Feeling depressed after stopping the birth control pills?

Hi I know this was two months ago so I hope you get back to me! Anyway, Ive been feeling like this since about last month. I got off the pill in may because I just wasn't happy anymore with anything so I thought that would be the best thing for me. Now, it's been about 2-3 months later and all I can think about is how I feel towards my boyfriend. I had a perfect relationship with him for the longest time and now I feel like all the love I had for him left. I know I still love him and I try so hard to be happy but it's just not that "in love" feeling anymore and it seriously breaks my heart. I question the same things that you mentioned. I don't know how long I can deal with this it makes me so miserable! Wondering if anything got better for you?

Hi! Since I posted that 2 months ago, I am better but it got a lot worse for me before i got to the point where I can at least see clearer. I developed a lot of fears regarding my boyfriend. Fear that he's not manly enough, fear that I will cheat on him, fear that I don't have fun with him and will not in the future, fear that I'm not attracted to him like I was. Please search conscious transition Sheryl Paul. She helped me dispel a lot of my fears just by reading her blog on relation ship anxiety. My fears got to the point in where I'd see an attractive guy, well actually any guy, and my mind would torment me that I'd rather be with that guy then my boyfriend. Today the thoughts are not intrusive and I feel a lot better about my relationship. I don't cry hysterically in front of him. I would not say I am 100%, and I may have bad days. But please know that there is a light. If there are no red flags in your relationship , there is no reason to break off the relationship. I know the thoughts are obsessive but keep thinking that!

AnxiouslyWaiting thank you for the response
I been having chest pain and stomach problems which my stomach doesn't really hurt it just feels hot and like its burning. its just awful, I'm glad you are feeling better. that makes me feel better. I have an apt with a Naturopathic doctor tomorrow hopefully she can help me with all this. been struggling with depression too and omg such an awful feeling. I get very impatient at times :(
glad to hear you are doing better :)

So has it been around the 6 months for you?? Glad you feel better! I feel like there is no hope for me. It's so so sad!!! I miss the feeling of being in love and not questioning my relationship. I'm holding onto him though because I know I'll be miserable if I end our relationship

It has been around 4 months since I got off the pill but almost like 3 or 2.5 months since I've had these feelings. Thank you! It is a weird feeling everything started to gradually feel better but I still have weird feelings at times. I know it is hard but if you really did not love him you would have no problem saying that he wasn't a good fit for your future. It is really hard to believe because the feelings are too real.

Totally fed up feelin like this! I am literaly at my wits end considering leaving my husband cos i am jus making us both miserable! He has been perfectly supportive to me but i just like iv lost my zest for life! Constantly worrying an dont feel excited about anything to do with my marriage! Its killing me! This should be the happiest iv ever been :-( im 9 months off bc now an it feels like its gettin worse! I used to be totaly insane about my husband n now i can barely hold a text conversation! He hasnt done anything wrong its so unfair!

Hello! I recently came off birth control in may. I only took it for a short period of time so I didn't think the side of affects would consume most of my life. I've had a great boyfriend for almost 3 years and was nothing but happy all the time. Unfortunately, birth control stripped my happiness from me and it became even worse a month after stopping the pill. I got extreme anxiety and depression. I see no future with my boyfriend and I doubt my love for him. This thought is in my head ALL DAY. When I'm with him I'm okay but I just want to cuddle him and sleep I've lost my sex drive and all. I know I love him because I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I'm just not "in love" anymore and that breaks my heart. I wake up every morning thinking about it as well as having a really bad stomach ache every morning. I used to be able to go about a week with seeing my boyfriend and obviously miss him like crazy but I would be able to do my own things and be okay with not seeing him for a few days. Now, I feel like I need to see him everyday or else I'm not happy and overthink. Also, I feel like whenever I'm with him I'm just going to be bored. It's so bizarre because I used to love just sitting in bed with him watching tv and now idk everything has changed. i almost feel like he's somewhat of a stranger to me and I forgot about what we had?? If that makes sense. It's so so hard to explain the feelings.

Oh no! 9 months seems like a really long time. Do you have moments of clarity or do you just constantly feel like these thoughts are taking over your mind??

initially i felt insecure an parnoid from about jan- mar- paranoid that my husband was cheatin on me even tho he was loving me unconditionally! I cud cope with that tho cos i knew it was in my own head an also feelin insecure meant i knew i was sure i loved him so much! Then since about start of may i jus started to question my feelings for him- they overtook the paranoia an made me feel like i didnt really care anymore! It was like someone flipped a switch! I constantly think about- i do get moments of clarity but it still hurts like hell an i jus want to feel normal again! :-(

I've only been dealing with this since the beginning of June so it hasn't been that long for me but I still can't deal with it and I feel like it's been forever. It's crazy how the pill could do this to us! The thing that bothers me the most is not knowing or trying to believe that it's actually the birth control because since it's on my mind all the time I feel like it's just the way I feel. It just makes no sense that this all started when I started the birth control and is still like this, just worse after coming off. Just keep having hope that you will fall in love with him once again. Everyone's body is different and takes longer to feel better. I read that 6 months is about how long it takes for these thoughts to go away so I'm hoping I should be okay yet it feels like I will never get better. If you really didn't love your husband I think you would leave him but obviously something is making you stay. Hang in there I know how hard it is!

