14 and had sex!!!!!

Dear brooklyn_amour

1. "Im 14 and ive had sex" & "His [He's!] 16, and im 14" - That's probably illegal!
2. "He respects me" - Yet he had sex with you at 14!
3. "Is it slutty that i had sex?" You asked the question - I think that indicates how you feel. Your handle "brooklyn_amour" says a lot.
4. "I kind of think im having feelings for him" So you have had sex with someone you did not have any feeling for, and only now "kind of think [you are] having feelings for him". Of course you start feeling for him. Sexual intercourse is a bonding action!
5. So having sex is "really not a big deal" That shows you are too young. You are treating sex far too casually. You have given your virginity away without a care.
6. "He used a condom, and thats a good thing" means you might not get pregnant. Is that all your interest?

You need to think about your attitude to sex before it is too late. Your reputation will go before you, and what will follow will be worse.

I'm sorry, Shepherd, but there is NOTHING wrong with having casual sex! Absolutely nothing!

Yes, I agree that Brooklyn is too young to be having casual sex, but the only reason I think that is, is because she may not be taking every precaution to having SAFE casual sex. She may not know or have access to condoms, birth control, or other contraceptives because of her age.

Also, there is nothing illegal about a 14 year old and 16 year old having sex. If there is a 4 year difference, and the older person is over 18, then it is illegal. 

Brooklyn, don't let ANYONE tell you you are slutty for having casual (or non casual) sex. This is YOUR body, and you should do what YOU want with it. 

That said, you need to take precautions to make sure you don't wind up pregnant! Condoms, birth control, etc. If you haven't had any education about those things, you need to either stop having sex until you have an education, or get one!

Depending on where you live, sex between a 14 and 16 year-old could well be illegal. For instance, in most US states it is not likely the 14 year old would be treated as a perpetrator of the crime, but rather as a victim. That might mean that the 14 year old might undergo a medical and mental evaluation. There also could possibly some court ordered counseling. Since the 16 year old is old enough to legally consent to sexual intercourse and the 14 year old is not, the 16 year old, in most states, would be seen as the perpetrator of the crime.

In the UK, the 16 year old could end up as a registered sex offender as he is of a legal age and in the eyes of the law she is a minor.

Depending where you live, again, it could be 'statutory rape'

Plenty is wrong with casual sex! Children are born everyday because of that, and grow up unloved and unwanted! More importantly, its immoral and the bible says it's wrong!

 was just 14 when I too had sex. About 2 weeks ago. I was home alone and my boyfriend came over and we had it outside my house in these woods. He was also 14 at the time. We began to kiss, and we both just ran for the woods. It was amazing. I couldn't believe the feelings. Luckily I didn't get pregnant but my friend did.My friend went to this party at another girls house and it turned into a sex part

Actually it is illegal only if your 'partner's is four or more years older than you...

Oh. I just read the rest. *awkward*

Wow! I had sex when I was 10. My favorite move was the doggystyle. What ur favorite move?

Brooklyn, I know this post is over a year old. 

Never regret having sex if you did it and you wanted to do it. You need to rejoice and have fun. Make sure you are prepared and take precautions against STDs and pregnancy because you want neither of those ESPECIALLY at your age ie 14.

We are all wired to have sex and biologically that makes perfect sense. Never feel guilty. Noting moral or amoral about having sex and religion has absolutely NO role in your decision to have sex. God has wired us the way we are ie to have sex when we reach puberty. 

Trying to suppress sexuality in my mind is totally wrong because you are trying to go against what nature intended for us to do. Not having sex is very UNNATURAL. 

You have sex and enjoy the feelings, the sensations, the intimacy, closeness and emotions. It is an exceptionally wholesome, tremendously pleasureable and pleasant experience. Don't regret having had sex and never carry that negative emotion ie GUILT. 

Just make sure you are prepared and understand the implications of STDs and pregnancy and prepare yourself so you dont have those issues to deal with. 

Sex is wonderful. Just enjoy it. I lost my virginity to a much much older guy and I loved it and went back for more and more and never once regretted what I did. That fact he was much older was to my advantage and I loved the attention he gave me. I was turning 13 when I lost my virginity to him. I never once felt bad or abused, contrary to what society will try and brainwash you to believe. 

Make a move, try to show him that you like him. so that way if he likes you back, you guys can get together.

Ok boomer lmao

Geez can you be a little less critical. That girl has come on and has had the courage to tell us she had sex. You are NOT her parent and definitely NOT her keeper and very surely NOT her moral guide.
Keep your outdated high horsed, moral attitudes to yourself.
She doesnt need criticisms from you!!
Nothing wrong with sex. Nothing wrong with what she did. At that age exploring is perfectly okay. She was responsible - condoms were used. Dont beat her up for her sexuality.

In one word - NO. Nothing wrong with what you have done. Perfectly normal to have sex at your age. The good thing is that he used a condom and this kept you safe and you didnt fall pregnant. One thing I would advise you is to NOT feel guilty or carry guilt with you. Disregard all the negativity you get from society, friends, parents etc etc. Be safe and do what you think pleases you and what feels right for you. Good luck!!