Hello,
I need help. my husband and i have been married for an year. but till now we havn't been able to have complete sex. It had been too painful.

A month back, I had a small surgery sort of where the doctor gently pried apart the hymen to make space. there was a bit of bleeding but all was ok. She also said all my scans and her examination revelaed that everything was normal.

Only after 2 weeks after that did we try again.
This time it was the same.. the pain was still there.. but the 3rd of 4th time we tried I was bleeding after I let out the most horrendous scream I have ever screamed and the most horrible pain. but it stopped by the end of the day.
Then we tried a few days after that and the pain was still there... I am literally in tears and wish I don't want a baby.

My husband has been really understanding.. i mean its been a year and a half... but i am loosing it... getting really depressed and i can't stand having to go to the doctor again.

I am worried are we doing it wrong... or at the wrong place? I think its right but with all the pain I am so confused. also I am not comfortable of going to the doctor and asking her where? She had infact told me by a gentle touch but for some reason i can't remember.

is there anyway my husband or i can maake out if its the right area, and we are not unknowingly damaging some other area thinking thats it?

could someone help?
thanx.