My girlfriend experiences pain during sex when she's on top. It's no problem if I'm on top of her. Any idea why she would only have pain while on top?
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It's just anatomy - you have deeper penetration, and harder thrusting! MANY women complain of the pain that way!
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Actually, she says it hurts before the thrusting begins. After insertion, she will just sit for a second and then say it's too painful.
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I find it painfull when im ontop! Aswell as that tho, she might just not like being on top.. (I dont and many other women dont!) Being on top makes the woman feel like you can see everything, and she may feel really self concious about you looking. Although other than that it may be because of the size of your penis, the penetration may get to her before you even start to try. Just start off gently and make sure you use alot of lubrication. x
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Geez, all this time I thought being on top gave you girls all the control and all I could do was lie there and take it. o.O
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It is fun to be ontop coz he can get all the right spots, and it does make us feel like we can do whatever we want. But on the other hand i get really self concious about my body, i mean im not like 'big' n i know that, i just dont like him looking at my body :S :-) XX
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For a woman to be on top is a VERY vunerable position, they can feel like they are bein scrutinized, they don't know what to do! It is very hard position to be so OPEN! So if it hurts BEFORE penetration then it IS about her self image! And also perhaps a hangup regarding sex! This doesn't HAVE to be! IF she isn't comfortable and even if you try and reasssure her that it's fine! It doesn't matter, SHE'S UNCOMFORTABLE! So don't insist on it OK? As this will have detrimental consequences for ANY type of sex!
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I don't get why girls would be uncomfortable on top, obviously the guy is in bed with you so he likes your body, stop using gender as an excuse!
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It's NOT an excuse it is a fact that women are more vulnerable to body image bringing negative thoughts into her sex life.
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It hurts when I'm on top if I'm sitting straight up. If I'm bending over so my breasts touch my partners face its fine. It also depends on the size of the guy. I was fine with my last partner who was a little over 6" but my current is 7" and straight up knocks into my cervix and causes cramping the next day. riding is a bit embarrassing at first. I admit I still get a little shy during it but I've never hurt because of it just because of shyness. Im guessing she's like me and you're just knocking into something. Or if she's new on top just hurts cuz it's a deep position.
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I have the same issue im roughly 8-8.5 inches and ive just started havinf sex but ive never had my girlfriend ontop because it hurts her too much I dont know if there is anything I can do to make it stop hurting as much for her without having to use lobes and stuff because I would feel awkward asking if we could if you know what I mean.
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U need to do foreplay for 20-30 minutes, She should be arouse and moist before penetration. Use oil, lube or gel if needed. It would make is ejoyable without pain
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I'm about 5"4 at 145 pounds and my boyfriend has a very large penis. Whenever I would ride him (facing him) it would be so painful. So we decided to try me riding him backwards and it makes an amazing difference. No pain at all!
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I hate riding top it sux it hurts like the the next day..plus i wanna be able to wear a shirt, but my husband hates that but my sex life is going down hill because of it wtf....!
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