My boyfriend and I have been together for over three years and have one child together. Our sex life has always been amazing and even though sometimes he wouldn't finish I never worried about anything. Over the last year however he has completely stopped cumming when we have sex. He always says the same things.. it is not you.. I am tired.. I am to hot.. I am worried about the time ( if we are doing it before we have to leave for work) and that he enjoys being with me and its just hard for him. WTF though I mean every time we have sex!! what could possibly be going that he isn't telling me!?? I know he says he doesn't want to have more kids right now but I have an IUD so I doubt that is the reason??? PLEASE HELP!!
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Not too ponder upon a point of mis-conception but does he have maybe an STD that he does not want to give you, or some illness he is not telling you..? All you can do is ask, be genuine an honest and straight forward at the same time. Honesty is the best answer, and who knows maybe he'll come clean. Just talk to him and tell him how you feel, and what or why it's bothering you. All we can do here is give you options or opinions, but it's you who makes the move. Good luck, and let me know I am curious. The only reason I wouldn't want to cum in my wife is because I was hiding something or had something. MMMM. .... %-) %-)
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Iam not the originator of this topic but have the same issue. He says he "doesn't like it" and rather cum on me????????
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Just by putting the penis inside you can transmit any disease. So it doesn't matter if he cums or not inside, if he has a disease and you have sex, you can get it.
He's probably thinking about other stuff... job, women, money.
He's probably thinking about other stuff... job, women, money.
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Hi, im sort of in the same problem.
Ive been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years, we have our ups and downs like most couples but other than that where fine, we get on well and where happy together. The only problem is he wont come inside of me! He says its because he doesnt want to get me pregnant and that he's just being extra careful but I'm on the pill and when he wants to finish inside me we use condoms, other than that he usually just finishes in my mouth or on my boobs etc!
But at the begining of the relationship for about the first 2 months he came inside me every now and then and he says he only did that because he was 'stupid' and really doesnt want a baby. Obviously I dont want a baby either as where only young that is why I am on the Pill and I'm extremely careful at taking it at the right times etc.
Ive spoken to him about it loads of times, it does upset me and it did used to make me feel unloved, unnattractive and have even thought of finishing with him etc but i've just got over the fact now and kind of just brush it aside. But its so annoying, a lad would normally love to finish inside of a girl wouldnt they?
he says when he wants to have a baby he will come inside me, but im on the pill and thousands of girls on the pill dont get pregnant, but he says he has 'super sperm' which is totally not true as he has only ever slept with me and I have obviously never got pregnant haha!
any advice please...??
and any men find this strange for my boyfriend not wanting to come in me haha??
Ive been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years, we have our ups and downs like most couples but other than that where fine, we get on well and where happy together. The only problem is he wont come inside of me! He says its because he doesnt want to get me pregnant and that he's just being extra careful but I'm on the pill and when he wants to finish inside me we use condoms, other than that he usually just finishes in my mouth or on my boobs etc!
But at the begining of the relationship for about the first 2 months he came inside me every now and then and he says he only did that because he was 'stupid' and really doesnt want a baby. Obviously I dont want a baby either as where only young that is why I am on the Pill and I'm extremely careful at taking it at the right times etc.
Ive spoken to him about it loads of times, it does upset me and it did used to make me feel unloved, unnattractive and have even thought of finishing with him etc but i've just got over the fact now and kind of just brush it aside. But its so annoying, a lad would normally love to finish inside of a girl wouldnt they?
he says when he wants to have a baby he will come inside me, but im on the pill and thousands of girls on the pill dont get pregnant, but he says he has 'super sperm' which is totally not true as he has only ever slept with me and I have obviously never got pregnant haha!
any advice please...??
and any men find this strange for my boyfriend not wanting to come in me haha??
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i doubt its cuz of any illness or disease...cuz you can get that just from the penis entering, maybe hes just being extra cautious about not having more kids...ive heard stories about the pill failing and stuff like that..youd have to ask him though cuz hes the only one who knows the answer for real...will he finish at all with you? or is he only afraid to let it go inside you? i have to say though as a guy id rather finish on the face or boobs unless youre trying to get pregnant, some guys might just be afraid to shoot inside because they dont trust the method of birth control theyre using? these are the best things i can think of but youd hve to ask him to knwo for sure
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any more kids? haha he doesnt have any kids atall! where only 18 haha.
but yeh he wont come inside me atall, and its so annoying cause its a real turn on! I tell him all the time but he says he doesnt want a baby. And I say well would you do it if I change contraception and go on the injection or implant or anything else and hes like he still wouldnt come inside me.
