I've been in a long-term relationship with someone older - where intercourse consisted of only a few minutes, he would come and it was over. I recently started dating again, and my first sexual partner was very energetic and healthy. We had sex multiple times, and I experienced the following unusual side effects:

The sex and passion was great, but a couple of times I had experienced a burst of water that came squirting out.

Next, I started to spot bleed and the sheets looked like a battle zone. He was somewhat larger with more intensity and went deeper than I had experienced in the past. We had great sex for a weekend and I wasn't bleeding as much towards the end.

A few days later, I began a few uncontrollable discharges flushes of water, than a few hours later I began a thick discharge and urinating became painful.

As the days continued, my entire vaginal area felt raw and felt like it had been torn. Urinating stings and has become unbearably painful. I went to the ER and they did a quick exam, and put me on an antibiotic for a urinary track infection.

This helped a little, but as the week progressed I now have difficulty sitting or moving around. It does feel like something has torn, and it helps to apply ointment immediately after urinating to take some of the sting away – but I don’t know if I should be doing anything else while I heal?

I am also very concerned about not being able to have sex again. Since I can't even insert one small finger without extreme pain, should I be inserting something lubricated, so my opening doesn’t heal awkwardly? I would value any input and advice regarding my situation?