Has anyone else got this discomfort? And is circumcision a wise idea even tho I can pull it back all the way?
It's a shame that your single parent couldn't have taught you more about your genitals or what to do or expect.
However, it's great that you sought out a doctor. I'm sorry to hear that he was rough on you, but his professional option matters a lot.
If you're weighing options to be cut or not, there are other alternatives... including continued stretching to loosen up the foreskin.
Or, have you considered a "dorsal slit"? This allows for extra room to retract the foresking, but doesn't eliminate the ability for it to slide back in place.
Again, a doctor's inspection and recommendation is best in this matter.
If your doctor didn't advise you on this, or won't consider it, try another doctor after doing some research to find out who will discuss it.
Good luck, and let us know how this comes out, OK? ;-)
It sounds like you are misinformed about how the foreskin is supposed to work during intercourse. Maybe because you have been watching porn and mistakenly thinking it is a medical instruction video.
When you insert the penis to it's full depth in the vagina your foreskin should be all the way back so the head is fully exposed inside the vagina. As you pull outward the head is supposed to slide back inside the foreskin. So as you thrust in and out it is sliding in and out of the foreskin. This prevents irritation to the walls of the vagina which can happen when the bare head is rubbed against it. Your partner gets the sensation of the head going in and out without the accompanying discomfort/pain of being rubbed raw and you get the feeling of the bare head entering the soft cavity where it belongs without getting rubbed raw on the vaginal walls.
The wonderful thing about our sex organs is they still work, even if we do mutilate them to satisfy religious customs or sadistic tribal rites or if they are just plain malformed.
Your loose foreskin sounds normal and healthy. The vaginal wall is supposed to hold the foreskin. The foreskin reduces friction and allows better sex for both male and female.
Adult circumcision is an elective surgical operation to injure the penis and reduce its size and sensation by cutting off the nerve-laden sexually sensitive foreskin. Adult circumcision is usually performed with a general anesthetic however local anesthetic may be used. Like all surgical operations, it has risks of hemorrhage, infection, and surgical mishap. Loss of the penis has been known to occur. Death has been known to occur.
The foreskin is a complex double-layered structure composed of smooth muscle fiber, skin, mucosa, nerves, arteries, and veins. It is natural, normal, healthy, and its possession contributes to a sense of well-being. The foreskin has protective, sensory, sexual, and immunological functions. It is loaded with nerves and is the site of most of the penile sensation. The foreskin is a “specific erogenous zone.” The foreskin is essential for normal intercourse. Foreskin provides the additional skin needed to allow for penile expansion during erection. Amputation of the foreskin, which is an integral and important part of the penis has very significant adverse sexual and emotional effects.
Nature put the foreskin there to provide at least thirteen functions:
1. to cover and bond with the synechia so as to permit the development of the mucosal surface of the glans and inner foreskin.
2. to protect the infant's glans from feces and ammonia in diapers.
3. To protect against disease causing pathogens.
4. to protect the glans penis from friction and abrasion throughout life.
5. to keep the glans moisturized and soft with emollient oils.
6. to lubricate the glans.
7. to coat the glans with a waxy protective substance.
8. to provide sufficient skin to cover an erection by unfolding.
9. to provide an aid to masturbation and foreplay.
10. to serve as an aid to penetration.
11. to reduce friction and chafing during intercourse.
12. to serve as erogenous tissue because of its rich supply of erogenous receptors.
13. to contact and stimulate the G-spot of the female partner.
It is normal to keep the foreskin forward over the head for protection.
Circumcision is an injurious, damaging, destructive, and harmful surgical operation that cuts through nerves and blood vessels that feed blood to the penis. The operation is irreversible. You will have the rest of your life to mourn your loss of your erogenous foreskin.
The foreskin is filled with nerves that make it the most sensitive part of the human body, therefore, cutting into it is very painful.
It takes about six weeks to recover from an adult circumcision. But you will never fully regain the lost protection, sexual function, sensation, and sexual pleasure, even if you restore your foreskin.
The cost is about $2,500. Circumcision may be carried out under local or general anaesthesia.
If you should become interested in restoring your foreskin, a search on the Internet for “foreskin restoration” will produce lots of information.