I need help and info for my first time having sex

Guest over a year ago

Hello, im 16 years old and me and my girlfriend (who is 15) want to have sex, she is not on the pill, nor has she ever been but she is not a virgin and i am. i have a couple questions i was hoping you could answer here they are

Q.1 How long will it take for the pill to become effective against pregnantcy?

Q.2 How much do they cost for the pill and condoms and also where could we buy them without being judged were kinda shy about this

Q.3 For our first time together, is there a specific possition we should do? what would be the most pleasurable for us?

Q.4 Also my penis is 6 inches in length and 4.75 inches in girth is this a good size? will it be pleasurable for her? and what is a possition optimized for my penis size?

Thanks for all your help!

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medic-dan109453 over a year ago

Well, the first thing you should do is find out if it is legal. In many areas having sex with someone under 16 is a felony.

1. It depends on the pill, most want you to be on them for at least a week. She should ask her doctor.

2. They are prescription. She needs to see a doctor to get on the pill as there are some risks with them. Costs vary.

3. Just do what you feel most comfortable with. Don't try to get fancy, it won't be like on tv. It is usually pretty awkward the first time.

4. You're bigger than average (5 - 5 1/2"). Go easy with her, be gentle. Use some additional lubrication. She will probably be sore.

The smartest thing you can do is to use a condom. It will not only protect against pregnancy but it will also protect against any STD's. Seriously, you can't tell by looking. Her other partner may have had SOMETHING and YOU don't want to catch it.

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Guest over a year ago

Thank you for your advice :) much apretiated
about asking her doctor, we dont really want her mom to know ( please dont judge, we are comited and been dating for 6 months now, but her mom is anti sex before merage)

and about positions the thing is i dont know what would be comfertable? i never had sex as i stated, what do you think would be our best to try? i am a bit nervous since it is my first time and i want it to be perfect :)

And about condoms will i have to buy sertain condom for my size and if so what would i be medium? ( or how ever the sizes work)

once again thanks a ton for you contibutiation :)

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Guest over a year ago

medic-dan wrote:

Thank you :) i was going to wear a condom as well as her being on the pill just for extra protection, especially at our age we do not need a child we are to young for that

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medic-dan109453 over a year ago

Hi guest,

The problem with getting the pill is she needs to see her doctor. It is a prescription drug. For that she most likely needs her parents permission to treat her, in most places.

Sizing is different on condoms. Buy some and try them ahead of time, not the day of. See what fits. Latex condoms are common but some people have allergies to them.

For the position, again, whatever works for both of you. Talk to her about what she wants to do. Really.

Another thing, not to sound negative but you may be setting yourself up for problems. Most likely it won't be perfect. If you get frustrated or nervous, you'll lose your erection. Then what? You'll get even more nervous and won't be able to get it up. It's very common, first time, for a guy to lose it.

So, just go along with whatever happens. Expect things to be a bit awkward, it's your first time, and you won't be as stressed. Make sure you are somewhere where you have privacy and won't have to worry about being "caught." If things aren't working right, take a break by exploring each other or just cuddling. There is much more to sex than intercourse. Be gentle, communicate back and forth, and don't rush.

Always use a new condom if you go at it again. Always wear that condom, no contact whatsoever without! When taking off the condom, hold the base as you pull out so it doesn't come off in her. Wash your hands after handling the condom if you decide to finger her, etc. Watch out for precum, that's why you always wear the condom.

Even though she is not a virgin there may be some blood.

Anything else?

I wish I told my son all of this.

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Guest over a year ago

Dan,

thanks so much you been a tremedus help we have been talking about it shes going to get her pills hopefully next weekend shes talking to her sister first then she will talk to her mom but she wants to gain confendence first before her mom. and we also worked it out so that we are alone im going to have my house to our slefs and ill try differnt condoms as soon as i can, but what should it fit like, i know that may sound stupid, sorry but better be safe i think, sould it be fairly tight? and aso does it have to be all the way unrolled? and also should i turn on music? try yo help the mood and i also was woundering about lights? i know i should ask her about it but you may no what would be a better idea. and if she bleeds that is normal, right? do we have to do anything if she does?

and is there a way to make sure i dont pre mature ejaculate? and i knonw forplay is good but what exactly does this consist of? fingering, making out, eating her out? im not to sure sorry for the amount of questions i have

once again thanks a ton and im sure your son would like to know this info its very helpfull but i can see if hes nervous or embarresed to ask you, but thanks allot i am very thankful, i imagin that you are a amazing and understanding dad :)

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medic-dan109453 over a year ago

Just be aware, if she starts taking birth control pills, they are NOT effective for at least a week. You need to use that condom!

For the condom, it should be comfortable on you. If you do get the "reservoir tip" ones, make sure you get the air out of it. This is why you need to practice beforehand. Trying to put the condom on the first time, when you need it, can be a bit frustrating. Do you know how to put one on?

Music, great idea. Keep it soft, as a background. Lighting, dim, not so dark you can't see what you're looking at. If she does bleed, just be prepared. You'll have to clean the sheets later, right? Have a towel or something available, don't make it obvious.

Some guys say to masturbate beforehand so they last longer. You can try that if you want but remember that you will lose some feeling with a condom. You'll just have to try it to find out which way is best. If you can last a while masturbating alone then I'd try not masturbating beforehand so that you are more likely to be able to ejaculate (in case you get nervous).

Foreplay is anything and everything that you can think of before you actually enter her. She should be very moist before you try to enter, it's how your body gets ready and lubricates itself. You'll probably notice some precum. Take your time. She may not want you to do something too, talk to her. Ask her what she wants you to do. Tell her what feels nice on you. Communication is the key.

Thanks for the compliment.

Basically, this is between you and your girl. I can't tell you how to do it, you'll figure it out. Just remember to RELAX. It's the best tip I can give you.

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Guest over a year ago

Thank you so much! you being an amazing help and very noligable i cant thank you enough! i already knew she had to take the pill at least a week before hand she getting hopefully sometime this week or by latest the week end and we planed on doing it in 2 weeks since ill have the house to my self for the weekend but thanks a ton for everything and i have calmed down a bit thanks to you so im really fealing ready :) we are both looking forward to this night :)

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Guest over a year ago

Other than pain, what is the feeling I will have when the penis enter my vagina for the first time? I would like to get ready for my first time.

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