my boyfriend wants me to get on top... what do i do?

Well first thing you must do is not be worried about the way you look if hes really in to you then he likes big women and likes the way you look.

And hes also expecting you to put it in when your on top. ;-)

Get on top. I doubt he cares that you are bigger than him. You just need to let yourself go and in the moment not think about sizes. You will not hurt him if that is what you are thinking. ask him exactly what he wants you to do while you're on top as it's a bit harder than other positions.

I know exactly what your going through, im bigger then my boyfriend but not really a big girl but i do have issues with my body that im very self concious about. So when my boyfriend mentioned that he wanted me on top i was really worried about what he would think of me so this is what i started out by doing.

Start out just fooling around like normal and get really worked up, have him laying on his back then surprise him by blind folding him and putting his hands under his head and tell him he cant touch unless you tell him he can. Then climb over him resting your knees on each side of him and kiss him everywhere and even playing with his member, such as rubbing him on you and what not and go from there.

He will want to touch and play with your body but dont let him, when your ready slide down on him but take it slow as its a difference in penitration and can be quite deep. Then while on your knees on him slow push up off him a little bit and back down. (almost like posting if your riding a horse)

He might get off sooner just becuase hes thinking about what your doing and its a different position. Then when your more comforable let him start using his hands.

Most guys wont even think about your size or what your looking like when your on top because there to busy thinking "oh yeah theres a girl riding me"

My boyfriend LOVES when i get on top of him for that fact that it lets him relax more, he gets to see me full front nude, and hes a chest guy so he gets to play with my chest....in fact last night it was so intense that i just about passed out when i got off and he said he felt the same way.

Hope this helps and just make sure your safe and protect yourself.

ok thanks!!! will getting ontop help me get off? i usually dont get off if hes on top... (not that is not good its just my clit isnt geting stimulated) but me on top will help right?

He'll still need to stimulate your clit but it will be easier for him to since his hands will be free from propping himself up.

With my partner and me on top I usually do most of the moving while he rubs my clit for maximum pleasure. and the occasional thrust he gives helps as well.

It might help you get off but it all depends on the person but i know once i get in the right rythem (or if hes gently thrusting up with me in motion) i feel like im going to gush it feels so good and i dont end up seeing strait while feeling that way because i just feel out of it (in an amazing way). And its a great position if you want him to stimulate you while your on top of him as he has his hands free and that will add for him as well. Good luck.

Being on top is amazing because you are in control.
Slow, fast, hard it's all you.
Reach behind you and gently squeeze his boys, or squeeze his nipples, some guys really like that.
Start out by kissing his face his neck his nips, work your way down using your mouth and tongue all the time. By this time he will be erect. Take the head of his penis and rub it over and around your clit to help turn you on also. This will ramp him up as well as the head of the man penis is sensitive. His pre cum will serve as a lube so you can rub his boy all over your self down there. You will also begin to get wet. Assume the position. Straddle him and use your knees for your support. Slowly lower yourself on to him, you will get an instant rush of pleasure. (not cum) Now you are free to move and girate on him. Play with your own nipples, this visual for him and you is a real turn on. Lean forward on him, with your fingers tweaking his nipples and using his chest for support, rock back and forth, find the spot where is penis is rubbing on your clit, or rub it yourself all the while he is inside of you. His hands can be busy with your boobs, or where ever else he may want to put them. Play like this for a while, don't be so quick to cum, control your speed so you can keep the fun going for a while. Now sit straight up on him and git er done. Start out slowly, build up your speed but keep the rhythm going. Once you get enough practice you may be able to cum internally, meaning finding your "G" spot or sweet spot as some call it. You will know it when you do. You will actually have an orgasm from within. But in the meantime, your clit will need direct stimulation to help for now.
If you are fortunate enough to cum together, which is kind of hard until you have figured each other out, he may cum first. If so, he probably won't be able to continue inside of you because the head will be REAL touchy and he will begin to loose his erection. If you have not got off yet, never fear,climb off and either let him finish you by hand or do it yourself so he can see.
Ta da....now have a smoke and go to sleep (just kidding) ;-)

Hi there, I know that this is an old thread but has this been working for you? I was reading everyone's advice and it looked pretty good but I wanted to know if it was working well for you. let me know if you're still hanging around! THanks :)

Honey hes with you isn't he? he loves you so that doesn't matter what body type you are when your on top of him be confident and make it the night of his life haha :-) good luck

Well sweetie if he's with he must love what you have. I was insecure when first had sex. But once things got started and I could see he liked what he sees I wasn't so worried. And if he wants you ontop it's cause he likes what he sees. And he wants to watch you plain and simple :-D just be yourself and don't rush it if your not ready. Good luck honey

well i tryed to do it but... it doesnt work at all... it wont go in

Well, so the first time wasn't a success, huh?

Did the first time you two made love go perfect? I'll bet not. It took some time to learn how to move, who does what, and what it would feel like, right?

Same for "cowgirl on top". You got to practice some with each other.

I'd make sure that he's really excited, and firm. And that he wants it.
You're in charge, so you decide when to insert, or how to move.

Do you remember when you were a kid riding a hobby horse? Do you remember how you used to scoot foreward to slide your crotch up the saddle. That's basically what you're going to be doing here.

After first stratling him, or sitting back upon him, you control whether you scoot forward or back, realizing that as long as he's firm, you can back against him and he's not going anywhere.

If you rock your pelvis, and grind your clit into his pubic bone, you'll both enjoy it.
But don't feel that you have to wait for him to use his hands... feel free to finger yourself, and make sure that you're enjoying it.
Basically, the girl is in charge, and her guy is just a poll or a stub that she works against as she sees fit.

I'll admit that this can not be as exciting when he's wearing a condom, but it's not impossible. Just make sure he's up for it, and that things are free to glide and rub.

Plus, there's nothing that says that you have to finish in that position. Do it for as long as it feels good...and if you two want to change to another position, then do that. It's just one more option on your memu of choices for having sex... if that's what you're into.

Enjoy!

Kirk C that is a very comprehensive guide and I think that your troubleshooting should help out, hopefully. Do you have an update for us? Did it work?

I reread my post, and feel that I went a bit farther than I might normally have... so I've edited it back just a bit.

Perhaps I should have recommended that the woman dig out a copy of "The Joy of Sex" or "The Guide for Getting it On" and read up on "Cowgirl on Top" there.

I didn't mean to advocate underage sex, but I thought she needed some encouragement. Perhaps I was wrong. We'll see if she posts an update.