Feeling depressed after stopping the birth control pills?

Guest over a year ago

Im 9 months an i feel like last couple of months have been the worst! My marriage is a mess cos of it :-( im distraught but i think im seein slight improvement! Feel really up an down! My husband described me as unpredictable earlier! He is so right. Feel like im never gona feel normal again an if my marriage ends it will be all my fault! :-(

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Guest over a year ago

Hi, I wanted to find out how you're doing? It's been over a year since your post. I hope you're doing better.

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Guest over a year ago

Hi Iris,
Thank you so much for the words of encouragement. Best of luck to you!

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Guest over a year ago

Idk if your still on this site but I'm a guy going thru all this with my girl friend and idk what to do! It's a living hell

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Guest over a year ago

Hi! The best thing is to be supportive and understand what she is going through. I'm not sure her situation but, I went as a far as telling my boyfriend that I don't think I'm in love with him anymore and that I feel very different about my relationship. Although this probably hurts him terribly, he understands that I'm going through a tough time right now. I have my good and bad days and I'm sure she does as well. Just remember that this is not permanent and that everything should be back to normal in time. Just stick by her side and remind her that everything with be okay.

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Guest over a year ago

How long is this al going to take? Im so fed up with it! My poor husband has done nothing wrong so how can not takin a pill make me feel different about him? So unfair. I jus feel like iv lost my mojo and iv been off 9 months :-( im petrified il never feel any better than this!

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Guest over a year ago

It doesn't make sense how this all works. I didn't think that eliminating something from your body could make you feel so distant from our significant others. It's such a crazy feelings and very upsetting to think how happy you were before feeling like this. I don't know if it's the same for you but, I almost feel emotionally numb. I know I love my boyfriend but I feel like nothing towards him sometimes almost like he is a stranger and I'm like confused about what we had in the past. It's SO odd to explain but that's the best I can do. 9 months seems like way to long for anyone to have to go through this. For some, it can take up to a year but I know how hard it is to think that you will ever fall in love and be normal again!

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Iris358066 over a year ago

How long were you on the pill? Sometimes that can determine how long it will take for your hormones to balance back out. I was only on it for 3 months, had the nexplanon a month prior. And I'm almost 4 months off and still not completely normal but a lot better.

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Iris358066 over a year ago

Estrogen plays a major part in your mood and even affects your serotonin levels. That's why it's normal for women to be moodier around their periods and before because that's when estrogen drops. And during ovulation and even pregnancy you may feel happier because estrogen is at its highest. When you take birth control you are taking artificial estrogen and other sex hormones so your body stops producing its own. When you stop taking these hormones your body has to start reproducing its own hormones at the same rate it would naturally, before birth control. Your sex hormones would then be very low while your body is trying to catch up which can have a ton of physical and mental effects. It doesn't affect every woman that way but it is definitely real. My doctor told me that some women are more susceptible to these effects if they already had issues with depression and anxiety prior to starting birth control. I've even seen in birth control instruction packets to ask a doctor before taking it if you have a history of depression.

So these problems are very much so real and not in your head!!

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Iris358066 over a year ago

Also your mind knows just how to play tricks on you and when you're suffering from anxiety/depression you are prone to question your feelings about the people that you love or mean the most to you. For me it's my daughter, for some of you it's your spouses/significant others. Just know that if you didn't love them or didn't care, you wouldn't feel any distress over having these types of feelings. The fact that you all ARE concerned about feeling this way shows that you definitely care a lot.

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Guest over a year ago

I was on the pill for 8 years so quite a long time! 9 months off now so im hoping im over the worst! Still sucks tho! Wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy! My husband has bein goin through stuff an i havent been there for him cos im so wrapped up in my own turmoil! Def not wife of the year material :-(

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Guest over a year ago

I was only on the pill for 2 months but felt this way right when the birth control started to kick in and right from the start I knew that it was the cause! I've had a boyfriend for almost 3 years and have been so happy until I started to question my relationship. I've been off the pill for about 3 months and have gotten better but still have my bad days and moments where I feel emotionally numb. I describe it as feeling like I almost don't know what I want in life and I don't know who he is. It's super odd. Anyway, I have good days where I barely even think about it and then I have bad days where it's the only thing on my mind. I have other side effects like numbness in my legs and my period still isn't on the normal cycle it was on before the pill. Hoping to be better soon.

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Kay over a year ago

Hello everyone, I have literally read this entire forum and couldn't believe so many woman are going through/ have gone through the same situation I am currently facing . It's only been a little over a month since I stopped taking the Marlissa BCP and I feel so off. At first I couldn't figure out what was going on with me and I think that just added to the anxiety and sadness. I figured it might be a hormonal imbalance but since doctors are so quick to dismiss that I thought maybe I was just desperate for an explanation. I have an appointment in September with my OBGYN so I hope she is more understanding. As of late, I just keep reminding myself that this is just a hormonal imbalance but I hate waking up and wondering when this will all be over. I JUST WANNA FEEL LIKE MYSELF! My boyfriend and family are super supportive so I think this has helped me immensely, but it's just discouraging when those thoughts don't seem to fade. Since having stopped I have already had a withdrawal bleed I'm anxiously awaiting my next cycle to see how I feel both physically and mentally (and to see whether my cycle is on track or not). Just wanted to let you all know I'm on this journey with you! We will get through this! I think this is a great resource for those moments when we feel alone on this journey it has helped me a lot to know that I am not!

A little background info I took trinessa for one year and then marlissa for another year and a half. Any feedback would be greatly appreciated. I bought some supplements but have not started implementing them to my diet as of yet because after this episode I wanna be more aware of what I'm putting into my body. I did try the yogi women's energy tea the night before last and slept the best I had since having stopped the pill!

My current status: the anxiety is definitely not as bad as the first week I wake up a little anxious but I think that's just because I'm am unhappy with my current job, I am mostly just emotionally numb at this point.

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Iris358066 over a year ago

Hey everyone. Last little hurdle im trying to get over is insomnia. Lately I can fall asleep but when I wake up in the middle of the night I cannot go back to sleep. Currently sitting here with blood shot eyes because I've been sleep deprived for the last few weeks. I'll have days where I sleep fine, some days I wake up every 2 hours, others I'll wake up and not be able to go back until several hours later. Not to mention I have a baby to tend to who dictates when I wake up in the mornings (anywhere from 7-8am). Anyone else have this problem? Unisom and melatonin only works for me for so long.

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Guest over a year ago

Sorry to hear that. When this all first started I was afraid that I would suffer from this as well, It's a very common side effect of anxiety. From what I've read a lot of people say magnesium helps! I haven't tried it personally so I wouldn't be able to confirm or deny but definitely look into it. Also the yogi tea I mentioned in my post might help! It's something nice and warm you can have before bed while also helping your cycle reach it's norm!

Wishing you a speedy recovery,
Kay

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