No bleeding after having sex for the first time

No offence but your boyfriend is screwed. I your case a hymen can be torn in many other ways, such as fingering, the use of tampons or even activities like riding a bike, a horse or doing gymnastics. Also try remember have you ever noticed bleeding before sex like during masturbating or after any physical activity? NOTE: bleeding doesnt mean you are NOT a virgin. Anyhow best of luck i hope it all works out for you.

hi i have also the same problem . i had sex wid my husband for the first time but suprisingly bleeding doesnt occur . i was so frustrated from that day . he always embarras me in the same reason . i dont know what to do . he is telling me that i hav lied to him . i dont know whats going on in my life plz help me

Hi im sorry to say this but your husband is crazy i had the same problem as well not every girl bleeds for her first in fact i feel like we were grown up to belive that but studys do say that the only reason why a girl bleeds for her first time is because she is hurt by the man. meaning that the man wasnt gentel and was rushing everything and hurting the women. Dont feel bad for had happend your husband should love you for you not a silly thing like bleeding. He should know that not every women bleeds. Talk to him and show him online why girls bleed and why some dont. Riding a bike can make you loose your virginity jumping of the stairs can to. You husband is heartless to make you feel bad for something you cant controll it seems like he wasnt even enjoying the sex and was more interested in the blood lol look at your self and dont put your self down you kno the truth and thats all that matters. Good Luck

Not everyone bleeds the first time..I didn't bleed my first time either n had sex many times but recently after experiencing a larger **** I bled lol. Sometimes the hymen is really strong n doesn't easily tear

maybe he just didnt do it hard enough and you are indian right.

u dnt wry.. .! me too hpnd it. so go and tl him not only u thrs sm mr grls r in this wrd as lyk u. keep smile..! :)

I think men are just Men!!! My man said the sane to me Too.... After we gt married, we had an arugument, and he goes "you didnt bleed, that means u lied to me... Did u really lie?" And that just threw me back, because i have Never lied to him! Anyways, i don't give a damn about what he thinks of me as im in the process of having a divorce.... I love him, but its just a one way traffic and thats impossible to work out!

i had sex for the first time but i didn't bleed....i was scared cause i though my bf thinks that i lied to him.....but he didnt think i lied to him......he told me there is many ways when having sex first time a guy could either make u bleed n also not to make u bleed....is that true?.....we love each other alot but i jus want to no how come i didnt bleed?......my first time really hurts...

My Name is Becky, i am 18 years old... i was fingered by my ex-boy friend, and i lost a very little quantity of blood, the tragedy is,... i broke up with him, and now i have a new boy friend and i have told him that i am still a virgin, and that's because,... i have never had SEX with anyone before,... but i am scared that i won't bleed on my first night with this new guy, and he would think i lied to him, please i need your help,... is there a chance that i can still bleed?? because that will be the only proof that would make him believe that i am still a virgin.

it was my first time having sex with my husband now i didnt bleed also,some rumors says if you try to other men or much larger maybe it will bleed but i have no guts to do it even thou i know he already have sex with other women while he's on other country. He's always telling me his not the first but he is i dont want to explain because i know my self more than him but know after know he cheats on me i feel so down and i want to do the same way too but i cant even seeing my self having sex with other man i can't...

In MANY cultures this is a sign of a woman loosing her virginity. Unfortunately MANY women do not loose any blood - or minimal amount - to show signs. This - almost barbaric - way of trying to prove a womans virginity, has cost thousands of women their lives and livlihoods - over the centuries. What most men and women don't understand is that every woman is different, every experience is different. It has to do with a mans girth, wetness, previous stretching or the hymen being torn long before. You could have torn - got rid of your hymen - by SO many ways. Tampons, even riding a bike has sometimes been shown to tear it. Any accidental trauma to it etc. It is a thin piece of skin over the bottom of the opening of your vagina. Tell him to check it, tell him to come with you to your doctors for him to show him the torn or relaxed hymen! I know my words mean nothing, against cultures that this has been embedded into them for thousands of years. It is old and antiquated and depending on your religion or nationality i would advise going to a doctor of the same culture and have him explain to your husband just how WRONG he is! Do NOT have sex with other men - this could be VERY scary for you. there is no need, you just need to prove to him and have someone educated - that he might even believe (and feel stupid about) that you WERE a virgin. I wish you safety and for your husband to be DRAGGED into the 21st century. It's time for ALL cultures, religions to understand just what is involved in a woman loosing her virginity. HUGE hugs and good wishes!

I learnt that in the islamic religion it is taught that a hyman or lack of in a female doesnt prove virginity as this can be torn prior to sexual intercourse by riding a horse or the like. Islam does not allow a man to accuse a female of having commited fornification or vise versa unless 4 muslim men have witnessed the incident. As it is a big issue to accuse someone on this without clear proof and the one who does falsely accuse commits a sin.

EXCELLENT point Imaani! More and more people need to be taught that NO WHERE is it mentioned in the Quran nor the Bible that a woman is "unclean" if there is no hymen! It is an antiquated thought that has destroyed families and marriages. And even caused MANY women to be murdered or stoned etc. It is as backward as female circumcision! The ONLY way out of this backward thinking is with education. For fathers and mother to talk to their children ESPECIALLY boys and for them ALL to be dragged into the 21st century of facts and reality compared to fiction and being SO wrong! When someone is putting on their partner - insecurities, threats, bullying, threats etc. - is usually because they have the exact same insecurities or are doing the EXACT same thing they are accusing the other of!

Hi,

During my first time I didn't bleed exactly during sex, but a little bit after. After sex I went to the restroom and then I saw blood coming out of me. There was no blood in the bed, and my partner didn't see the blood in the restroom, so now he things that I lied. Is there anybody who has the same expirience? I feel horrible with this situation!!! I just want to know if there is anybody else who experienced the same thing of bleeding after first sex, not exactly during???