how do i recover from continued sexual assault???

I know it is very scary to think about telling your family but i truly believe you should, may i ask if this has ever happened from a family member?  Either way i truly believe you need to tell your parents and if you really feel very strongly that you cannot at please go to your Dr's and talk to them about it they will forward you to the right person, you need to get this out and talk about it it is the only way to begin to heal, i wish you the best of luck.

thankyou diamondera, and no, no family member was ever involved unless you count step dads but i personally dont. i am really hesitant to tell me family because i know they would also blame my mum but i think i may have to. anyway, thankyou.

Try writing it down on paper like you are writing a note to the people who have hurt you. Keep it in a safe place. When ready to discuss it try your family dr or a close girlfriend as well. Don't keep it in. The times where you say "going away". That is a way of protecting yourself from thinking/reliving the experience(s). One thing to try is breath through a straw, if you have ice cubes around hold onto one for a few seconds, gently tap your fingers on the side of your hand. The "going away" is termed in most cases as dissociative thinking. If it is not looked at or talked to with a dr therapist it can sometimes lead to harmful behaviour. Do you feel like you loose track of time? Remember that whomever you tell you are not responsible for other peoples feelings. It is all a matter as how the choose to handle the information. Some people might seem as tho they have lost trust/faith. Others will be totally supportive like your boyfriend. It seems very much like he hasn't judged you. Hold on to that thaught.

Kimberly9 wrote:

1217ema1217 wrote:

ii am 15 and i have been sexualy assaulted alot in my life. i have never told my family, only my boyfriend and i have tried to refuse the fact that it has had any effect on my life. i am now terrified to be alone with any stranger thats a man, even on the bus, and nervous around those i know, i have anxiety and slip into periodds of time that my boyfriend describes as "me going away" during these time (up to 3 months) i constantly feel numb and disconnected. i read almost 2 books a day, staying up during the night afraid of sleep and if i do not have a books i get antsy and freak out a bit. i was just wondering if anybody knew other methods to recover from the efects that continued abuse has brought on. please, i just want to get over being afraid without telling my family, i know it would hurt them to know that they couldnt protect me. help me please.

Try writing it down on paper like you are writing a note to the people who have hurt you. Keep it in a safe place. When ready to discuss it try your family dr or a close girlfriend as well. Don't keep it in. The times where you say "going away". That is a way of protecting yourself from thinking/reliving the experience(s). One thing to try is breath through a straw, if you have ice cubes around hold onto one for a few seconds, gently tap your fingers on the side of your hand. The "going away" is termed in most cases as dissociative thinking. If it is not looked at or talked to with a dr therapist it can sometimes lead to harmful behaviour. Do you feel like you loose track of time? Remember that whomever you tell you are not responsible for other peoples feelings. It is all a matter as how the choose to handle the information. Some people might seem as tho they have lost trust/faith. Others will be totally supportive like your boyfriend. It seems very much like he hasn't judged you. Hold on to that thaught.

kimberly 9 thankyou so much, this is actually really really appritiated and sooo helpfull. and yess time seems to just dissapear, to the point where i now compulsivly check the time every few miniutes! thankyou for the suggestions, ill try them. thankyou, this has been great advice for distracting myself. :)

You need to tell your parents. One day they will find out and be terribly hurt you did not confide in them. Plus the abuser needs to be prosecuted. If not abusing you there may be some other young girl he will focus on. You need professional help also.