Feeling depressed after stopping the birth control pills?

I have moments where i doubt whether its my hormones or not! I got married last august, stopped taking bc about mid oct an then come jan i just felt like i hit a wall! I started to become paranoid an insecure about my relationship thinkin my husband was cheatin when i knew he wasnt- he was with me practically all the time an so loving and attentive! Then more recently somethin came up from the past about my husbands ex that i was previously ok with but now when i think about it, it seems to have rocked my whole world! Im emotional, anxious, depressed! I dunno if its my hormones makin me totally irrational an paranoid or whether this issue that has reared its head again is actually botherin me! Sounds confusin i know but try being in my head lol my husband has been so supportive an i know he loves me unconditonally but cos of this issue i have found myself questionin my feelings for him which i have NEVER done before! its not like anythin has been done on me, its more jus somethin his family went thru that was very painful for them that i didnt kno the fill extent of even tho it happened way before me! So i dnt understand why it bothers me! :-/ i hope it is hormones an that i get better! Otherwise i will drive my husband away :-(

Hello! I know these posts are from a while ago but I just want to say that I am dealing with the same thing. I was only on birth control for a short time but felt unhappy on it so decided to come off. Unfortunately I'm getting worse before getting better. It's been about 3 months and honestly all I can say is that I'm not myself. I doubt everything in my life. My future, my relationship and myself. I have good days but mostly bad. I get anxiety and freak out and over think small things. The hardest thing for me has definitely been feeling negative towards my relationship. I'm young but can truly say I was completely in love with my boyfriend. It breaks my heart to say that the love was taken away from me and unfortunately I don't feel that "in love" feeling anymore but I know something is still there. Before going on the pill I was happy with him in any situation and we have had such a perfect relationship for 3 years. When I went on the pill I started to doubt my relationship and that was the main reason I came off of it. Nothing is more important to me than being happy with him so when I wasn't feeling like myself it scared me. The first month coming off the pill was okay until getting my first period. I felt completely indifferent towards my boyfriend and that thought made me so sick. I didn't want to eat, get out of bed or talk to anyone. After a week or two I got better but definitely not back to normal. It's been about 3 months and I still struggle with the same feelings just less. It's hard to explain but I almost feel like I'm numb and don't know what I want anymore. I look at my boyfriend and know I love him but it's just so different. I've read so much about this because it drives me insane and it seems like many girls go through this. It's hard to think that it's the withdrawal from the birth control that is making me feel like this because it lasts so long and the feelings are so real. I think what gets me through it is knowing that other girls feel the same way and that if I really lost all feelings for him I wouldn't care that much and would just let him go. It hurts my heart when thinking about what I used to have and knowing that it's gone. I hope it returns soon and I hope you all recover.

Hi . I can 100% identify with what you are feeling. I had no side effects while on the pill for 2 years, minor emotional stuff, but once I got off the pill the true nightmare started. I started doubting and questioning my great relationship and fell into the same week long depression that you did where I could not eat, get out of bed e.t.c. then, I started to feel better and was able to function with these thoughts, but I have good and bad days. I also developed all of these dumb fears about my boyfriend, and things about him that never bothered me started to bother me. I don't feel complete love now, but slowly , 4 months off the pill I am seeing minor improvements. Like there are times when I can be with him and NOT constantly analyze him. Please hang in it is a hard road and you will have setbacks. Everyone is different in terms of healing so be patient, I know how hard it is and how real the feelings are.

What worries me about all this is how do we actually know when we are better? I feel better than i did but still have the doubts about my relationship and fear of the future an overthinking everythin! Part of me thinks are these real or r they jus another side effect? Seems a random side effect to have! My husband has been so supportive and i feel like iv just been a cow! I feel like im missin out on what should be my perfect life! Jus wana feel in love again :-( we had been trying for a baby but lately because iv felt distant im scared to get pregnant in case we dont survive this! Im struggling to kno whats real an whats a side effect :-(

I understand what you are saying about knowing when we are actually better. To be honest it's completely scary because I feel like I will never feel in love again. I know I love my boyfriend and it's so hard to describe what I feel. I just feel like I take it day by day but I see no future for anything. I also feel like my happiness was taken from me and I'm not excited about things that used to get me excited. It's annoying to feel like this but as I read it's very common and can take a while for us to heal. At times I feel like I don't want my relationship anymore and I know that if I ended it I would miss him like crazy. I feel like it causes us to be depressed which makes us think it's our relationships that is causing a problem. I realized that if we truly didn't love our boyfriends than we would just let go instead of trying to find answers as to why we feel like this. It's so sad to fall out of love because of a stupid pill but I think we will all get better.

