Too much daily self-stimulation

Hi Najva

From what you describe, I would think it could be that your pudendal nerve has been irritated, so you would probably be rubbing the dorsal nerve of your clitoris. That would then not necessarily satiate the feelings when you have your orgasms.

The "brown moist like blood coming out of me" is possibly your vaginal secretions from your climax mixed with some old blood from a previous period. You may well be having a vaginal gush at the end of your long session.

It is possible you have broken your hymen, but I would not think from "over-masturbating". As you do not insert anything in your vagina, it would probably only come from the position you hold your legs, not the over-pants rubbing. Or it could be for several other reasons.  Nor do I think that a broken hymen is what is causing the bloody secretions. You would not likely get that every time anyway. You can check the state of your hymen by using a hand mirror. Do you know what you are looking for?

You say you only masturbate once a week. That by itself is not excessive. But what leads you to do it when you do? Why is it only once a week, or why is it not every (say) 10 days?

I hope this helps as a start.

Thank u for ur reply Well I don't know about the irritation of the pudendal nerve, maybe you are right...the only thing that I know is that I don't want it to be like that..I want to be satisfied in one or two orgasms... For hymen, well u scared me..I checked myself with a mirror but I can't see anything! I mean no holes or something, I don't even know where my urethra opening or vagina opening is. I said once a week but it xan change, I say a week for example, it can be 10days, 4days or anything. .I just meant I don't do it every day! And I really thank u, plz tell me whatever u know about this problem .

Very simply, your pudendal nerve has 3 branches that reach your anus, your perineum, and your clitoris. It can sometimes be trapped and can cause pain, but sometimes just gets irritated, perhaps by tense muscles, and then gives unwanted sensations. Sometimes massaging the area above and behind your hip bone can ease the feeling, or even deep in the groin area.

At the apex of your vulva is your clitoris, below which is your urethra opening, and below that is your vaginal opening. Next stop is your anus. You can view your clitoris, urethra opening and vaginal opening by separating your labia. Your hymen is just inside your vaginal canal. If you want more detail, please ask. I would be happy to go into further detail if you wish. Would a link to a picture or two help? If you prefer to message me in private, please do so, but you will have to register first.

I didn't mean to scare you about your hymen. It is probably intact. I was just stating that there is the possibility it could be broken. I take it there are religious or cultural implications for you? Where are you from?

You didn't answer the question about what leads you to masturbate. I guess you feel sensations in your clitoris which cannot be ignored, rather that you decide you would like to masturbate. Perhaps you would clarify. Also what activity have you been involved in prior to your need to masturbate?

It could just be that you don't properly orgasm on several occasions, and you are left unsatisfied until that last one where you have a vaginal gush.

I hope this helps a bit more. If you want more information, just ask again.

Wow..thank u so much again...sorry for my delay in responding, I didn't get an email that u have replied. .. I went to a doctor, she checked my hymen and thank God it was intact.she said it is a bud like hymen which cause lots of bleeding when broken. About my masturbation, well I am really ashamed of it! It makes me feel so dirty! Of course there are lots of religious and cultural concerns for me, I am a muslim though... I don't get turned on by usual sex, I am extremely turned on by dominant/submissive relationships...I guess it's weird but I love it..being submissive is my dream... Maybe watching some dom/sub videos, reading some BDSM stuff can easily makes me so turned on that I have no way but to masturbate and after I start doing it I can't stop! I reach orgasm in every time, I know it, but I am too greedy for pleasure...I don't get tired..I just do and do ...:( Thank u again

Hi Navja

I am glad for you that your hymen is intact.

If you are ashamed of your masturbation because it makes you feel so dirty, then you need to identify exactly why it makes you feel so dirty. But maybe that is part of the excitement and mental stimulation.

You say "there are lots of religious and cultural concerns for me". So start listing them one by one. That will help focus your mind on what is happening to you sexually.

You say "I don't get turned on by usual sex". So what do you classify as "usual sex", and consider: how will not being "turned on by usual sex" may affect your future marriage?

