During sex the foreskin sort of rucks up over the head of his penis and gets in the way, I imagine deadening sensation for him. He can pull it back but during thrusting it rucks up again. This disrupts the flow of sex and is a source of annoyance to both of us (mostly him). It is all such an effort. I also feel there is a hygiene issue here, although he showers every day, although I would not know how to tell him about this. It puts me off giving him oral sex, which is a shame for both of us.
I know a full circumcision would sort this problem out, but obviously this is a big issue for a man and would change the way he uses and feels about his penis. I understand how he might be reluctant to chose to do this. However, is there any kind of "trim" he might be able to have, which might still enable him to have a full foreskin yet not allow it to get in the way?
Our sex life has dwindled to zero and it is beginning to have a detrimental effect on our relationship. I would be very supportive of him if he took this step, but once I suggested it and he became very defensive. I don't understand why he doesn't consider taking a step which would improve our sex life and therefore his confidence (not to mention our relationship). Help!
Normally the foreskin goes back when the man enters the woman. It then moves back and forth.
The foreskin is where the nerves are. It does not stop a man from feeling anything. Men can perfectly well have sex with the foreskin covering the head. Many men that have non-retractable foreskins get married, have intercourse, father children and live their entire lives with a non-retractable foreskin.
I do not think that the foreskin is the real problem. I think you need to look elsewhere.
My husband has a long foreskin as well. When he has an erection his foreskin extends about an inch or so beyond the head of his penis. The foreskin does retract very easily and exposes the head of his penis fully. He is vey clean and when he urinates he pulls the foreskin back off the head of his penis and actually takes toilet paper to make sure his penis is dry before allowing the foreskin to roll back over the head of his penis. Some men just have a lot of excess foreskin on their penis as well as excess scrotum skin. As long as he maintains good hygiene things can work. next time you have intercourse reach down and slide the foreskin back and hold it towards the base of his penis as he thrusts in and out of you vagina this will keep the foreskin back and you will feel him in your vagina a little more than normal give it a try you may see the difference.
My husbands foreskin actually extends a full 2 1/2 inches beyond the head of his penis when he has a full erection!!! When he urinates he does pull his foreskin all the way back off the head of his penis and uses tissue paper to dry his penis after he urinates. This is a good thing. He is very hygienic and clean. When we have intercourse in the missionary position I reach down and pull the foreskin back and hold it at the base of his penis fully exposing the head of his penis as he thrusts in and out of my vagina. It feels better to me as I can feel the head of his penis in my vagina much more this way without the foreskin over his penis head. He also has a very abundant and lose scrotum sack making his testicles hang ..this must be a hereditary thing. We discussed circumcision and he does not want to lose his foreskin so as a dutiful partner in our marriage I do hold the foreskin back ...the down side to this is he then ejaculates in two minutes due to the sensitivity of his penis....I am lost and don't know what else to do as I enjoy intercourse very much. I am somewhat frustrated to.I think as a married woman I just have to learn to accept and deal with this.
.Wow! I can only hope and wish to meet date and partner up with a man who has several excess inches of foreskin when hard! it is too bad that I, a person who knows instinctively how to appreciate and love the person who has this is mocked by you women here? it is such a huge turn on for me and it is truly a major shame how the wrong persons end up together. That is why sex before marriage is a good thing! There are so many variations especially orally you could learn to accommodate your man you claim to love? Wow! I am envious! Imagine if you women were circumcised like in some African countries? Exactly! Poor men you have roped into marriage with ! I would be more compromising and adapt but you people b***h about it.Perhaps you look elsewhere and they will find someone such as me to love and appreciate them and their blessed long hooded penises!
You say your husband's foreskin "rucks up over the head of his penis." Perhaps his frenulum is preventing complete retraction. If that is the problem, then he can stretch his frenulum or have a very minor operation to cut it.
Search the Internet for:
“How to Fix Phimosis and Tight Foreskins, Solutions That Work”
and you will find the information you need.
