getting married and concerned about virginity

Dear friend, virginity is not replacing things. But also it's not as important as u think. Marriage need faith and love for best future from the date of marriage. So past was not as important. What you doing in past it's just a accident, if you mentally prepared to start new beginning then forget that all and thing positive. And for husband satisfaction, if he ask, you may say that in past u lost your virginity when u doing aerobic or running or bicycling. And also u may tighten your vagina muscles when first time he tried intercourse and show more pain like aah..uhh..outch etc..then he will satisfied.

Past was not returnable so best way that you may looking forward and give lot of love to your upcoming husband.....it's a best medicine of all problem. 

 

 

If you and your future husband have not had sex yet I assume because of religious beliefs. "The Bride should be pure for her husband whom she will be with for the rest of her life" or something like that. Its fine if that's your or your husbands belief. However, you virginity is determined by weather your hymen has been broken or not. Not by the size of your vagina. The only time your vagina will change size is during your childhood and during child birth.

If your husband is expecting a virgin on your wedding night, then his exceptions are already out the window. You could lie to him but is that the kind of  relationship you want to have with him? I would suggest talking to him and find out what he expects. You can explain that you have had sex before with your previous boyfriend. If he does not accept that, than maybe you should rethink your marital plans.

Please understand that I am not trying to be cruel or mean by any sorts. I am going to leave it at that as I am at a loss for words right now. I don't really of anything else to say.

I hope this helps and you and your future husband are happy.

hi thanks for your kind wishes and suggestions.i really appreciate that

@singh i really hope your suggestion works out for me,but do u know anyone who has undergone a similar situation,i mean any friend who has experienced this or shared this with u,also keeping in mind that i hvnt had sex for three years now...so wont that make the vagina contract..do u know anything about that?

@rapidfire i belong to a society where i cannot get married if i tell this to my future husband,since i always thought that my bf and me will surely get married,so i gave him everything,but that was stupid of me,and after that i havent believed in love..but i have to get married,so that is not an option for me,if he can carry out his life without anyone knowing that what he did in the past then why dont i have that right? i have full right to move on and lead a respectable life and so it is not about starting with a lie,im hundred percent comitted to my future husband but i cannot change what was done

 

Don't beat your self up over something in your past. We all make mistakes that some of us regret and other don't. No one is saying you don't have the right to have secrets but your society my have a different opinion. The only other thing I can suggest is faking it but if he does ask you can say that it was broken during your childhood playing soccer.

Sorry I cant be of more help.