Yes obviously he finishes and comes but just wont inside me, he'll pull out and do it on me somewhere else etc but never inside me :-(
i do ask him all the time we communicate all the time about it, which is good but I just wish he'd stop worrying and just do it. I definately dont want a baby but I wish he'd just relax and be normal, im on the pill i take it correctly and everything, nothings ever happend before with previous partners and theye came inside me. hes like he'l only start coming inside me when wer like 24 when he doesnt care if he gets me pregnant or not
but I just wanted more of a mans view about it? I just think its wierd a lad not wanting to come inside a girl. And it annoys me cause all my mates boyfriends come inside them and I get jelous and annoyed when they start speaking about sex with thier boyfriends.
but yeh he wont come inside me atall, and its so annoying cause its a real turn on! I tell him all the time but he says he doesnt want a baby. And I say well would you do it if I change contraception and go on the injection or implant or anything else and hes like he still wouldnt come inside me.
Yes obviously he finishes and comes but just wont inside me, he'll pull out and do it on me somewhere else etc but never inside me :-(
i do ask him all the time we communicate all the time about it, which is good but I just wish he'd stop worrying and just do it. I definately dont want a baby but I wish he'd just relax and be normal, im on the pill i take it correctly and everything, nothings ever happend before with previous partners and theye came inside me. hes like he'l only start coming inside me when wer like 24 when he doesnt care if he gets me pregnant or not
but I just wanted more of a mans view about it? I just think its wierd a lad not wanting to come inside a girl. And it annoys me cause all my mates boyfriends come inside them and I get jelous and annoyed when they start speaking about sex with thier boyfriends.
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I'm the reverse, my girlfriend of five years is still not comfortable letting me cum inside her. It frustrates me a bit as it is not as intimate, but I love her and it is not a huge issue. Of course she will have to change when we want kids, which for me is soon, And if she still has issues with it then, well, we will have a problem.
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oh my word! it is so annoying isnt it! it used to really get to me emotionally and it still does ive just toughened up :/ but its horrible isnt it.
and seriously why would she not want you to come in her! argh id die to have a boyfriend who would! i wish hed just relax! jeeeez
and seriously why would she not want you to come in her! argh id die to have a boyfriend who would! i wish hed just relax! jeeeez
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yeah me being a guy id finish inside the girl if we were on birth control and as long as shes clean and everything. Sounds like hes just paranoid or really really worried about having kids right now. If I think of anything I will let you know lol
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I have had the same problem with my live in boyfriend. I was on a BC I didn't like but it was cheap ($10 a month) and he always pulled out all the time so I figured it was okay to not take it at all. He called me on it and now doesn't trust me. I've never had a scare so I wasn't too worried. I now take a great BC and have talked him into coming inside me (most times anyway) and it is super hot! I set an alarm on my phone for my BC so I can take it at the same time every day to increase effectiveness! I get pissy now if he doesn't because it isn't cheap!!!
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My wife rarely orgasms if I don't cum inside her. I've actually only pulled out a few times, and she seemed really frustrated when I did.
It's almost like my ejaculate triggers something in her, and when she starts to cum it makes my orgasm even more intense.
One thing not yet explored is that he may just really want to cum ON you. Almost any porno you watch is going to have the guy blowing his load on the girl's breasts, ass, or face. You have to search specifically for porn where the dude finishes inside, like a fetish. Maybe your partner is trying to live that fantasy.
If he's not finishing at all, he is probably concerned about getting you pregnant, which is pointless because even his pre-cum can get you pregnant.
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I've personally been in the same position as your boyfriend many times. It's not that I don't enjoy it, or have trouble getting and maintaining an erection, but it's just very difficult for me to cum generally speaking.
However, typically verbal stimulation is what takes me over the edge as I am quite a dominant lover
However, typically verbal stimulation is what takes me over the edge as I am quite a dominant lover
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Look I am a single mom I was on birth control. I understand where you are coming from. I have a 15 month old son. I was dating 2 guys and one go me pregnant the moment i got pregnant the one i was living with kicked me out. They knew about each other, the other guy saw me when i was 7 months pregnant and told me he wasen't ready to be a father. Do you want to be in my position. Yes I do get dissapointed when my bf will not cum inside me but at the same time I remember I was on the pill when I concieved last time did you ever think maybe he just isnt ready for the responsibility of being a dad. Maybe before he was not so worried about it thats why he would but he started using his other head o think about it and realized he doesn;t want Another/or a kid in general, at the moment a least.For the 18 year old birth control is not 100 percent effective almost every woman in my family got pregnant on contraceptive methods, and there is no way you wan a baby now planned or not I am 23 I was 21 when I got pregnant you may think it looks fun and they are cute but they also take up all of your alone time and money. I love my son but I don't get time to go out and do things. Stop worrying about it he will do it when he is ready to.
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i love to cum in my gf it is the best feeling ever, but sometimes my mind will be else where or ill finish in the wrong way and i wont cum that much or even not at all. i think its normal to a certain extent but i wouldnt not cum in her on purpose.
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