There also is a minor operation to relieve the frenulum, called frenuloplasty and another called frenectomy. One of these might be necessary, if the stretching does not work. Urologists do this.
You really do not realize how bad a circumcision is.
Adult circumcision is an irreversible, elective surgical operation to injure the penis and reduce its size and sensation by cutting off the nerve-laden sexually sensitive, erogenous foreskin. Once it is removed you cannot get it back. There is no turning back.
Adult circumcision is usually performed with a general anesthetic however local anesthetic may be used. Like all surgical operations, it has risks of hemorrhage, infection, and surgical mishap. Loss of the penis has been known to occur. Death has been known to occur.
The appearance of the penis is changed. A scar is a permanent effect of circumcision.
The cost is about $2,500-$3,000 in the United States. Circumcision may be carried out under local or general anaesthesia. It is common to use dissolving sutures for the circumcision wound.
Male circumcision is a very destructive, injurious, and harmful amputation of valuable penile tissue. Masturbation will be much more difficult and less pleasurable. Circumcision should be avoided whenever possible.
The foreskin is a complex double-layered structure composed of smooth muscle fiber, skin, mucosa, nerves, arteries, and veins. It is natural, normal, healthy, and its possession contributes to a sense of well-being. The foreskin has protective, sensory, sexual, and immunological functions. It is loaded with nerves and is the site of most of the penile sensation. The foreskin is a “specific erogenous zone.” The foreskin is essential for normal intercourse. Foreskin provides the additional skin needed to allow for penile expansion during erection. Amputation of the foreskin, which is an integral and important part of the penis has very significant adverse sexual and emotional effects.
Nature put the foreskin there to provide at least fourteen functions:
1. to cover and bond with the synechia so as to permit the development of the mucosal surface of the glans and inner foreskin.
2. to protect the infant's glans from feces and ammonia in diapers.
3. To protect against disease causing pathogens.
4. to protect the glans penis from friction and abrasion throughout life.
5. to keep the glans moisturized and soft with emollient oils.
6. to lubricate the glans.
7. to coat the glans with a waxy protective substance.
8. to provide sufficient skin to cover an erection by unfolding.
9. to provide an aid to masturbation and foreplay.
10. to serve as an aid to penetration.
11. to reduce friction and chafing during intercourse.
12. to serve as erogenous tissue because of its rich supply of erogenous receptors.
13. to contact and stimulate the G-spot of the female partner.
14. to produce pheromones to excite the female sexual partner.
It is normal to keep the foreskin forward over the head for protection. After the foreskin is amputated by circumcision, the head will be fully exposed and may be very painful.
Circumcision is an injurious, damaging, destructive, and harmful surgical operation that cuts through nerves and blood vessels that feed blood to the penis. The operation is irreversible. You will have the rest of your life to mourn your loss of your erogenous foreskin.
The foreskin is filled with nerves that make it the most sensitive part of the human body, therefore, cutting into it is very painful.
It takes about six weeks to recover from an adult circumcision. One should avoid getting erections masturbation and sexual activity during recovery. Oral ketoconazole may help to prevent postoperative erections. You will need lubrication to help you masturbate.
It is normal for the head of the penis to hurt after a circumcision because the protection provided by the foreskin is gone forever.
If excessive tissue is removed, the result will be painful, shorter erections.
One will never fully regain the lost protection, sexual function, sensation, and sexual pleasure, even if one restores the foreskin.
During sex I reach under him and hold his penis pulling his foreskin back at the base of his penis.this exposes the head of his penis and I can feel him so much better as he thrusts in and out of my vagina. This works well for us for a few minutes as his penis is sensitive and he ejaculates quickly. But try holding his penis pulling the foreskin back and holding it so his penis head is exposed. There is a difference.
Oral sex I hold the foreskin back so his penis head is exposed and hold his testicles with my other hand GENTLY squeeze his testicles and he ejaculates quickly. The key is pulling and holding the foreskin back off his penis head while I give him oral pleasure. He does not want to be circumcised.
When he has a full erection his foreskin is about two inches longer than his penis to give you an idea of the length.