Hi, I have just met this girl who I really like. When we are messing around she won't touch me when my penis is not hard. In my past relationships ,my girlfriends have always played with me to make me hard before we have sex, but she says for her and all her friends the man is already hard so she has never had to play to get it hard.
This is completely new for me, so is it normal for girls not to want to touch you when its not hard? She doesn't even like me sleeping naked with her and prefers me to wear underwear??
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You have to cope with her since she's not used to it but i assure you, if she likes u a lot she will try doing it as time goes on. XD
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Sounds like my wife, she doesn't want to touch me either, hard or soft. I didn't find out about that until AFTER we got married. When we were dating she did everything I would have expected a girl with a normal libido to do. She comes to bed with a nightgown that buttons from her toes to her neck and refuses to play with me at all. Sex is all up to me, she never refuses me but she won't even hold my balls, I have to do everything. She tries to make me feel guilty for coming to bed naked but I'm too hot and she's too cold so I'd be soaking wet in the morning if I didn't.
When we'd been married for about twenty years she suddenly remembered that she'd been molested by her father when she was a teenager and that became her reason/excuse for not wanting to touch me and sleeping in a cocoon.
I sometimes think most any female I find mildly attractive could probably take me by just being touchy feely because I do long for the female touch.
It's been like this for 45 years, so if you want to live like that you can just put up with it but if you don't, you better run!!!
When we'd been married for about twenty years she suddenly remembered that she'd been molested by her father when she was a teenager and that became her reason/excuse for not wanting to touch me and sleeping in a cocoon.
I sometimes think most any female I find mildly attractive could probably take me by just being touchy feely because I do long for the female touch.
It's been like this for 45 years, so if you want to live like that you can just put up with it but if you don't, you better run!!!
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Coax her. I used to think it was an insult to me that my husband needed me to "play" with it soft, I always just assumed guys just got hard without it. It wasn't until he put it to me this way... "I have to warm you up, why can't you touch me and make it better for me too..." It got me to thinking and so I did start touching him soft... Turns out, it was not an insult to me (maybe she finds it this way for her too) and I rather enjoy feeling it grow and harden in my hands, knowing for sure I'm the reason he's hard... you can put it to her that way too, make her feel like she knows for sure you are hard for her, because of her touch ect. Hope it helps from a womans perspective.
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Yes I know the feeling there bud. My wife n I have been married for 4 years this year she's gonna be 21 and me 29 this year and she is the same way it all up to me when we dated she went down on me all the time and I her she would massage my balls an play with me just for no cause while we were laying there in bed to go to sleep but after marriage that went away now as long as I touch her or go down on her that's OK but she thinks in her mind she don't have to do it back and n now she don't touch me at all or even go down on me but I can her I have to initiate everything. They drs say that they found the reason for this and it is clled a wedding cake
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Also she can go for two plus months without giving it up to me or having nething to do with me so when I ask her who is the other person she goes with I have Pecos and pre diabetic and that she was molested at younger age haha excuses but then she turns it around on me and says the one that accusing is the one cheating not her
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Hey bud read the post I made on chrissyanns post they were meant for you but I put there by accident sorry
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