how to stop masterbation?!?

Perhaps we should make a new rule to provide scientific references for some of the "facts" stated around here.

I know it must be hard,but it is Wrong. I know this must sound crazy,but there is a reason why no one talks about it public .And I use to do this and still do this,but since becoming a stronger christian I still can't stop,but I beg God for help. If it's normal then the body will do it's job and it causes a variety of problems, acne,ETC. But I also heard it stops prostate cancer,and I'm guessing while your jerkin off you're not thinking about you're parents.All it comes down to is going to public places keeping you'reself busy,and never get in a room by yourself. I think it's ok if you do it once every 1-2 or 2-3 months,but I have'nt lasted that long and I need major help to so please give me advice/

I know that you have your religious reasons for not masturbating but it has a lot of health benefits, but it's not such a bad thing. Many people DO talk about it in public and it's not bad froma biological perspective. If you feel guilty, I'm sure that it's harder, but I can tell you there's no biological reason why you should not masturbate. DOes that make sense?

OMG, for you "Christians" who want to believe in a mean God, that's your right but I think you must be masochists. I'm a Christian too, and I certainly don't believe God gave us these wonderful bodies with all the pleasures in them, so he could say "don't touch" ,I want you to be miserable and suffer constantly knowing about pleasures I gave you and don't want you to enjoy.

I agree with HnF guy here.

What I'm hearing is all the misconceptions we had as kids, being repeated again and again.

Where is the study that shows masturbation causes acne?
Just about everything they told us caused acne when I was a kid, has been proven untrue.

I used to masturbate several times a day when I was young, if I felt like it. Now it's more like a few times a week.
None of those things they said would happen to me have come true. At 69 I still pass the driver's test without glasses.

All this sounds like teen angst to me.

njoynlife, totally apt observation there. I don't know why there's a God who doesn't want you to enjoy His gifts. I know some people talk about the sin of Onan, but Onan's sin was because his seed spilled and he did not impregnate his brother's wife. But then, that's all Old Testament. I don't know too many Christians who follow that! I mean, I do respect that some people have a religious belief that masturbation is a sin--but recognize that MANY other sects of Christianity are totally okay with it! Does that help anyone?

Yes its not really for you to stop. Your body is saying it needs sex so eighter way your gonna want to be satisfied, and as someone said up top^ Its pleasurable, and it must be since you're doing it so often.......It wont kill you
Just be responsible and try limit yourself masturbating, but it's not for you to stop

If you want to lower things down a bit, try not to look at sexual images, this is what trigger you to want to jack off, things you see and think about...4 times is quite alot, if it is on average..lol XD

When I was your age I was masturbating about as much as you are if not more. It's a normal thing for someone your age to be doing and there is nothing wrong with it. Your hormones at this stage in your life are telling you that you are of child bearing age and should be having sex. Now before anybody jumps on my case I am in no way suggestion that a 14 year old girl have sex much less get pregnant. It's just your bodies natural way of working. As far as how often your masturbating think of yourself as an excited puppy who just discovered a new toy and is so excited about this new toy that you can't put it down for a minute! That's pretty much all it is.. Eventually you'll fall into a schedule that's right for you and your body. If anything masturbation is a great thing because it will keep you from being sexually active before you need to be. If you need medical reasons as to why it is good to masturbate check this out"

"For men:

According to Robin Baker, author of Sperm Wars: The Science of Sex, masturbation is the body's mechanism for getting rid of geriatric sperm. As explained in the book only 1% of an ejaculate population is actually designed to be egg getters (young). The other 99% are either killer sperm (young) or sperm-blocking sperm (malformed geriatric sperm that clog the passageways in cervical mucus so that other sperm cannot get by). The body produces 10,000 sperm per second eventually populating the lower portion of the epididymis with older sperm at the front of the line. For single men, masturbation is a sound sexual strategy because it gets rid of the geriatric sperm and creates a new young/old ratio. Younger sperm have a higher chance of defeating any populating army they may encounter. Males in relationships will usually keep a population of sperm of 500 million in their mate at any given time (depending on certain factors). This population will have a higher mix of geriatric or defensive sperm to fend off an invading army. The author also suggests that behavior that discourages masturbation in society (which happens often) in effect increases the sexual productivity of persons discouraging the act because it increases the chances of their own sperm army against any invading army.



and for women:
It relieves stress and sexual tension. It can help you get to sleep.The speed of which cervical mucus flows will directly effect how strong their cervical filter is. The increased speed of cervical mucus not only fights off infections due to foreign invaders, but it also regulates the number of sperm that passes the cervix and invades the womb. "


and just in case you need one more reason to masturbate.. "The average person burns about 300 calories while masturbating."

