My boyfriend wants to have sex but im a virgin.What should i do because im so nervous!

To me you are doubting your readiness hun so my advice to you is just tell your bf that your not ready yet to have full sexual intercourse and if if really loves you he will understand and won't pressure you into do something your not ready for.
If he does start to put pressure on you about it then if is not worth knowing because if should respect your needs.
Hope you dont mind me asking but how old are you both?

Hi thanks for your advice , im 18 on the 14th of febuary and he has turned 18 about two months ago x

Dear Maya

Losing your virginity is a major step. You cannot undo that. You will never be a virgin again. Do you really want to lose your virginity to this boy? You say you love him, but not enough to let your mum know he's even your boyfriend! You haven't said whether he loves you! From what you have said, you are certainly not yet ready for sex, and you mustn't let him put any sort of pressure on you to have sex. I think you should first tell him that you are not ready for sex, and probably won't be for some time. See what his reaction is. You must respect yourself and your body. Many would wait until marriage so that they save themselves for their spouse, giving a precious gift on the wedding night. Many regret losing their virginity too early. You also need to consider any cultural or religious implications. Are there any?

The first time you have sex, there is the question of rupturing your hymen, and you need to be prepared for that (if it has not already been ruptured), even if it is when you get married.

Sex has a wide range of activities including mutual masturbation, oral sex and sexual intercourse. As far as sexual intercourse is concerned, on a basic 'plumbing' level, the male puts his erect penis in the female's vagina. But there should be much more that leads to that point, including the consideration of contraception. Also sexual intercourse is a bonding action, not just a sexual activity. Complete books have been written on the subject of having sex, and a few lines here wouldn't do justice to the subject, and could even under-rate the subject. If you want to talk in intimate detail I suggest you register as a member, and then we can talk by private message if you prefer.

Anytime you have sex there is the risk of pregnancy, and maybe STIs. So you need to think about a degree of protection.

Anyway, I hope these remarks help as a start. If I can be of further help, please ask. I'll do my best to help.

Yeah you're right he hasn't even said he loves me! I guess I just got dragged into thinking i should lose my virginity because of my friends.They have all had sex and they have said how its the 'best experience of your life'.I know now to not choose to do drastic things so easily because of what I have heard. Thank you so much Shepard999, you stopped me from making a big mistake:)

you call him your bf? o.O he doesnt love u..he like ur p***y only.. Virginity is something special, and can be taken only by someone special at a reasonable age..

If your friends think its the best experience of there life then what experience would it be to actually loose it to your husband on your wedding night.
When there wedding nights come they won't have that special thing to give there husband but if you wait you will be one better than them.
To many girls have sex these days just because there friends do.

Glad to help. But keep in touch.

You sound like you have the personality of a pleaser which means you enjoy giving and making people happy. In this case you need to only think of yourself and what you want. Trust me, boys will come and go.

ur fat dummy

13 and 15 I love him

At your age it is illegal to have sex anyway and you could both get into serious trouble if found out.
Wait until your of legal age and hour both enjoy it more.

My boyfriend said he wants to have sexual things with me. He told me that would involve getting my consent but he doesn't think he will get it considering we've been dating for only 5 months. And I'm 13 turning 14 in 4 months, he's 14 turning 15 in 6 months. I don't know what to say, but we both love each other to death. I've actually had feelings of wanting to as well but I don't know what to do. Someone please tell me what I should do.

No one can or should tell you what to do because it has to be your choice but considering your actually asking this question in the first place then I would say your not yet ready to take that step yet, why rush into something like having sexual relations when your so young still and have the rest of your life to fulfill those needs.

I'm 16 and his 19