scared to lose virginity

are u a guy or girl ?

for girls it can be alittle pain ful depending on the size of his penis but i wouldnt worry if u tell him to take it easy then u should be ok but make sure hes wears comdom

if its a guy dont worry about it but were comdom

Hi, I don’t know how old you are…well it is not most important thing anyway, but there is a plenty of time to wait before you have sex, there's no need to get into it right now, even if you feel ready for it. You should be prepared emotionally, physically, mentally, so don't rush it. I guess you are curious, like we all are. I always thought I’ll know when I am ready for sex and I was sure when I decided to lose my virginity that is the right moment, but later I realized that I could wait for little longer. Anyway, it is not always painful, that is individual and it depends partly from yours and your partner’s anatomy. I’ve been told that there will be bleeding and that is unpleasant. I have to tell, it was painful, but pleasant in the same way and there was no blood. Don’t know why or how, but I guess that is ok. I think that painful moment when the hymen breaks. You're young, so have fun and be safe!

my bf wants to have sex with me

Try sticking a cucumber in there before you have sex.


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I wouldn't tell her to use a cucumber, far from it... but find a soft toy dildoe like the pleasure skin realistic dong for about $24.95 and use it with lube. This way you have control to gently penitrate your vagina to get the feel of it before you let some guy just hope on and ram you.

If you want a link to the site, just PM me as I can not post links here.

lol i betting your a girl ......umm i just lost mine yesterday..it did not even hurt ...well a tadbit when he inserted it in but after that it felt soooo good.

i think the best way is to pop ur cherry before hand it makes sex less painfull.

Hey. I am talking to a guy right now who is trying and im only 13. If you stretch the opening with, the back of a sharpie or something, it will be less painful. But MAKE SURE TO CLEAN IT FIRST! Never use an unclean thing itll cause infections. But if you have a hot bath and use your fingers itll stretch better. Well, have fun and SOMEONE HELP ME TELL MINE IM SCARED!!!! (hes 14 and we are pretty good friends)

First of all, if you're scared or worried, talk to the guy about it. If he doesn't understand or says he'll leave you if you don't have sex then kick him to the curb, he's a total loser and you can do better. He won't respect you at all after you do have sex with someone like that.

Secondly if you are underage then wait, seriously having sex before hitting 16 can do your body more harm than good, there's a reason why there is an age limit. Also you could land your boyfriend in some serious trouble - and why would you do that to the guy you love?!

Thirdly - DON'T put anything like a sharpie inside yourself! No mater what end you use! You can get infections and even SPLINTERS - have fun explaining that one to a doctor when you're in the emergency room.

Instead fingers are a safe bet. The pain you're talking about will most likely be from breaking your hymen (inside the vagina) or pain from being too tense.

If it's your hymen you're worried about then take some painkillers before sex, discuss this with him, go slow, and make sure he will stop if you ask. Using tampons can help you get used to the idea of something going in there - but your hyman can actually be broken by sports, areobics and even horseriding.

Lastly, and most importantly, if you are scared, just say NO. Any guy who is worth your time WILL wait.