I am 28 years old and back in 2010 I went to Albanian to get married it was sort of an arranged marrage never met the girl before who assured me many times that she was a virgin but the first night we went to have intercourse i noticed she wasnt nervous at all and when we started it was a little hard to get in but not as hard as virgin should there was little blood but she was also at the end of her period she said it hurt when it was going in but it seemd like any other girl that had had sex before and during intercouse she was very loose almost to the point where there was no felling it was like this the whole month i was there but and there was a fishy odor coming from her vagina i did not say anything i trusted her and i loved her very very much but now when i went back for the birth of my child my cousin had told me that she found out my wife may have had another partner and he took her virginity well went i ask her about the guy i told her that he stoped me and told me that they went out didnt wnt to get cousin involved she told me that she went for coffie with this one guy but that was it one date and this other guy she told me he was stalking her and following her and his mom did black magic on her and she was in and out of the hospital because of it and she also told me she tryd hanging her self twice because people in the village where talking c**p about her because of this guy so then i was logged in as her in her facebook and talked to this guy and i told him i was her and asked him if he heard about her and this going out he said yes and and he stated that he would not tell her husband about them or them having intercourse then when i told him that i was her husband he changed his story and sid no i swear they didnt have sex so asked her about she denied it still then told me he talked to on the street and she told him he wasnt her type then she says she was out with her friends he showed up at a coffie house they were at she said she sat at a table with and told him she wanted nothing to do with him and she swears up and down she didnt do anything with these guys but i dont know what to belive i just want the truth
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The truth is you are ruining an arranged marriage with your obsession with a concept of virginity.
You state that you love her very much, but you are unwilling to accept her as she is.
Instead, you have gone to great lengths to desmonstrate your distrust of her, even to stoop to impersonating her and violating her trust in you.
You continue to try to trick and trap people into admitting that they may or may not have had a relationship before you.
WHAT DIFFERENCE DOES IT MAKE??
In your culture, virginity may have a great value. But iis it worth sacrificiing your marriage and possible happiness over?
Only you can answer this.
You state that you love her very much, but you are unwilling to accept her as she is.
Instead, you have gone to great lengths to desmonstrate your distrust of her, even to stoop to impersonating her and violating her trust in you.
You continue to try to trick and trap people into admitting that they may or may not have had a relationship before you.
WHAT DIFFERENCE DOES IT MAKE??
In your culture, virginity may have a great value. But iis it worth sacrificiing your marriage and possible happiness over?
Only you can answer this.
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well before we got married tho i asked over and over and she assured me that she was so i trusted her answers but she was very loose and had a fishy odor our first time i thought nothing of it i thought she wouldnt lie to me maybe some girls are just that way and because i trusted her but then my cousin told me different her best friend thats when i stoped trusting her and she never told me the truth about thse guys she had "coffie" with before she told me that these guys were stalking her and she no contact with them what so ever she againe assured me i was her first but something in my gut tells me that there still is somthing she is hiding i told her i would never leve her i just want to know the truth thats all
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So just what do you expect from this website? Advice? Permission to leave her?
As for feeling loose, or smelling fishy, THAT'S NORMAL.
You may not be familiar with the amount of variation that occurs between women.
Plus, some women have larger vaginas, and some smaller. The point is that they are adjustable, and swell to accommodate the penis of their partner. So don't jump to any conclusions.
And just what's your cousin doing telling you about possible coffee visits with other guys? What's he trying to do, upset your marriage? What possible good can come of that?
As for feeling loose, or smelling fishy, THAT'S NORMAL.
You may not be familiar with the amount of variation that occurs between women.
Plus, some women have larger vaginas, and some smaller. The point is that they are adjustable, and swell to accommodate the penis of their partner. So don't jump to any conclusions.
And just what's your cousin doing telling you about possible coffee visits with other guys? What's he trying to do, upset your marriage? What possible good can come of that?
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yea your right il just get over it eventualy if i can get it off my mind im sure i will im almost sure now she was a virgin if not shel tell me later im sure when she knows im comfortable with it thanks for your suggestions very helpful
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First learn to use "Periods" or "Punctuation marks". All I see is 1 sentence and its annoying. Secondly, your being insecure. You need to have some trust and faith in your partner. As said before, every female differs. Depending on her diet and what she eats from time to time, the smell can change. Just like the male sperm; it depends on what you eat. Does virginity really matter in the end? You are with her right? Females can have male friends, just like you have female friends. Your insecurity might end your marriage/relationship with your wife.
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Well the point I think is hard to get over is that obviously she lied then magically she runs into him at times shes supposed to be with her friends trust is obviously an issue in this relationship need to try and Ger her to admit she's lying
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Well the problem is you. You know the truth but you do not want to admit it. Your wife is not a virgin PERIOD!! Should you abandon her and marry a virgin? Hey boy are you mature to get married at all? Marriage is for men and not boys. What is it that you want in your marriage? Virginity or a happy home? What about you, are you a complete virgin? Seek for a peaceful life in your marriage brother and not virginity. The Lord has cleansed her of all wrong doings if she has repented.
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SHE ISN'T A VIRGIN HAHA! In my opinion if you think that her previous loss of virginity makes you stop loving her, then.Divorce her. If you trusted her, you wouldn't continuously badger her. And if she is lying, you should still divorced because what's up la relationship with lying?
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