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Well, the chances of getting pregnant are not zero, but they're no where near 100 percent. It's always best to use soap because it makes sure that substances don't stick to the skin, but if you thoroughly washed with the water and made sure that the wetness was gone, you're likely okay. Even if there were sperm cells left on your hands, it's very difficult for a sperm to successfully fertilize an egg if it hasn't been ejaculated into the uterus. This is because you have antibodies and good bacteria in the vagina that see sperm cells as foreign invaders and can attack and kill them. Also, it's a long journey for such a small cell if it's only at the very beginning of the vagina. My opinion on this is that you don't have to worry about pregnancy.

Thank you for your time, I'm sure that you get posts like this frequently. I feel my question is probably about as useful to your data base as "Can I get pregnant from cyber sex?"

I understand the likely hood of becoming pregnant is pretty close to ziltch, and I honestly should be more worried about any bacteria or disease. My problem is probably not the most serious case out there as I have read many. Including stories of withdraw, as well those where actual semen was involved.

I honestly would have used soap if there had been some, I am a paranoid person.

Some say it is possible to get pregnant from pre-cum, while others say only if he ejaculated prior to the pre-cum. I have researched as far, and I basically think that those who practice withdraw are the ones who should worry the most about the "pre-cum theory."

I just would like to stop worrying. I do understand that no one can certainly prove whether or not pregnancy can occur,especially over the internet. I just wish I could be certain...

but thank you again.

Hi Friskyfox, your chances of getting pregnant are pretty much at zero at this point. I'd say 1% at the most. I think that all you need to do is see if you get your period this month, which you almost certainly will get because you should be fine. The point is that you're worried, and we understand that. When is your period supposed to be this month?

I am certainly worried. Yesterday I was thinking about it so much that, i began to shake (as if I was going on stage or something.)
My period usually starts around the waxing half moon. (This month is would be about the 26 or 27.
Which would mean around this time I am probably starting to become the most fertile. After recently researching and learning this I did not highten my spirits... Every tweek in my body is making me just a bit more nervous. A cramp here, mild headache, there...maybe I feel dizzy one moment.

I know that symptoms of pregancy don't usually come this early, though.

I am going to schedule a doctors visit soon, for a final physical examination before going off to college...I just don't know whether he/she would be able to tell me anything or not.

I was going to ask my father about it...however in the process of coming up with the right words to say he told me his theory on life..."if I'm in a good mood...don't ruin it." And my dad likes to yell. I treat my parents like best friends, however I don't think it would be worth breaking our close relationship if it's something caused by my own paranoia. I asked a guy friend, and he said that he heard it has to be fresh for something like that to work...

what do you precieve?,
thank you

Hi Frisky, your worry can actually cause you to skip a period. I think that you're thinking too hard about it and you can actually cause yourself even more worry in that case. I'd say ask your doctor to do a blood test just to make sure you're not pregnant when you go in for a checkup.

I like your dad's philosophy but you know, sometimes, you have to deliver bad news. I think it's a good idea to talk to your dad about it and just let him know what's going on, but I trust your judgement there. Let me know how you're doing okay?

Thank you very much for the concerns. It feels good someone actually cares enough to return to these posts. I told the doctor of the prediciment and she said I didn't have to worry about it. I told the nurse prior to that and she said I didn't have to worry about it. She didn't even offer a pregnancy test... [half of me thought I should have demanded it] I just don't think she was willing to give a test that she thought was unnessary.

She described that my cramps could be from ovulation pains...

Otherwise I'm a healthy weight, good physical activity, with a "good head on my shoulders," all around healthy person as she described...

My stomach still aches, still burns, and I have heartburn and I'm getting left side pelvic cramps too, and I still can't get off the fact that due to complete negligence to hunt for soap, I could end up pregnant...(I mean how do you tell your kid he/she was born, because Daddy was out of soap?)

