Having sex for the first time, couldn't cum!

Hi. This is a little difficult for me to say but, it seems as though enough people have this same problem. I had sex with a girl last night for my first time. She's experienced and she could tell it was my first time. I have fingered her twice and she has given me oral for as many times before we had sex. I have no problem getting an erection with her but I cannot climax. Last night we had sex with a condom for maybe 30 min and she climaxed but I did not. Later on, she wanted to have unprotected sex, and we did. Again, 20-30 min go by, she climaxes and I do not. It is gratifying to know I'm not the only one with this issue. What can I do to fix this?  

i had the same problem i just had sex with my gf , first time for both of us. for her it felt awsome but for me it was like not what i 

i have this problem too any help would be great :)

i had sex with my new boyfriend for the 1st time, it he went about 45 min but started hurting me so i made him stop. weve now had sex 3 times and he still hasnt gone. ive asked if it was me or something i could do to help. he always says no. so now i wonder if hes been sleeping with someone else? i thought if guys havent had sex in awhile they should go pretty quick? am i just being a crazy female?

I had the same problem. Was allergic to the spermicidal lubricant. Also N-9 is known to increase your risk of aids and is not proven to decrease the risk of pregnancy. Get just normally lubricated condoms.

I met with my wife on the bed first time she told me that she is in periods so we make first wild sex after seven days of our marraige. it was very depressive for my wife and we used ROSE PETAL in a very horrible bleeding p***y:)

 

 

Do you masturbate often? If so, you should quit it if you want to regain sensitivity. Masturbation causes PE for some and it desensitizes the penis for others. Plus, it causes a number of brain issues when you are constantly masturbating with causes fatigue and issues with memory. You also lose Zinc doing it and you can get prostate cancer from it (contrary to popular belief). Look it up! It's no secret. You can even feel some of the symptoms yourself after you masturbate. Get rid of masturbation and your sex life will be even better. :)

 

It suck i couldnt feel sh*t my first time and we f**k for 2 hours bro dont wish fa dat

No worries brah, it has to do with blood distribution and sensory input, not to mention expectations. The point is you are NOT relaxed, its a big deal and your body and mind are freaking out. First time with any girl, for me, causes me not to get 100% hard and most of the time unable to cum. After knowing the person and feeling comfortable then its on. Also condom sizes are weird, it might help to buy a couple sizes and "try it out" first to find which one is most comfortable. I've only used a condom twice... first time was MY first time and I couldn't cum until it broke then 20 seconds I came (I didn't know it until I was done). The difference was between having a glove on trying to pick up something small and bear hand, you can't compare the two. Second time I used a condom was doing "sexual therapy" for my girlfriend on a period. Yes I'm a dedicated lover and have my red wings, lol.

Hey guys!Had the same problem...if it can be named a problem!

Me and my girl decided to have sex and we were talking about it but we havent got a place where we can do it.

Ou yes...I am 21 years old(Maybe you will say I am little old for my first time but I am not shamed of it).

So when an oprotunity was made,me and her decided to do it.We knew that my parents will not be home at one weekend and planed our action to happen that day.We knew we would have sex like a week earlier.

Beacuse it was my first time(not hers first thou)I was little scared that I might come too quickly,so I decidet so masturbate something like 4 hours before she come.

I did my thing and when she came we started touching and kissing and we got to the point where we need to do the thing.

My penis got erected and after putting a condom we started!But I was not able to cum.Like even after 2-3 hours not constantly having sex,she cumed 3 times and I was not close to cuming even once.

Cause It was my first time I am little bit nervouse and scared If I may cumed but did not feel it?(I am pretty sure I did not)

Can someone help me?

Thank you very much!

Thats exactly how i felt! Ecept in my case we banged later that night and in the morning and i couldnt get off

You didnt cum because someone was looking out for you. By you not whering protection you also had the fear of getting her pregnant. Which stopped everything, and maybe the fact that you probably had cum'd that day or the prior day.

Had sex for the first time a few nights ago, she gave me a blowjob and I cum then about a minute after we had sex, I expected to not last long yet I couldn't cum, after about 10mins still nothing, I didn't use a condom cause she's on the pill and doesn't like condoms but I was wondering if it's me or the fact I cum just before we had sex?

The same exact thing happened to me bro, don't sweat it, have more sec and you will adjust accordingly. I was scared when this happened to me, the girl didn't believe me when I told her I was a virgin because we had sex for over an hour! Don't sweat it to much bro, it makes you look like a stallion lol. Congrats on the newly found sex life and keep at it til you get it right

Hi Papsmurf:

Condoms reduce sensation. Try another method of birth control.