mastrubation at early age

First, if you were molested (at any age) Im so sorry to hear that. I can understand why that would be your first thought in this instance. While it could be explained by something so innocent, I completely understand the concern youre showing.

Your daughter could just be exploring her body. Girls show sexual maturity earlier than boys. Girls can get their first period as early as 9 years old. I remember checkin out my stuff as early as 8 years old.

Take a look at her environment. Do you see any adult (or older) men showing an extra interest in her? Is she exhibiting any introverted behaviors? Does she seem withdrawn? If she still is drawing are those pictures different in anyway? Because it may have happened to you, you could be extra sensitive to pick up on these indications. Be aware though that you may also think you are seeing something that may not be there. It seems you already are aware of that though by your post.

My suggestion is to not alarm her in any way by asking the question straight out just yet? I have said to my child that his body is his own and that no one under any circumstances can touch it in any way that makes him unconfortable. The only people allowed is Mom and the Doctor and he has to say its ok. My son has a skin condition that affects his private areas also so I always ask him if its ok to go there first and/or I tell him Im putting on the Doctors hat (more on the hat thing later). Ive also told him that if someone does that he needs to tell me ASAP and that I will not be mad at him if he does. We had this conversation a few times to make sure he knows and I also tell him that I love him very much and theres nothing he can or will ever do to change that.

Maybe its time to begin telling her about how her body will soon change as she starts to become a woman. It was suggested to me to give my child a book on the issue and about sex. I know thats not for everyone, however. Im not ready to let go of 'my baby' yet. I know that is inevitable though. I dont want to minimize your childhood trauma but this may not mean it has happened to your daughter. Also, I would make sure the lines of communication are always open. Parents can sometimes seem like aliens to their children as puberty begins so sometimes it may not always be with you though. It could be with a trusted relative or even a friends parent, maybe even a school guidance counselor. They should be required to inform you if they suspect any abuse. Remember that you were a little girl once too. What would you have wanted to have your parent say to you at this confusing time in life? I have told mine that no matter what is going on I can change hats sometimes and be a friend when it comes time to talk or ask questions and I will never be mad or yell and that I will answer all questions to the best of my ability and if I cant we will learn the answer together. Then my other hat goes back on. The parent hat. We can be friends to our children and in some instances thats all the kids may need. But the parent hat always goes back on. For me anyway.

I hope you find something here useful. I know this can be a touchy subject. I could go on and on but I dont want to monopolize the thread. Good luck with this one. Parenting aint easy thats for sure. I will never say your concerns are unwarranted.

DistinctivelyMe...?

I remember mastrubating at a very early age and I was not molested. I am a girl and used to rock back and forth on my heel and say I was "rinsing a pony". Not joking!! I have never talked to my parents about it because I was too embarrassed!! Also because I didn't think it was that weird, I was having fun, not understanding the rules of the world.

If you were molested I do feel bad for you. But you don't really know if you were molested or not and you are attributing your early masturbation to unconfirmed molestation. 

If you don' remember being molested it is very unlikely you were molested but you want to find reason to explain why you started masturbating early. Minds are very powerful things. 

In any case, masturbation can start at any age and many kids will masturbate in various ways. The sensations derived are very pleasurable and so this habit continues. 

I started masturbating very early too. I was about 8ish I think and I loved what I was doing and I started using objects. I even started having sex very early and it was the most awesome experience. I was not quite 13 when I lost my virginity to a much much older guy and it was so beautiful.

I am all for girls/women being liberated and enjoying their sexuality at whatever age they wish to enjoy it and with whomsoever they want to do it with. I think as a society we have dumbed down girls and have put in too many restrictions on their sexuality and have imposed rules that they have to abide by instead of letting them free to enjoy their sexuality without stigma or shaming. 

We need to prepare them not focus on readiness. Teach them not to feel negative about sex or doing sexual things like masturbation. 

Masturbation is about biology teaching us that the act is very pleasurable and when the time comes we have sex and enjoy it and we as a consequence perpetuate our species. How wonderful is that.