hii,i was in a relationship with a guy before 1 year almost for 3 year...unfortunately i was unlucky because he used to beat me,abused me and as such many activities,my life was not less than a hell.i told him that i want to break up even many time i told him these things.he blackmailed me and told me to spoiled my whole life ,due to fear i could not take any step.but one day i show the courage and call him to meet.again i told him my final decision ,he was at random ready and told me to come with him in a hotel for last time because he wanted to hug me last time,i said okay to him.then he took me in a room and he rapped me as he tore my clothes,beat me,and put his penis forcefully in my vagina ..it was bleeding a little bit.he captured a video of me to blackmail me for future,i was begging him to leave me on that day he put his penis into my vagina almost more than 10 tym i was faint almost.and then he left me there alone and nude.i came to my hostel after some hours when i came in my sense.and after that day he called me almost 4 or 5 time to his room and did sex forcefully,i only cried when he used to do dis and i had no feelings,if i refused he blackmail me that he will send a blue film of me to my home.i decide to kill myself but when i was trying to these one of my friend came to me and stopped me and i told her everything ,by courage we decide to tell all the things to my mom.i told her and she managed all the things in a peacefull manner and support me alot.she meet that bastard and warn him to return all the clips otherwise she will take a strict action.after that day my life has changed.i started to live my life once again after a huge depression and my mother support.my college has changed now,and dis time god send a person in my life to change my life.he cares me,he support me in each n every step.we are in love now,he never talked me beyond a hug and neither he ever try to touch me unneccessary ,cares for me like a child,he know that i had a past but he dont know what had happened with me.we are in job now and planning to marriage as his parents like me alot and they want to talk with my parents very soon,but i am tensed as being virgin is a main concern for him as i realize this when i talk to him,and one thing i know that our relation will be no more if i will tell him the truth.and i dont wanna to loose him at any cost.please dont suggest me to tell him everything.no ,no he will not accept me if i will do the same.will he come to know on our wedding nite that i am not virgin though i didnt sex after that incident and it is more than one year to that incident.please suggest me and help me out regarding this.and one thing more i want to know that by seeing vagina or by fingering one can identify that we are virgin or not?
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Hi Isha,
I understand that it is from religion beliefs that you cannot tell him that you were raped as to then you are admitting you had sex and in your religion that is enough for him to call the marriage off. I get it and it is too bad things are that bad for you, I'm truly sorry.
Now onto your question about if he can tell if you are a virgin or not?
A female can lose her virginity naturally just by playing sports, running, jogging, jumping on the trampoline, dancing (belly dancing), yoga, horseback riding, riding a bike, a fall, etc. Not all women bleed their first time either, I didn't.
How long has it been since you have sexual intercourse? Your vaginal walls can tighten up again after having sex especially if you have abstained from sex for 6 months or longer.
I hope this helps and answers some questions. good luck
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thanks a lot lizardqueen .i had not been intercouse since 1 year.as my present boyfriend never force me for this.can by merely seein vagina he would came to know that i am not virgin or by his fingering.and can you please tell me that if a girl had not sex for more than one year can she bleed once again when having sex for next time.
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thanks a lot lizardqueen .i had not been intercouse since 1 year.as my present boyfriend never force me for this.can by merely seein vagina he would came to know that i am not virgin or by his fingering.and can you please tell me that if a girl had not sex for more than one year can she bleed once again when having sex for next time.
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You may not necessarily bleed but it can be painful as your vaginal walls will have to stretch again, and from this you could bleed. There is no way your boyfriend/fiancee will be able to tell by looking that you have lost your virginity.
Be shy during sex on your wedding night and let him be the guide. Act like a virgin. Act like it hurts more than maybe it does.
Does this help?
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YA thanks i hope so it might work..can you tell me something regarding hymen operation?
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Unfortunately I know nothing of or about hymen repair except that it is a possibility.
Maybe post that as a new topic and get others opinions on that or experiences - worth a try. I'll stay away from it.
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thanks javed ..thanks a lot..i often thing that i will say these answer to him if he will asked such questions..but still something trouble me like i feel sometime that my vagina skin has been loosed somewhere..and so badly that bastard used me that it has became loose..and anyone can identify that m not virgin..i need an amount of information regarding all these..kindly help me..thankuuu so much
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thankuu so much javed for ur blessings..i hope ur words could get true..my would be is virgin ,but he is having full knowledge about the procedure and related to sex ,as because his friend circle and bacause of porn site,i know he use to watch them,thats why i am annoy as he is known with all the things and once we were talking on the phone and he told me that u know u will be bleed on our first wedding nite and i reacted very normaly as definately i will be bleed on first nite and i told him ya in first tym every girls bleed but in inside these questions were damaging me day by day..
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