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Me and my girlfriends are both first timer. For a couple of days ago we been trying to have sex for the first time, she is a virgin and me too. We both 18 years old. She enjoys the moment till the very time before the intercourse, she feels afraid. Last night she finally decided to fight her fear and try penetration. When we make contact she get super nervous. I slowly try to penetrate, she is so tight, she started enjoying but at the same time moaning saying it hurts and shake me off. I was so frustrated. We tried a position she suggested, she on top of me but she took so long that my erection ceased and protection went out. While i produce myself another erection and put some new protection , she gave up on his fear and dressed up. After dressing up she feel remorse for not having sex and gets frustrated for being unable. i was so frustrated too, i was so close and every thing just vanished. Please i would like to know any advice please im so desperate and frustrated because of this situation? Come on, the break of a hymen hurts and afraids she so bad????

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If your girlfriend is afraid to have sex with you then you need to wait until she is ready. When she is ready to have sex you will not have to go through this yo-yo affect with her (come on. no wait. come on. no I'm scared)
Now, of course she is tight. That is the beauty of her being a virgin. When you finally do the do her vagina will fit you like a glove.
*For her first time having sex her attempting to ride you is the worst position she could have chosen. May I suggest that you are on top and once you suit up and are sure that your penis is at the opening of her vagina that you ask her if she is ready. IF she says yes push very hard and very fast 1or2 good times so that you are in. Once you are in you can
go back to being gentle.
Think of it like peeling off a band-aid. If you peel it off slowly it hurts worse than if you just snatch it off very quickly then it's over. Good luck. If you decide to follow my advice let me know how it goes if you want.
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Ramming her won't help one jot. She'll probably end up resenting him for it.
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i would suggest you a long build up. try kissing and put a finger or 2 inside her. if you want you can give her a bit of oral before.make sure she is very wet down there. me and my girl even though we done it a few times, if she is not wet we cant make sex couse she hurts. if she is lubed and excited you can easily penetrate. i for one say you should be gentile. just push your penis inside slowly and dont stop. if she makes funny faces and she hurts you can push just a bit over and over till she gets used to just the head of the penis.
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Being a girl, I've been in the same exact situation she was in before. I finally had sex because I was ready. Chances are you girlfriend truly isn't ready, even if she says she is because when she's truly ready, things will just happen naturaly and there really won't be any reservation. Alot of girls are scared before they have sex for their first time. Try to do something to lighten up the situation like foreplay to get her more relaxed a little.
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I personally think the first response is HORRIBLE. She's a virgin for God's sake, you shouldn't just push your penis inside her with too much pressure. Also, the band-aid metaphor was bad. Like the others said, let her come around because her chicken out at the very last minute just show that she's not really ready. You on top is the best position for first timers, so you can go with that, and give her time. And make it memorable- you don't want your first experience to be the worse thing, it should be wicked special :-D
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Hey friend while doing intercourse do not stop kissing etc. This will divert her attention. This will be really helpfull
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hello,

fear of sex i can say its normal from my experience  am 25 years and just got married to my boyfriend of 4 yrs. we have been married now for 5 months. the first 3 months were hell for the both of us. we tried sex for the first time on our wedding night both of us being virgins. it was extremely pain full and he just got to the point of breaking the hymen when i got out of bed. since then i was so scared even of the thought of sex. he tried getting me in the mood for several days, but i wouldn't give in. i used to feel so scared, tightened my legs where he couldn't even touch my vagina  i cried several days and felt horrible about myself and used to think that i wasn't a real women as i couldn't bring myself to bare the pain and get over it. we then decided to visit a gynecologic who examined me and told me that all the scary feelings were just thoughts building up in my brain, that it was all in my head and that it doesn't hurt as much as i was thinking, more of psychological. she then gave usuggest you just do it the old missionary style with the girl down until you get comfortable with other styles. tell your girlfriend to have patients and even when it hurts after applying the gel to just lay put and loose, do not tighten her legs as by doing that the pain will worsen and will only hurt herself. AM NOW HAPPILY 1 MONTH PREGNANT AND THANKING GOD EVERYDAY FOR THAT.the pain will eventually go away in just few days time so just tell her to relax and you be patient for her and help her through this. hope this Helps!s medicine some sort of jelly like liquid called xylocaine gel 2% where i applied around my vagina  it sort of makes the vagina feel "numb" and makes you not feel the pain. we applied and started with a finger and the finger slipped in without me feeling any pain. i was so relieved and thanked God, and so we kept on trying with a finger then two fingers and finally with him. it hurt a bit but not as initially and in no time i got used to it and we never continued using the gel as i became more and more comfortable. i would 

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Is it possible that during the first phase of the relationship her behaviour was influenced by some kind of "fascination" and as you started to live together, her sexual desired dropped down - and it got stabilized on her "natural" level (which is quite low)?

 

Anyway, I understand your frustration and pain, because I was in the same situation with some of my ex-girlfriends, too. The bad news is that in my case it just got worse over the time, once they started to behave in this "anti-sexual" way and their aversion just got bigger and bigger - which naturally led to all kinds of problems/complications/misunderstandings/frustrations etc - so all of those sexually imbalanced relationships in my past ended as a result of this. From my experience, when these problems (me wanting sex much more than they wanted) started, I was not able to do anything to make them more interested in having sex with me. But my case could be different from yours, because in my case, the imbalance of desire could be seen from the beginning of the relationships, it was always there, so it was not a result of some sudden changes.Only when I met a girl whose sexual desire and preferences (as for frequency) were the same as mine, only then I stopped having those unpleasant problems described above...

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me and my gf also had first sex in my home and it was fun, v both were nude and watchin movie later on i started suckin her nippls nd she turnd on nd i opened her legs nd strtd touching my penis to her vagina lips,, when i strtd insertin for the first time she got tighten nd closed her eyes then by giving more push i inserted half my penis and strtd moving it in out upto that length ,, after some time i was about to take out so i gave my penis to her she sucked very hard in 69 and i put my two finger in her vagina nd 1 in ass so got thunder and took out sperms on her boobs and after that v had bath together .

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What a load of bull - it was what you were dreaming jerking off
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You´r bloody amateur !!!
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Sounds pretty frustrating. Remember though, sex is supposed to be fun so try and relax and not put so much pressure on yourselves. Oil based lubricants could help, theyre much more slippery than water based ones so could help with penetration . There is an Ebook out that has some good information about certain positions to use depending on your/ her size.

Hope this helps.

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How low will hurt the girl to have sex for the first time in Hindi May B
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Few days ago I have sex with my girlfriend I can't make her happy I am feeling so bad my anus is getting lose what can I do to make her happy please suggest me
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