Ya i agree once or twice a day don't exceed that unless u really feel turned on. masturbating 4 times a day is alot

I thought I was the only person who needed to defend masturbation on these threads but I'm glad you're here too. Where did you get these quotes? It sounds like a book I would enjoy. Thanks!

This is for those that are bashing Christian's for their belief that masturbation is wrong. You are right, one of the reason's God gave us bodies is to experience the pleasure's in life. Sex in and of itself is not bad. What's wrong is when you do it and with whom. If you're married and having sex with your spouse - go for it - feel all the pleasure you want. But don't do it out of the bonds of marriage. Really, masturbation is a form of having sexual stimulus without your spouse. You get trapped and then you start to justify it like the people in the above messages. God is not a mean God out there to punish you when you do wrong. Rather he is setting a standard that he wants you to live up to because that will lead you to the most happiness. It's like a little kid around a stove. The mom tells her kid to stay away from the oven/stove because she knows that he can get burned. She's not being mean, she just knows what the consequences are and is trying to protect the kid. However, when the kid grows up, working with the stove and oven is perfectly okay, because they now know how to use it properly.

Anyway - my point is that God isn't a mean God trying to figure out ways to punish you and not let you enjoy the pleasures of life.

Don't blame him for your attempt to justify what you're doing.

I'm not trying to be pious. I struggle with the same issue, hence the reason I'm looking at this post. I just know that justifying anything isn't going to get me anywhere

Hi there, I am curious to hear something important from you. As a Christian, you believe that masturbation is wrong. Can you tell me how that fits in your faith that men who don't masturbate regularly have higher rates of prostate cancer? Does that make sense? I am honestly not trying to be mean or judgmental--just curious. Can you let me know?

hi, I also masturbate.

I have been thinking about it and yes, maybe it is normal and maybe there is nothing wrong with it.

However, I think it weakens our core as a man when we engage in the pursuit because we release the productive energy that can be used to serve the world. I also think that it weakens us to love the women in our lives with more vigor and passion.

At times, when I was not doing it, I find myself living life in a more open, relaxed, loving way... than the times I when I submit to the destructive habit of giving in to myself and my thoughts.

I know this might sound all new age or what not, but I am just sharing my personal journey.

I think, if we are married, masturbation is a no go; we must love our wives and learn to open their hearts so that we can serve their hearts and bodies. In turn, they will serve us.

No easy answer on stopping, it is very difficult, but I believe, if you understand and search for the question WHY you want to stop, you will be one step closer to stopping. Don't just stop because of other people's views and opinions, know WHY. I think most men at some point feel that masturbation is weakening them or that it somehow is not right. WHY?

You can easily Stop Masterbating
look.. if your a guy yes

am 22 and i started Masterbating last year, i have battled hard with this
addiction, when i did it, trust me it felt so good, i felt warn out afterwards
and have to sleep to recharge....

so last week i went to see my Parish Priest.. i cant tell my dad now can i..
i told him my problem during confessions.. he gave me some counselling
and told me, that Yes it is a problem as it is making me to feel weak and also
on occasions People outside can hear me going on about my business
it was becoming embarasing serious...

so now i have been keeping myself very busy and when i feel like masterbating, i have a shower
have put in family filters on my Laptop and made sure that my my friends have the password
so that i cant access any porn sites or even YOUTUBE... Those booty shakers get to be yum yum after a
while when your turned on......................

so yes i have a shower, during night time, if cant sleep then i just lie on my bed counting sheep
until i fall asleep...

i have been like this for the past 24 hours... i know i will overcome it, as i feel that this is a must
i cant live my life like this.. i started masterbating after i broke up with my GF.. if you cant stop then replace
it with a girlfriend yesss... that way she can be your main focus right
later and good luck

Its really hard for me to not masterbait daily, im 15 btw. But as im growing in Christ i need to stop feeding my flesh. God gave us these gifts not to torture us but to teach disipline and we can use these gift in marriage so its not like we cant ever use them. Masterbaition is NOT ok, it is sinful. People who question that, wat do you think of or look at when you masterbait? Porn, Nake girls, Lustful thoughts which the bible clearly states that those thing are wrong. Im not saying your going to Hell if u masterbait but as long as your trying to stop and confess your sins to God than ur good in that area. That is why Jesus Christ died on the Cross, to take our sin so we can be holy people in heaven with God.

Can you stop masturbating instantly?
I really hate shameful and dirty after I'm done masturbating.
I started when I was around 12 or 13 years old and it's been off and on for me.
It seems like I do it more when I'm in a very stressful season in my life.

Also I'm a Christian and this is such a struggle for me.
I know that God doesn't approve of this behavior :cry:

ANYBODY HAVE SOME ADVICE.
IT WOULD BE MUCH APPRECIATED!
THANK YOU!