Hemorrhoidectomy - not that bad Story (So Far)

Hello everyone. I’ve been reading this site for weeks, got lot of information good and bad info, and thought I would give back my feedback after my surgery. Some of the horror stories scared me, and I seriously thought about cancelling my surgery lot of times, but ended up going through with it. Hopefully my story will encourage some of you. For more record, I’m 5 days post-op. I'm 26 years old female living and working in South Korea, 54 kg 1m70 in good health except having external hemorrhoid for last 10 years caused by constipation but was so small and didn't hurt so i never though about having any surgery ... until 3 weeks ago where my parents came to visit me and had to go with them around and had lot of stress and was too tired, so one day i woke up and felt like something big is bothering me down there, took a look and was shocked to find large big external hem, i was so scared that i called my bf to take me to Emergency right away, but they told me that they have nothing to do about it and that i need to see specialist, so next day morning i went to see surgeon and right away after taking look and without hesitation he told me that i had to have surgery asap and made me do all tests and analysis right away, Well after that i though about going to bigger hospital with good surgeons and find someone that i could trust, believe me it's all about trust ...FIND YOURSELF A GOOD DOCTOR. Anyway i found that doctor and had appointment for my surgery on 7th October in one of the biggest hospital in Seoul, my assurance could cover 50% of the cost which was not bad. Doctor describe some med for me Stool softer and some others, which helped me and made my stool soft for a week before surgery. I had my parents leave because as they cant speak a language i though that staying here will not help me that much, of course my mom tried to convince me so she can stay but i made her leave.. at least they trusted my bf and they knew that he will take care of me (without him this experience would be worse) . 6th October 2013 was admitted to the hospital one night before my surgery as they need to check on me and explain everything before, and of course have enema to empty my stomach. The nurses was so nice that they made me so comfortable and relax for the next day, they checked on me every two hours, to see if i have fever or high or low blood pressure. i had dinner around 7pm and they asked me to stop eating or drinking anything after 12. 7th October 6am i had another enema to make sure that i had nothing left in my stomach, my surgery was scheduled for 9:30 am, around that time they came made me change to surgery dress lol and took me to the surgery room, doctor assistant came again and explain all details and anesthesia (spinal) and i signed some papers then went in, doctor anesthetist came and i asked him to make me sleep as i would freak out if i hear anything during surgery time. They were very professional. One moment I’m lying in a bed with an IV in my hand, the next moment I wake up and though that i never fall sleep, took a look and nurse looked at me saying that we are taking you now to recovery room ... i felt nothing and was feeling good and imagine i even asked nurse to take picture of me kkk and sent it to my bf who waited outside. 30 min later i was back to my room and was asked to lay down for at least 4 hours until anesthesia effect goes away, after 2 hours i asked nurse to inject pain killers as i was afraid to feel pain after anesthesia effect was gone, and as expected i felt nothing. during that 4 hours they checked om me often asking if i felt like peeing, and gave me something where to pee, but actually i couldn't do it laying down so asked them if i could go toilet and they said no because they worried as i may feel dizzy, but i asked my bf and he helped me going and had no problem urinating. i had good sleep that night but woke up around 5 am feeling pain then asked for more pain killers and fall sleep again. 8th October 2013 I woke up and started my recovery. Still foggy headed, but no pain, felt something swelling in there and as i heard from lot of ppl in here its normal so i didn't worry too much but still asked doctor when she came and said that's swelling and it's will be gone in one or 2 weeks. had some gas that day and with the water i drank had to pee lot. Went to bed feeling pretty good, no pain yet. Normally i had to be discharged today morning but i asked doctor to stay another night as i was afraid to to have BM home. but unfortunately i couldn't have any bowel movement and had to be discharged next day morning. Frankly speaking i was more relax with nurses and doctors around in case something happen, after reading all horrors stories. 9th October 2013 my bf came early morning and helped me with the discharge papers and all that. Nurse came and explain what i had to do (taking sitzh bath 3 to 4 times a day, eating normal with some fiber, take some walk as i could) then had my appointment for next week Wednesday 16th for following up. i was feeling so good that i though that if i keep healing that way i may be going back to work by next week. anyway back home kept my sitzh bath schedule and medicine, because if i will give advice its will be TAKE YOUR MED ON TIME, even if the pain killer had to constipate me i though its better than the pain i had to go through.Just have your med on time and drink lot of water and juice. The only problem until now is my first BM ... until now no sign of it, From reading the stories here, I was prepared for the most painful experience of my life. 10th October 2013 Woke up after deep night sleep except that i have to wake up every day morning around 5 am to have one pain killer as i have last one for diner around 8pm so am trying now to have them late at night so could not wake up that early everyday. i had lunch and was determined to get that first bowel movement out of the way. Sat down, breathed deeply, and tried to relax .. nothing ... than tried even in sitzh bath after 10 min of trying i felt that is coming, you cant imagine how painful was that .. but the problem is that i still couldn't get it out, i was afraid to push too much, so i just gave up and took shower . When I start to feel bad is when I have feces at the end of the rectum, ready to get out. After that i felt weird down there cleaned up with some gauze took a look and found some blood i think after trying hard i had some scratches ((( i tried not to stress up as everyone here had some blood and said it's normal. Went back to my bed had movie on and tried to fall sleep as i felt some burning, hoping for better result tomorrow. 11th October 2013 Which it's today, i woke up this morning had breakfast made by my bf :) and felt the urge ... Made my way to the bathroom, tried but still nothing, i took a look and found just blood out there (((( had bath and had my gauze in, called hospital told them about the situation but all what they suggasted is to take some more stool softer and magnesium. After lunch my bf proposed to go out have a walk maybe it's will help me, so i had two spoon of magnesium (Osmosine) and went out to take a walk and even had one cigarette :), am back home laying on my bed writing all that and waiting for something to happen ... Everything was good up to now, hope i will have that first BM ... anyone have any suggestion ? i still have blood in the gauze from yesterday ... if anyone had same situation plz give me some advice, and is it normal not to have BM by now? I’ll be home all week, so if you have any questions I’ll be happy to try and answer them. Thanks again to all of you who have posted your experiences. Reading these stories helped me prepare for the worst and hope for the best.