for the help.
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Tow general possibilities come to mind. The first is that he's just being too rough. You don't say whether or not you enjoy it, but you say that he "can sometimes get rough." If he's being too rough, to the point where he's causing you pain instead of pleasure, then he's obviously not achieving the desired result, so you should tell him to stop unless he can be more gentle.
The other possibility is that you're having an allergic reaction to something on his hands. This is something that can be very hard to pin down, so I'll run through some of the possibilities and you can see if you can rule them out.
First, you say that he does wash his hands, but how well is he rinsing them? If he doesn't get all the soap off, that could be what you're reacting to. If you can still smell the fragrance of the soap on his hands, it's still there. Of course, if you're washing with the same soap and not reacting to it, that would rule it out.
Second, washing with soap and water may remove most things, but some substances are resistant to soap and water but are still able to dissolve in skin oils or bodily fluids. Does your boyfriend work with any chemicals or other materials that you might be allergic to? It could be anything from auto detailing, which involves harsh detergents, waxes, solvents and other chemicals to making pizza or bread, where his hands are covered in flour for hours on end. You can explore this possibility by seeing if it's possible for him to wear some kind of protective gloves, especially non-latex, powder-free exam gloves, which are designed to be hypoallergenic. If that's not practical, see if anything changes when he takes a vacation from work.
The third possibility is that you're actually allergic to him, or, more accurately, some constituent of his sweat or skin oils. These would not be affected much by washing, because they are being constantly secreted from the skin. If that's the case, there's not a lot you can do. He could wear some of those exam gloves during sex, but you won't find that very romantic. Your best bet might be to take an antihistamine, such as Benadryl or Chlor-Trimeton before sex and apply a topical hydrocortisone cream afterwards.
The other possibility is that you're having an allergic reaction to something on his hands. This is something that can be very hard to pin down, so I'll run through some of the possibilities and you can see if you can rule them out.
First, you say that he does wash his hands, but how well is he rinsing them? If he doesn't get all the soap off, that could be what you're reacting to. If you can still smell the fragrance of the soap on his hands, it's still there. Of course, if you're washing with the same soap and not reacting to it, that would rule it out.
Second, washing with soap and water may remove most things, but some substances are resistant to soap and water but are still able to dissolve in skin oils or bodily fluids. Does your boyfriend work with any chemicals or other materials that you might be allergic to? It could be anything from auto detailing, which involves harsh detergents, waxes, solvents and other chemicals to making pizza or bread, where his hands are covered in flour for hours on end. You can explore this possibility by seeing if it's possible for him to wear some kind of protective gloves, especially non-latex, powder-free exam gloves, which are designed to be hypoallergenic. If that's not practical, see if anything changes when he takes a vacation from work.
The third possibility is that you're actually allergic to him, or, more accurately, some constituent of his sweat or skin oils. These would not be affected much by washing, because they are being constantly secreted from the skin. If that's the case, there's not a lot you can do. He could wear some of those exam gloves during sex, but you won't find that very romantic. Your best bet might be to take an antihistamine, such as Benadryl or Chlor-Trimeton before sex and apply a topical hydrocortisone cream afterwards.
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Have your boyfriend try using a lube. It may be because it's just too dry down there, and have him ease off on the roughness.
and try Vagisil for the itching. I saw it on tv :-P
and try Vagisil for the itching. I saw it on tv :-P
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Thanks for all the help. I never considered the idea that it might be an allergic reaction, although I can't think of anything it might possibly be. If I use hydrocortisone cream successfully, will that prove that I do in fact have an allergy or does it merely treat itching? Also, when he's rough, I do enjoy it, and it never causes pain. However, I really only enjoy it when he's rough on the inside hitting the G-spot. I can feel when there's too much touching of the exterior vagina, it starts getting more and more irritated as time goes on. By the next day the itching starts. Thanks again for the help.
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Hydrocortisone doesn't prove that it's an allergy, but it proves that it's histamine mediated, and allergies are histamine mediated. Of course, the itchiness already proved that.
Histamine is released in response to physical abrasion, allergens or chemical sensitivities. Because the response is delayed, it's either an allergic reaction or chemical sensitivity. Both involve an inflammatory response to a foreign substance. The only real difference is that an allergen binds to a specific immunoglobin E molecule, while other chemicals to which you may have a sensitivity do not.
Histamine is released in response to physical abrasion, allergens or chemical sensitivities. Because the response is delayed, it's either an allergic reaction or chemical sensitivity. Both involve an inflammatory response to a foreign substance. The only real difference is that an allergen binds to a specific immunoglobin E molecule, while other chemicals to which you may have a sensitivity do not.
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Hi im having a similar problem but its the first time its happened. He was fingering since im a virgin but he was also being rough. And i was soaked so it isnt like it rubbed off wrong or anything like that but one of his nails hadnt been properly trimmed and i think there may have been a cut in the vagina because it started bleeding or it was the hymen which is also possible but it didnt hurt you know..? But anyhow no my vaginal enterance is extremely itchy and is irritating me to no end can someone help me out please
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i think you're fine. i'm going through the same thing right now. i was fingered very roughly the other night by my boyfriend and not my enterance but a little bit farther in is very itchy. not exactly "in" my vagina but near the entrance. pretty close i guess. everything else is fine for me but i'm guessing he didn't properly trim his nails or something just irritated it. you know how a wound itches because it's trying to heal itself? i feel like that is what is happening to both of us. from being too rough is all.
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Hi there, I've had almost the same issue - would taking an antihistamine tablet help prevent the itchiness?
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I'm going through the same thing but it burns when I pee he only ever fingered me and gave me head I thought it could be a uti but he is really rough.
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hi! i’m experiencing a similar thing, the itchiness isn’t EXTREME but it’s enough to make me wonder why it happens every time he’s fingering me. i don’t feel itchy while he’s doing it, but within the next hour or so it will start to itch a little bit in my clit and also near the vaginal entrance. the big difference with my experience is that he is not directly touching me, he’s touching me through my underwear. could this be an allergy to the material my underwear is made of? sometimes he gets a little rough, but other occasions he is very gentle, but it still itches. i also have never really fingered myself, and he just started doing this the last few weeks, so it could also be that my vagina just isn’t used to all this just yet haha. any ideas? thanks!!!!
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