I need help!
I'm in a situation. I love my wife and we have been married for almost 4.5 years now. We actually got married in very young age, but decided of doing our further education and stuff which we did and now both are well to do in our own carreer. I'm 33 my wife is 29 and we were in relationship before we got married so we know each other very well. My wife is beautiful and sexy and we never had any issues in our sex life before. For last few months, her mom came and stayed with us from other state and that is where things started. Those few months we rarely had sex, may be once or twice a month - since our apartment is too small for two bedroom.
And during these days I met a girl in my office, she wasn't sexy but she knows how to get things done. I use to avoid her, but how long? One fine day she gave me BJ in my car and the things started ... I still avoid her as much as I can.
On the other hand, my MIL (mother in law) before leaving back to GA pressurized both of us on having kids. I wasn't really thinking of it but after listning to her - I was little scared as if we are really running out of time or what?
Now a days, when I am trying to ahve sex with my wife I have issues on errection and if I get aroused and get errection it does not stays for long. This happens only when I have sex with my wife. I think I get all thoughts of having kids and donno what. But when I think about my cologue in office, I am all up and ready and hard. I use to watch lotta porn these few months on my phone.
I have stopped watching porn, stoing seeing that BJ girl what else should I do. I know this is all mental and nothing to do with having problem. My wife is little suspecious on my behavior, she did ask me if I see anybody out which I denied. I want to get back in the game of my love and am freaking ready to stop everything else and I really don;t care.
So is it a pressure of having kids or what is that is making be look bad? What should I be doing to come out of this?
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your question itself has the answer, u r right its just the thinking pattern which is disturbing you. my simple advise is just start yoga though its physical excersice things like shavasana can give you alot of relife. it has workd for me when i was in trouble.
all the best
regards
sirish
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