I really hope you are right! My husband was saying to me last night that he wishes i would love him like i used to an it kills me cos im tryin so hard and i jus want us to go back to normal but i feel distant from him an i kno its all me! Hes been so good an im surprised he hasnt left me already! Im making both of us so unhappy! At times i feel like i should just leave him so he can be happy with someone else instead of having to put up with the mess that is me! This is ruining my marriage an its only year 1 :-(

I remember a few month after stopping bc i was crippled by insecurities that my husband was cheating on me etc i was always paranoid even tho he hadnt done anything. Now a few months further on it has turned to just feeling bla an questionin my feelings for him. Its incredible the change- i would rather feel insecure again as at least then i knew it was cos i was crazy about him an loved him unconditionally. Now i just dont kno what i feel and its makin me an him so depressed :-( this is all so unfair

I'm sorry girls. It's so unfortunate that we are all going through this. I can't describe what it feels like either. Just like something is wrong. Then the worst is you try to go back through your relationahip before all of this happened and wonder if you were bored, unhappy or unattracted at any other time. It is amazing how our minds can trick us. Please don't do anything with your relationships. I know it's hard but before this pill we all never had to question if we were in love. We were just happy to be with our partners.

Exactly! Before the pill I remember everything just always being perfect. Now, I question my relationship constantly and it's on my mind all day everyday. When I'm with him it's just not the Same. It's such a weird feeling to describe but I almost just feel like I'm confused on like what's going on or I'm just like blah about it. Also, another thing that bothers me is that I always feel like I'm going to be bored with him. I used to be able to sit and watch tv with him for literally days and that's all I wanted. Now, I just feel like we always need to be doing something to have fun or to keep my mind off whatever it is thinking. It's so hard to think these feelings are NOT normal and that it's not actually what we want. Idk it just drives me insane and I'm so so over it!

Me too! I find myself overthinking an being scared of things that didnt previously bother me! I feel like i have to force myself to love and spend time with my husband whereas beforehand i was totaly mad about him an jus wanted to be with him all the time! Nothin else mattered! Now i feel like im questionin my whole life an im scared to get pregnant coa i feel like we are shaky! Hes put up with so much an all i wana do is be able to reciprocate the love he shows for me! :-/ this is hands down the most stressful time iv ever faced! How will i kno when its over? I have neevr ever doubted my feeling before- how can a stupid pill make this happen! It feels so real :-(

It's an everyday thing that I feel like this and I just feel like I'm just living everyday but, unhappily. I just want this feeling to go away because I'm never excited to do anything anymore especially with my boyfriend. When I hangout with him I have a good time it's just not the same. IDK HOW LONG THIS IS GOING TO LAST ITS SO FRUSTRATING!!

I GET THE BORING FEELING TOO!!!! Honestly like it is the most bizarre thing ever. It has subsided a lot thankfully, but it is so annoying because I don't remember ever questioning if I was having fun with him. Like in the past, yes we did not go out as much but I loved going out to have fun with him when we did. Now it feels like even if we go out to do anything it automatically won't be fun. Trust me though, I am being 100% truthful that this is starting to subside (I am sure I will have a setback but I like to call how Im feeling today a lot of progress). If nothing has changed in your relationship and your boyfriend has no red flags, there's no reason to end the relationship. That is what I like to say to myself.

I Been off the Birth Control for over a month and i was feeling ok until this week, i was having like a pain in my upper stomach chest area. i went to the ER and the Dr. said it was acid reflux bt i know that wasn't it. anyone else having weird physical side effects after stopping the pill??

-SILVIA

Hey Silvia, I had very similar symptoms that lasted for months, I thought it may have been acid reflux or bad anxiety. The doctors weren't much help so I did a lot of research and self diagnosing which was both good and bad, the good part was that I was learning more holistic approaches and reading advice, but the bad part was that I was tricking myself into thinking I may have had all these different illnesses which in turn gave me health anxiety.

I was so in tune with my body that when any little thing went wrong, sharp pain, digestion issues, etc I thought I may have had some hidden illness the doctors couldn't find. Very frustrating. What helped me the most was following a clean gluten free low sugar diet and working out. I'm around 11 months off and I feel sooooo much better, which is kinda why I haven't posted on here much.

Try taking a really good probiotic, it's not a cure all but I do believe that good health starts in the gut and if anything disrupts that, which BC has been known to do, it can start a slew of problems. Good luck.

I've read that having depression can make us feel all these ways about our partners. And obviously, we are here because we thought we developed some type of depression after coming off the pill. I haven't been motivated to do anything and I just haven't been as happy as I used to be so I thought maybe it was him that was causing it. Then I realized that he has done nothing different since we have been together and I've always adored him. Only since I went on, and came off has my relationship changed because of my constant feelings. At first, I went into about a week long depression after my first period off the pill, after that I was okay until my next period and now the Thoughs are not going away and I'm constantly thinking about them everyday even though I know he's perfect and all I ever wanted. It's crazy though because how do we know what we really feel and really want? I know I don't want to break up with my boyfriend but the feelings make it so real and tell me I should. Idk I've only been off of it since may and I heard 6 months is about the time to start feeling better although every body is different. I hope I feel better soon because this is physically and emotionally draining.