Hello! My names Ashley and I recently came off birth control in may. I only took it for a short period of time so I didn't think the side of affects would consume most of my life. I've had a great boyfriend for almost 3 years and was nothing but happy all the time. Unfortunately, birth control stripped my happiness from me and it became even worse a month after stopping the pill. I got extreme anxiety and depression. I see no future with my boyfriend and I doubt my love for him. This thought is in my head ALL DAY. When I'm with him I'm okay but I just want to cuddle him and sleep I've lost my sex drive and all. I know I love him because I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I'm just not "in love" anymore and that breaks my heart. I wake up every morning thinking about it as well as having a really bad stomach ache every morning. I used to be able to go about a week with seeing my boyfriend and obviously miss him like crazy but I would be able to do my own things and be okay with not seeing him for a few days. Now, I feel like I need to see him everyday or else I'm not happy and overthink. Also, I feel like whenever I'm with him I'm just going to be bored. It's so bizarre because I used to love just sitting in bed with him watching tv and now idk everything has changed. I figured I'd reach out for you hoping for some clarity. Did you go through any of this? And is your relationship better now? I feel no hope. i know you posted on here a while ago so I'm wondering how you feel now!

I recently came off birth control in may. I only took it for a short period of time so I didn't think the side of affects would consume most of my life. I've had a great boyfriend for almost 3 years and was nothing but happy all the time. Unfortunately, birth control stripped my happiness from me and it became even worse a month after stopping the pill. I got extreme anxiety and depression. I see no future with my boyfriend and I doubt my love for him. This thought is in my head ALL DAY. When I'm with him I'm okay but I just want to cuddle him and sleep I've lost my sex drive and all. I know I love him because I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I'm just not "in love" anymore and that breaks my heart. I wake up every morning thinking about it as well as having a really bad stomach ache every morning. I used to be able to go about a week with seeing my boyfriend and obviously miss him like crazy but I would be able to do my own things and be okay with not seeing him for a few days. Now, I feel like I need to see him everyday or else I'm not happy and overthink. Also, I feel like whenever I'm with him I'm just going to be bored. It's so bizarre because I used to love just sitting in bed with him watching tv and now idk everything has changed. I know this was from a while ago but I'm wondering how you are doing today? Your symptoms are very similar to mine and that's why I'm reaching out to you!

Please hang in there. I know how frustrating it is to deal with this. The depression makes it seem like EVERYTHING in your life is not good enough. I learned to accept the thoughts even though I hate them and wish I did not feel this way. Since I have been able to do this (OCD/intrusive thoughts subsided) I have found myself feeling a lot better and my outlook on life has improved. I know it does not seem like it but if you did not love him, you would not be so upset about feeling this way and not giving him the love he deserves.

He sounds like a great guy to be by your side through thick and thin. I know that it is horrible that you cannot appreciate the awesome guy that he is and realize that he is better than the rest. But he is sticking around for a reason-because he loves you so much and he knows that you are struggling deep down and truly love him. It is very very very hard, I know that you feel like your marriage should be a certain way given that it is early on, but comparing to other people/things will make it a lot worse. I actually had to stop all of social media because of this. Please look up "Sheryl Paul and Conscious Transitions" on google. I am telling you 100% you will feel so much better after you read everything she has to offer on relationship anxiety. It really really really helped me a lot and I hope it can give you comfort too because I can see how much you are struggling with this, as many of us are.

Hey everybody. I haven't written a response in awhile because I actually can't relate to the relationship/marriage anxiety a lot of you are facing as I am single and have been for awhile. However I can only imagine how bad it must feel!! Just hang in there and remember it's temporary and you all will heal. I have a 12 month old baby girl and for awhile I felt detached from her, like I was constantly questioning my ability to be a parent and it was honestly the WORST feeling ever and probably the worst part of this whole ordeal. July 26th will make 4 months off for me and I still have quite a few bad days where my anxiety is through the roof. But I do have more good days than bad now. I use a period tracker app and just chart the days I feel bad.

 Back when this all started I followed these threads religiously and I felt so jealous of the women who were 3,4, and 5 months off because I felt like that would never be me. That this would never end or get better and honestly even now I cannot tell you how I've gotten this far. I'm still not completely healed but I am a ton better save for the really bad days I have. 

I wish all you ladies the best. This is the hardest most trying thing you may ever go through but when you come out of it you will be a better person. 

 

Hi everyone, like you all, I have been off birth control for a wile. It's been around 7 or 8 months, and I STILL don't feel normal. I do feel a little better and more regulated emotion-wise, but still unstable. It's awful, is this normal or no?