Virginity rules/Parameter

So you are worried she is not a virgin?

Did you ask her if she was a virgin? If you don't trust her, then you should reconsider yourself in the relationship.

Also, not everyone bleeds after their first time having sex, I didn't.

yeesh, i'm getting sick of these sorts of questions. so i'm going to quote myself:

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babyqueen wrote:

but wat if onli the begining of the penis entered (the head) to the vagina does that mean ur not a virgin???????

yes it means you are not a virgin. you had a penis in your vagina, this is sexual intercourse, the act that takes your virginity.

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Yes, bleeding means lost of virginity.. Also if only the beginning comes in it's considered as loosing of virginity..

bleeding has nothing whatsoever to do with virginity. my girlfriend didn't bleed when we both had sex for the first time, though we were both virgins.

i find it utterly amazing that people who have access to the internet can be so misinformed and have so many misconceptions about sexuality and virginity.

virgin: one who has not had sexual intercourse, the more traditional meaning is one that has not had vaginal intercourse, whether as a man or woman. quite simply if you put your penis in a vagina you're not a virgin. if you have a penis in your vagina you're not a virgin, even if it "was only a little bit".

however these days i think it's fair to expand the definition to involve other sexual activities. if you have anal sex you are not a virgin in my humble opinion. oral sex on the other hand is not "real" sex but that's open for debate.

the hymen has virtually nothing to do with actual virginity. it's just a thin membrane that covers the vagina. it is entirely absent in some women, diminished in others and in some cases completely closes the vagina. breaking the hymen does not mean you lost your virginity unless it was in the act of penetrative sex. "virginity" is a concept more than a physical state. it just describes someone who hasn't had sex yet. there is no exam that can be taken to prove a woman is a virgin except if she has a completely closed hymen (which can't be the case with a woman who menstruates as a completely closed hymen must be surgically opened to allow passage of menstrual blood and debris). it is possible for a woman to have an intact hymen even after penetrative sex.

people need to stop associating the hymen with virginity, it's not true and it's an unhealthy idea to pass on to others. imagine the distress of a girl who is born without a hymen or ruptures it through one of the previously mentioned activities when they read this sort of fallacy on the net and think they're not a virgin.

long story short, you can't tell if she's a virgin or not. trust her or don't.

Lets say the girl had a small incident of rape ands since then the girl is not sure if she is a virgin or not... and in her society it is a shame to have lost her virginity before marriage and her parents are abscent minded... how can she be able to know if she is a virgin or not?? Can u help?

The way the vagina looks has nothing to do with virginity. I've read that virginal(right word?) Vaginas are supposed to look a certain way as compared to non-virginal vaginas, such as having a pink labia minora and such, but this is completely false a virgin can have large dark labia minor, small pink, and any variation in between. The way a vagina looks doesn't change after sex(OK over the years of frequent sex the vagina MAY start looking somewhat different due to loss of elasticity(won't be quite as tight ) and aging. The clitoris may look somewhat different directly after sex due to way it gets a little bit larger when aroused, but the effect doesn't last long at all and soon looks completely normal. But overall the vagina doesn't start to look different after just because you lost your virginity) In many cultures if she didn't have a Hymen or if she didn't bleed the first time it would be assumed she wasn't a virgin, but this is a completely false. Many many women who are virgins don't have hymens since it is such a fragile membrane and can break easily from riding a bike, inserting a tampon, lots of exercise like running, and various other activities. In some areas future husbands may have a future wife inspected by a doctor to see if she has a hymen and therefore whether or not she's a virgin, but these tests are very unreliable since the hymen often breaks before the loss of virginity. It is also assumed if she doesn't bleed, that she's not a virgin, but again this isn't reliable. Not all women bleed, though most do experience discomfort. Not all women do however, I myself didn't bleed or feel any pain at the loss of my virginity. So really there isn't anyway to know for sure other than to trust her, there isn't any test you can do. If she expressed discomfort or pain it is likely she was a virgin (unless you have a very large penis, because even if she's not a virgin a huge penis can be painful), but if she didn't that doesn't necessarily mean anything either.