When I masturbate I have difficulty coming without flexing my lower body, making my entire body stiff/ rigid. Is it something wrong or just in my head?
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I do the same thing... I don't know why but it feels much better that way... Even when I am having sex with my husband I flex my lower body. It's just how your body works.
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The only way I can truly have a strong orgasm is if my lower body is flexed, and completely straight. It's hard during sex sometimes, cause when I tense up it's harder for my boyfriend to continue thrusting.
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then if the only way to have an orgasm is to have you lower body tense, then when you are masterbating try to lay on your back with you knees at a 90 degree angle, about the position you would be in... Try to work on making your body tense in that postion. Someone told me that once and it didn't happen the first time but it does work. this way when you are with your bf you don't have to fake it..
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I am working on that actually. Haha. I am trying to train myself to be able to orgasm in different positions, not necessarily on my back with my legs straight. I am getting better in a few positions, but when I am "on my own" I will definitely try doing it with my legs 90 degrees.
Oh, and I never fake it anyway. haha. I don't believe in faking it. If he can't get me off, I get myself off while we're having sex. He likes it anyway ;-)
Thanks.
:-)
Oh, and I never fake it anyway. haha. I don't believe in faking it. If he can't get me off, I get myself off while we're having sex. He likes it anyway ;-)
Thanks.
:-)
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senorscott wrote:
Finally!! I'm not the only guy who has this, when I'm masterbating I cant cum unless i tense my legs, I've had 4 sexual partners and I hav'nt been able to come with a single one of them because I havnt been able to tense my legs like I do when I masterbate, this is such an agony for me and my previous partners as its frustrating as hell. Please oh please!!! somone help us!
I am a male and I have this problem. I have tried to have sex in different positions, but I still have to stiffen my body. I have never been able to orgasm during sex because of this. I really need a cure for this or else I'm doomed to a life of celibacy.
Finally!! I'm not the only guy who has this, when I'm masterbating I cant cum unless i tense my legs, I've had 4 sexual partners and I hav'nt been able to come with a single one of them because I havnt been able to tense my legs like I do when I masterbate, this is such an agony for me and my previous partners as its frustrating as hell. Please oh please!!! somone help us!
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I don't understand why this is a problem.
Is there no way to keep your legs tense or to use them while thrusting?
I have always found that while on top, I'm constantly tensing my long leg muscles and find that sex is better when I excercize the long muscles of my legs.
Is this what you're talking about?
Is there no way to keep your legs tense or to use them while thrusting?
I have always found that while on top, I'm constantly tensing my long leg muscles and find that sex is better when I excercize the long muscles of my legs.
Is this what you're talking about?
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yeah i cant cum unless my legs are completely stiff, i really wanna fix this problem because when i have sex i wont be able to cum or it will be really uncomfortable for the girl....
can someone tell me ways to get the feeling as if my legs are stiff when they arent? need tips...
can someone tell me ways to get the feeling as if my legs are stiff when they arent? need tips...
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Welll.... if you're not turned off by it, there's always the ol' light bondage of having your legs tied down... or at least having your partner kneel on them.
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Just learn to cum without tensing them. I thought that i couldnt cum unless my legs were tensed but i had actually never tried masturbating without my legs tensed. Just lube yourself up well and concentrate on not tensing your legs. It may take you a while but keep at it cos after the first time i was able to cum without tensing it almost becomes second nature. Good luck :D
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You can train yourself to respond to just about any situation, or train yourself to NOT need just about any set of stimulation also. It takes time, and determination, and repeated practice with an occasional reward or regular reward.
This is called operant conditioning and has been known for years.
Let us know of your progress.
Good luck.
This is called operant conditioning and has been known for years.
Let us know of your progress.
Good luck.
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I just randomly looked up leg tensing and masturbation after watching a video of a woman who did it. I noticed that I do it every time too, and I also have trouble orgasming with my gf. I never really thought it was due to the leg tensing, but rather frequent masturbation(2-4 times a day).
Anyways, I just tried not tensing up my legs just now
I still managed to come. It took a bit longer, but it still worked fine. It was such a weird sensation to come without the leg tensing.
The leg tensing feels like it gives me more control in when I want to come.
Guest wrote:
senorscott wrote:
I am a male and I have this problem. I have tried to have sex in different positions, but I still have to stiffen my body. I have never been able to orgasm during sex because of this. I really need a cure for this or else I'm doomed to a life of celibacy.
