I flex my legs when I masturbate.

 

I think I've got it figured out! I looked this up because I've got the same issue to deal with as all of you. I CANT cum without stretching my legs (sometimes quite forcefully). I can tell you that the advice some of you have offered indicating that "were doing it wrong" or that we've just gotten "use to" stretching our legs when we come and we "have to focus on cuming" and just stop stretching our legs... is TOTAL BS. I've tried focusing for long periods of time and it doesn’t matter. If I don’t stretch my legs, I WONT cum. Okay, so here's the deal.. try stretching your legs before you whack off or get laid! I tried it today for the first time and it worked! I was happy as sh*t! All I did was bend to touch my toes and I also did an inner hamstring stretch where I sat down, brought the bottoms of my feet together, and pulled them in toward my groin. I held each stretch for a few minutes and I came within 5 minutes of whacking off WITHOUT stretching my legs!

P.S.  Today was my first attempt. Please let me know how this works out for you guys cause I'm thinking about stretching my legs routinely from now on just to keep them loose.

yes i flex my legs too when i masturbate and know i have back problems

you know alot about back pain.

 

i also have the same problem. what worked for me, was just using a sexual position that would allow me to stiffen my lower body, while continuing to thrust.

What i did to stop tensing my legs was, lay down on my bed, and put my legs together. That way when i tried tensing my legs unconsciously, i wasn't able to as my legs were blocking each other. Do this and you'll be fine. Also, lube up because it will take longer to cum if you dont stretch your legs.

So after reading all of these, I was able to cum siting up with my legs on the floor, I have never been able to cum without tightening my legs until now. I almost cried because of how overjoyed I was. I did watch a porno to take my mind off of thinking about orgasming and that really worked for me. I was able to fix a problem that I've had for years (I am 20) in about half an hour by reading this forum. I'm thankful.

I don't know why but i am the same - I either stand strait or lay down with my legs fully stretched. However, is it normal to cum lots of semen? Cuz I see I actually cum quiet a lot. I tried to lower my erection with my hand gently tapping the tip of my penis, then it felt AWESOME! I thought I cumed 3 times... 

It is completely normal to flex and move your feet, toes and legs etc while having sex and masturbating. It probably gets more intense just before you ejaculate.   

Finally I thought it was a bad thing and not many people did it but it is very hard to stop I've tried so hard to keep my legs still and when I do get them still I don't feel like I'm going to come

I know this post is old, but hopefully this will help someone.  Find a good chiropractor familiar with autonomic and dysautonomia disorders.  It could be that your "atlas" is misaligned, causing not only sexual issues but a number of other misfortunes, including dizziness, profuse sweats, tachycardia, headaches, and fatigue.   By tensing your legs, you help to temporarily correct this misalignment.  Also you may find sitting up straight helps your erections.   I have had this issue on and off most of my life, and finally found relief through chiropractic.  I never would have thought that type of treatment could actually help (I am an open minded skeptic).  It kind of hard to find a good practitioner, but well worth the effort.  I am 52 now (male) and it is a real game changer to get this corrected.  

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My experience is similar, but my situation isn't as dire as yours.

One possibility is anal/prostate stimulation. Hog breeders swear by it, people seem to enjoy it a lot more than they're comfortable admitting. A butt plug, in particular, may similarly affect your blood flow while you're in other positions. (With or without butt plug: have you tried reverse cowgirl?)

The other thing to keep in mind is that orgasms occur largely between the ears. Receiving oral sex while seated in a kitchen chair inspires one set of feelings and emotions. Simply adding one detail, like having one's ankles tied to the chair, wrists behind it, introduces a set of completely new ones...

Male here, and the same thing happens to me. There are really two solutions: train yourself (if possible) to come with your legs bent, or simply find sexual positions where you can straighten your legs.

I have never bothered with the former because I found certain positions to allow me to come readily. The best for me is to have my girl ride me and I can stick my legs straight out and tense them as hard as I want. I can come that way if I'm on my back, but if I raise up to my elbows so by torso is at a 45 degree angle ... it's all over.

We call it the 'Ownership' position, because she owns me.

The good thing about not coming with bent legs, is I -- and I imagine you similar men also -- can go a loooooong time in bent leg poses, and then when the time is right she can Own you.

I am also suspicious of the 'its all in your mind' proponents. For a lot of guys, pressure down in our nether regions makes orgasm easier. When you tense your legs, you can probably feel that you are increasing pressure in a way that is satisfactory. I think this is also why I like to raise my torso up -- I engage my quads and my lower abs at the same time.

Good luck. I know that horrible feeling of not being able to come for a woman.

I have this same problem when I'm masturbating. I found out trying different methods like sitting down or standing take longer but if you hit those right spots you'll have an awesome orgasm. But when I'm having sex though the girl has to be on her back in order for me to reach orgasm

does not matter...if you loving it then go ahead...enjoy it.every one has it's own way of enjoying sex..

push it up as far as you can, and do your thing lol