My dog seems to want to be closer to me now...and I don't know whether to be paranoid still about that, because I also read animals are sensitive to those pregnancy hormones, and tend to want to be more near their owners...Also (a little tmi) large amounts of white vaginal discharge, like twice over a three day period, which I don't know whether is due to ovulation or pregnancy....

My fathers convinced if I'm a virgin, "no sexual intercourse, I can't get pregnant...he described certainly he did not want to hear the details.

Thank you,
Frisky

Mornin Friskyfox, i just had to respond to this post even tho the other responders are all right. I remember back when i was "younger and friskier" and i thought i was pregnant every single month :$ There were times when my bf would just sort of lay on top of me and i would swear i was pregnant. I used to drive him nuts all the time!!!! Of course after loosing my virginity at 15, i was quite busy, all the time :$ I did much much more than you, so try not to worry. The chances of you conceiving via the way you described is pretty much nill, but just know that there is always that stupid 1% chance.

I commend you for wanting to fly your virginity flag with pride, right on, but did you ever think that there could be that one time when you just can't hold back? You said "you enjoyed the intimacy" and i fear that one day your going to enjoy it even more. Did you ever think about going on the pill? This wouldn't give you the green light to race into intercourse, but it would certainly calm your fears in the event that you both get cought up in the moment. We are all human and there may come a time when it just feels way to good to put the brakes on. It would be your own insurance policy if you will.

Daddy's don't want to hear detalis when it comes to their baby girls, that's what us moms are for ;-)
Also, you really need to chill a bit as you are so over thinking this, your gonna give yourself a heart attack. You sound like a very intelligent young lady who absolutly has her head on straight and it's wonderful that you want to further your education, Bravo!!!

Just a word to the wise. Try to stop looking so hard into the internet. Some information is true while other stuff is a bit stretched. My big downfall was medical books, geez i thought i had every disease known to man. Don't get me wrong, the internet is a fantastic source and a wealth of information and i would be lost without mine, but stop reading into everything so deeply. The cramps you feel could be the beginning of ovulation, the discharge always presents itself as you get closer to your period.
So take a chill and relax if you can. I know as i was in your shoes a million times.

Hi frisky, I am glad to hear that ou were able to get some medical help as well. Have you taken a pregnancy test or anything to find out if you're definitely not pregnant? I can tell you that I'm pretty sure that you're not, but it helps to know. ANd yes, your dog might be getting closer, but that doesn't necessarily mean anything. Let me know, okay?

No need for a test! :3

I got my period on the 26, and it's been going strong so there is no after thought, on spotting or too little bleeding.
Thank you for all your concerns and help, and next time I'll take all the precautions so my little complusive mind does not react on such an unlikely notion.

(However the likelyhood of there being a next time, in the near future is a slim chance, considering me and my boyfriend are over 1,000 miles away from each other.)

I want to focus on my education I don't need the worries of bringing a child in the world, and I don't really want to be on birth control, because most women believe it is risk free, when infact nothing is full proof. (not to mention pills have side effects, it's hard to convince myself that a shot will keep me from getting pregnant or a little patch on my skin, and those 'T' shaped implants in the Uterus seems a little dangerous.)

Though my morals sound cheesy, goody-goody, and rather cliche, sex is something I don't want to jump into. I know my limits, I know we are only human, and my situation that started all the worrying to begin with, was done on a simple impulse. I just find remaining abstinant keeps all the worries to a minimum, and expresses a will power along with saving me from STDs as well as STIs.

truely will never look at my period the same way ever again,
Friskyfox

Bravo young lady, your morals are NOT cheesy and no way goody goody. You know exactly what you want out of life and are determined to stay on the right road.
You certainly impressed me.
Like i mentioned to you before, fly your flag with honor and pride. You are the absolute definition of a lady.

Frisky, absolutely am so glad to hear that you're concentrating on your studies. Not only is that a good idea but you really need to study instead of worrying about stuff like this. Thanks for keeping me udpated!

I forgot to ask you though--are you thinking of doing birth control or have you decided to not take it and just go with abstinence instead? Birth control at least has the benefit of helping to regulate your period. What do you think?