Finally!! I'm not the only guy who has this, when I'm masterbating I cant cum unless i tense my legs, I've had 4 sexual partners and I hav'nt been able to come with a single one of them because I havnt been able to tense my legs like I do when I masterbate, this is such an agony for me and my previous partners as its frustrating as hell. Please oh please!!! somone help us!
Just learn to cum without tensing them. I thought that i couldnt cum unless my legs were tensed but i had actually never tried masturbating without my legs tensed. Just lube yourself up well and concentrate on not tensing your legs. It may take you a while but keep at it cos after the first time i was able to cum without tensing it almost becomes second nature. Good luck :D
I just randomly looked up leg tensing and masturbation after watching a video of a woman who did it. I noticed that I do it every time too, and I also have trouble orgasming with my gf. I never really thought it was due to the leg tensing, but rather frequent masturbation(2-4 times a day).
Anyways, I just tried not tensing up my legs just now
I still managed to come. It took a bit longer, but it still worked fine. It was such a weird sensation to come without the leg tensing.
The leg tensing feels like it gives me more control in when I want to come.
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Interesting observation. Now that I think about it I believe my orgasms are much more intense if I can flex my legs as hard as possible, even standing up and leaning slightly backwards seems to feel the best.
Conversely, after intense leg training where I'm flexing my legs for an extended period of time I often feel a dull pain in my lower abdomen/prostate/testicles like I just need to purge my system. An ejaculation after intense leg training is very intense for me and usually results in what seems like twice as much semen as a regular ejaculation.
Conversely, after intense leg training where I'm flexing my legs for an extended period of time I often feel a dull pain in my lower abdomen/prostate/testicles like I just need to purge my system. An ejaculation after intense leg training is very intense for me and usually results in what seems like twice as much semen as a regular ejaculation.
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I found when I was very young and had just started masturbating around puberty....
That the feeling was more intense, or I could come sooner, if I tightened my PC muscles and held them clinched.
This, of course, only lasted until the autonomic nerves were overloaded, and the sequence of ejaculation started...(The point of no return, as we now call it)... and then those muscles all started spasming on their own.
Anyway, As I grew older, I learned that besides conditioning myself to only respond to this, that UNCLINCHED muscles also resulted in it's own sweet sensations, and the feeling of an overwhelming urge to shoot is also one of life's joys of sex.
I know, Too Much Information...
but the point is that you can train yourself and unlearn behaviors if you try. XD
That the feeling was more intense, or I could come sooner, if I tightened my PC muscles and held them clinched.
This, of course, only lasted until the autonomic nerves were overloaded, and the sequence of ejaculation started...(The point of no return, as we now call it)... and then those muscles all started spasming on their own.
Anyway, As I grew older, I learned that besides conditioning myself to only respond to this, that UNCLINCHED muscles also resulted in it's own sweet sensations, and the feeling of an overwhelming urge to shoot is also one of life's joys of sex.
I know, Too Much Information...
but the point is that you can train yourself and unlearn behaviors if you try. XD
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I also have this problem. I have to fully flex my thighs and completely straighten my legs to cum. I can cum without doing it but its difficult and doesn't feel as good.
My doctor told me that the reason I have to do this is because the blood vessels in my penis are allowing blood to flow away from my penis instead of locking all the blood in my penis involuntarily. By flexing my legs and lower body, I am trying to keep the blood in my penis, thus maintaining erection and enhancing the sensation.
I can only cum during sex if I am in the missionary postion but completely elevated (like your doing a push-up) and flexing my legs completely straight. Its exhausting and if I don't cum right away I get too tired and miss the opportunity.
I haven't figured out a solution yet and I hope someone can help me out.
My doctor told me that the reason I have to do this is because the blood vessels in my penis are allowing blood to flow away from my penis instead of locking all the blood in my penis involuntarily. By flexing my legs and lower body, I am trying to keep the blood in my penis, thus maintaining erection and enhancing the sensation.
I can only cum during sex if I am in the missionary postion but completely elevated (like your doing a push-up) and flexing my legs completely straight. Its exhausting and if I don't cum right away I get too tired and miss the opportunity.
I haven't figured out a solution yet and I hope someone can help me out.
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