Is she a virgin

I have to say that I find your question very telling! You either have trust issues or you just don't trust her! It is a MYTH that all virgins break their hymen the first time they have sex! This can be broken from a too big tampon, masturbation, trauma, or she might have been able to stretch this before. Most girls - are afraid of the pain of the first time, so they start stretching their hymen well before! Due to the fact it was hard for you to insert your penis, I would assume that she has either lost it a long time ago or has been stretching it! She could actually still have it intact or partially intact and it slowly tears overtime! MANY thousands upong thousands of women were killed - due to their wedding night sheets not having blood on them! They were then thought to be loose women and non virgin and thus their embarrassed husbands killed them - or their fathers did! It was a HUGE slur to the woman when she didn't bleed! The other main point about this is that you might now have a large enough girth to have torn her hymen, just because her vaginal walls were tight, doesn't mean that you were too big for her! She was probably VERY tense - being her first time etc. IF you don't take her for her word this relationship is doomed! I hope you wore protection and took it easy - as her first time (if it was hard on here) could definitely be her last for awhile! So trust her or walk away, I believe her!

THANKS FOR THAT and i believe her too but am not sure whether i dis-virgin her or not hence she didnt bleed. I put on protection and am not big for her and it was my first day too.

You were both smart for BOTH of your first times! Most people believe that sex is just sex, but for both a man and a woman it's about trust! She TRUSTED you to protect yourselves & giving you her ultimate gift! It IS a gift - loosing ones virginity - it can NEVER be regifted. There is NO going back and starting over, you both planned it and took it easy & she didn't tear (or did, but not significantly enough to bleed) in this day and age of tampons etc. there is less and less chance of a woman tearing, as a lot of tears happen with incorrectly used tampons or other items like a cup etc. Just trust each other, respect each other and love each other! The world will be better off for it, if more and more young couples followed those words! Good luck and ALWAYS use protection!