i`ve had sex the first time this summer and again monday and today this week with the same girl. i can get an erection and all that and i can have sex with her for about 1 hour and then my erection kinda goes away. i then have to do other stuff like make her give me a ha****b or watch some porn or snth to come and it takes a lot of concentration and time. also when i come its like i havent come for ages. it may be because i`m so nervous about getting her pregnant .. or i dunno. any ideas ?
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i can feel what u re facing. the first time i had sex with my girl friend, i didnt come at all. we had sex for like 4hours and nothing happened. i was really concerned and worried but she never bothered. i told her i was going to see my GP, which she agreed. then i decided to change my approach with her.
coming is all about concentration. i tried to think about her. i tried to imagine her on top of me. tried to imagine her body on me. you try to create a romantic environment, engage in a fore play before penetration. this will increase your sexual arousal.
you could also try reading romantic novels. with this, your libido will increase. reading romantic novels makes you wanna have sex in a romantic way and the way the sex actions are described, makes you think about sex every time. when you think about sex every time, trust me, your sex libido will be high.
so also, vegetables and fruits could help also. kiwi is a good source of aphrodisiac, that is sex food. it increases your arousal. eats vegetables and fruits. i also heard and read that eating fruits and vegetables also makes your come taste nice, if she's a kind that likes tasting your come.
to summarise everything, read romantic novels. the reason why i said novels is course pornography lacks description unlike novels where every action is described. this is what turns you on. communication during foreplay and sex also helps a lot. tell her what you'd like her to do to you; what really turns you on. when she's on her way coming to your place, think about the nice time you guys are going to have. the activities you guys will indulge in. this keeps you aroused. also increase the amount of foreplay.
trust me, with this man, you will not last long. though sometimes you might last forever cos you re thinking of something else, like u said, pregnancy. you need to be comfortable and dont think during sex. make your body and soul to be involved in the love making. she is your girl friend. to be sure of not thinking about pregnancy, always use PROTECTION. that is the key man.
good luck
coming is all about concentration. i tried to think about her. i tried to imagine her on top of me. tried to imagine her body on me. you try to create a romantic environment, engage in a fore play before penetration. this will increase your sexual arousal.
you could also try reading romantic novels. with this, your libido will increase. reading romantic novels makes you wanna have sex in a romantic way and the way the sex actions are described, makes you think about sex every time. when you think about sex every time, trust me, your sex libido will be high.
so also, vegetables and fruits could help also. kiwi is a good source of aphrodisiac, that is sex food. it increases your arousal. eats vegetables and fruits. i also heard and read that eating fruits and vegetables also makes your come taste nice, if she's a kind that likes tasting your come.
to summarise everything, read romantic novels. the reason why i said novels is course pornography lacks description unlike novels where every action is described. this is what turns you on. communication during foreplay and sex also helps a lot. tell her what you'd like her to do to you; what really turns you on. when she's on her way coming to your place, think about the nice time you guys are going to have. the activities you guys will indulge in. this keeps you aroused. also increase the amount of foreplay.
trust me, with this man, you will not last long. though sometimes you might last forever cos you re thinking of something else, like u said, pregnancy. you need to be comfortable and dont think during sex. make your body and soul to be involved in the love making. she is your girl friend. to be sure of not thinking about pregnancy, always use PROTECTION. that is the key man.
good luck
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Quick questions:
1. How old are you?
2. Are you using a condom?
I predict most of it is nerves. If everything works ok when you masturbate - and you are getting an erection with her I think not being able to have an orgasm is about this being something now and maybe even too exciting.
1. How old are you?
2. Are you using a condom?
I predict most of it is nerves. If everything works ok when you masturbate - and you are getting an erection with her I think not being able to have an orgasm is about this being something now and maybe even too exciting.
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i`m 18 and i am using a condom. also first times i used a condom didnt work very well. it kept going a bit off and i had to pull out and get it back on. (it didnt go off completely. only a bit. the tip of it was loose a bit. and yes i took the air out) and i also put my finger at the base of it underneath the condom and tried to pull it down further. i was scared then that maybe precum escaped through there ? yesterday i used a thinner condom and it worked almost perfect. also could precum escape from the base ? i didnt cum in my condom. also me penis had precum on it when i put the condom :-P could that have gotten on the condom itself ? i know i`m dumb for thinking about all this c**p but yeah ... with time i`ll get more exp :-P. now some help from you guys would be great.
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if you think the condom that u are using is too large for you, you could get a medium size. this will reduce the risk of slipping condom.
so also about precum on ur condom b4 penetration, i will advise you to wear your condom before ur foreplay, except she wants to give you a blow job.
please becareful when wearing your condom. if not sure, you could put on the light in order to differentiate between the interior and the exterior of the condom. indeed, your girl might be liable to become pregnant if your pre cum touches the exterior of your condom. this is the reason why you need clear vision while wearing your condom. this is not compulsory when she doesn't give you a blow or hand job. as for me, before any foreplay, to be on a safer side, i put on my condom. this is cos my girl doesnt enjoy oral sex, so we dont participate in that. but if she does one day give me oral sex, before putting on my condom, i will ensure the light is on, so that i will be able to differentiate between the exterior and the interior of the condom.
so also about precum on ur condom b4 penetration, i will advise you to wear your condom before ur foreplay, except she wants to give you a blow job.
please becareful when wearing your condom. if not sure, you could put on the light in order to differentiate between the interior and the exterior of the condom. indeed, your girl might be liable to become pregnant if your pre cum touches the exterior of your condom. this is the reason why you need clear vision while wearing your condom. this is not compulsory when she doesn't give you a blow or hand job. as for me, before any foreplay, to be on a safer side, i put on my condom. this is cos my girl doesnt enjoy oral sex, so we dont participate in that. but if she does one day give me oral sex, before putting on my condom, i will ensure the light is on, so that i will be able to differentiate between the exterior and the interior of the condom.
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so here`s an update. had sex last night again and i used a thinner condom. had more pleasure and i also think i came easier and without watching porn. i still had to masturbate and kiss and talk "dirty" for about 10-15 mins before being able to do it.
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