You say "I am extremely turned on by dominant/submissive relationships". So how did you discover that? Being submissive is one thing (I believe husband and wife should submit to each other sexually) but BDSM is quite another, and can be dangerous.

Porn is dangerous, and usually has a damaging effect on a marriage. so "watching some dom/sub videos, reading some BDSM stuff" is something I would strongly advise against. The fact that "after I start doing it I can't stop" indicates it already has enslaved you. Porn is something that is 'haram' in Islam, as well as condemned in the Bible.

Although you say "I reach orgasm in every time", it may well be that you will find that it becomes the only way you can orgasm, and will affect your relationship with your future husband. So I would urge you to think carefully about what you are doing and why.

BTW does this picture help you understand your body better?

• http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/sites/default/files/files/styles/large/public/field/image/hymen_virginal.jpg 

I hope all this helps.

Once again, I wait for your response. If you want more help, just ask

Thank you so much for your response. ..im curious, u r male or female? Well I feel dirty after masturbating bc I know it's haram but I can't stop doing it.it makes me feel so weak that I can't quit it, I have tried lots of times to quit masturbating but it didn't work. .. Well, usual sex, vanilla sex, making love...of course I like it but it doesn't make me masturbate.the only thing that makes me turned on enough to masturbate is watching or reading or thinking a situation when a woman is under total control of a man...sexually and not sexually. ..I like being ordered, being ruled and when necessary being punished. ..I know it's weird.i think it's bc I have a really strong character, I have always been the boss in every aspect of my life...no one dares ordering me...but in my future life, I want my husband to be like this.no bdsm of course, but, u know, I want him to be strong to guide and control me... About the cultural and religious concerns, well I have never had bf, and I have to wait until marriage,(I guess I mentioned it before), so no way to satisfy my needs in the next 3years at least! And my parents don't know about my masturbation, and I don't want them to bc I know their reaction will be cruel :( And tnx again for ur responses :) u r a great help :)

Hi Najva

I'm glad my responses are appreciated. I hope I can help further.

1. You asked "u r male or female?": I am male
2. You say "I feel dirty after masturbating bc I know it's haram". so if you know it is forbidden, and accept that it is, then why fuel the practice? You have not only been taught the practice is wrong, but also you believe it to be wrong also. You doing something you believe to be both wrong and dirty. That situation will inevitably cause you problems.
3. When you say "it makes me feel so weak that I can't quit it", do you mean that masturbating makes you feel morally weak so that you do not have the moral strength or resolve to quit masturbating? That is inevitable. The more we do anything that we believe to be wrong, the more difficult it is to quit that activity, and the more we are likely to repeat it. It becomes a controlling habit.
4. There appears to be an indication of the problem and its solution when you say "I have tried lots of times to quit masturbating but it didn't work" and then say "the only thing that makes me turned on enough to masturbate is watching or reading or thinking a situation when a woman is under total control of a man". So if you stop "watching or reading or thinking a situation when a woman is under total control of a man", then you will not get "turned on enough to masturbate".
5. How can you say "I like being ordered, being ruled and when necessary being punished" when you then say "I have always been the boss in every aspect of my life...no one dares ordering me"? How do you relate in this way to your father?
6. If "in my future life, I want my husband to be like this" - presumably "ordering me", meaning "being ordered, being ruled and when necessary being punished" - how is this to suddenly happen? But there are dangers in this. While "being ruled" might be submitting to your husband's loving headship, "being ordered and … punished" gives a sense of inferiority. This could open the door to abuse. Why do you think you might get punished? What sort of punishment would you expect?
7. I don't know whether you have any say about who you marry, but be careful how you relate. The fact that you say "I have a really strong character" means that a good husband could find himself challenged too often, or you could use your strength of character to ensure a great marriage, and a successful home. The Bible has a passage which says: "Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies. The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life." (Proverbs 31 v 10-12)

I hope this helps a bit more. I trust I have understood you correctly. If not, just tell me. If you need to go into more personal detail, you can message me if you prefer more privacy