Hi Shepherd,
I agree re being with the right guy and emotional intimacy and also re the idea of educational videos. Sex is so much more erotic when a couple is focused on each other and engaged in each other, participating in learning something together, rather than watching two strangers at it.
You had mentioned earlier on that "the onset of menopause has its effects which have to be managed". I was wondering - what were you referring to by that? Did your wife's sexual desire/drive decline or some other dramatic change? How did you manage it?
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Hi Rose,
My reply was just an open and honest one in order to share what I think normal people do !
Yes we have intercourse but we just enjoy masturbating as it is more intense so most of the time it is masturbating .I do it every morning the wife3/4 times a week .The wife knows I like to be watched so after 30 mins when I'm ready to cum she is happy to display herself and I can shoot a good load ! If she's feeling turned on she will just rub her clit and she likes me to slip a finger into her butt this will really send her to orgasm..She will also use a vibrator on her clit as it takes the work out of rubbing . It's best she uses it and I watch as she can hit the right spot when needed.
As for adult video's well these are not for everyone !! ( see reply from Shepherd999 !!) . I have always watched them.
If she is out she knows I will watch one all she asks is that I don't stain the sofa ! She is also happy for me to watch if she is in the house. If I am not around she will have a quick one with the vibrator and tell me when I get in. We will also watch together and see who can last the longest !! . Try it it can be great fun !!
Please feel free to share experiences at your age you have not reached your peak !!
Take care
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Hi Rose,
We have intercourse but we both just enjoy masturbating more as it is so intense. I masturbate every morning for about 30 mins and and then cum with the wife watching., She will masturbate 3/4 times a week with me .She uses a vibrator as it saves time. She will use it herself with me watching so she knows when to hit the right spot. The best thing is no pressure to be out of the house and on the way to work !
As for video's they are not for everybody ! but I have always watched them and the wife knows that if she goes out I will watch one. We also watch together and see who can last the longest. You must try it 's great fun
Please feel free to share your experiences and remember at your age the best is still to come
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Hi Rose
I have tried twice to reply to your message only to be told I have violated the Tos and too see other replies !!
I have no idea why my reply was rejected as it just answered your questions in a polite way ??
Really sorry
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Hi Stuart,
Thanks for your reply and for sharing how you go about your morning routine. It is really great to have the luxury of time in the mornings and to share masturbating with your wife. You mention you find masturbating as so much more intense than intercourse. What do you mean by that? What aspect of masturbating are you referring to or which makes it more intense?
It's good to hear you say "at my age the best is still to come." I really hope so. But part of me feels perhaps a bit skeptical, especially as it seems like there's been physical changes in my body ie. a loss of pleasurable sensation in my nipples. To now, that's been such an arousal zone for me, I don't know if I could manage getting really aroused without it, even with a man I love and who excites me. I really don't know, with a waning sex drive at 47 I'm not sure how it could get better. I'm willing to be open to possibilities though.
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Hi Rose,
Don't be down I am sure the pleasure is just waiting for you to find it in a different way !! Can I ask do you masturbate to orgasm on a regular basis ?if so how do you do it ?
As for masturbating pleasure I think it's just being in total control. Stroking my shaft getting close to shooting then easing off doing that for 30/40 mins your mind is just on one thing !!!. especially when the wife is beside you watching every move !!
It's the same for the wife her nipples are big and are a good 3/4 inch long when aroused .Yes it takes longer and she prefers them to be pulled rather than stroked as she has got older but they play there part in getting her aroused .
I do suggest a vibrator it takes the work out of rubbing and the wife has had some really good orgasms using it. Anal stimulation also works for her as well put all these together with a good movie ! and you should be on the way to having some good orgasms even on your own. You are only 47 everybody's body changes you just need to make sure yours give you the pleasure that you need .
Try what I have suggested you have nothing to loose and everything to gain.
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"the onset of menopause has its effects which have to be managed" includes loss of lubrication and means that lubrication has to be applied. However "sexual desire/drive decline" did not occur; rather the reverse. Post-menopause means contraception is not needed, so that is liberating.
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Hi Rose
I would not agree that "you have nothing to loose [lose] and everything to gain". Using a vibrator can lead to reliance on mechanical aids, and so can be counter-productive.
The result of "having some good orgasms even on your own" may mean that it is more difficult to have orgasms from a man's stimulation efforts.
If you "make sure [your body] give you the pleasure that you need" then you may become too self-centred, and lose some of the impact of a prime inter-personal relationship whereby each seeks to satisfy the other. You could end up with a second-rate relationship reduced to masturbation (as described). Libido is best developed together with a spouse.
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If you find "a man I love and who excites me", the arousal is likely to follow. The fact that "a loss of pleasurable sensation in my nipples" has occurred need not be a problem. You will find some other trigger - probably clitoral and g-spot. They are more likely to produce an ejaculation for you.
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Hi Shepherd,
Thanks for your message on this and for your concern re masturbation. Don't worry, I'm wary of this.
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Hi Stuart,
Thanks for the reassurance on my being able to enjoy despite the physical changes in my body and also for describing why you find masturbation more intense. I am able to masturbate to orgasm. It's true there are many ways to feel pleasure.
Gentlemen, both Stuart and Shepherd
I hope you don't mind me asking - I think a concern I have is - if in a worse case scenario, a woman (say your wife) should lose her ability to become sexually excited - would that have an effect on you, her husband? How would it effect you and your feelings toward her?
How does a man feel when he senses, despite her desire and intentions to feel lusty for him, that his wife/lover's sexual desire and excitement has dramatically dwindled?
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Hi Stuart,
Thanks for the reassurance on my ability to enjoy despite the physical changes in my body and also for sharing why you feel masturbation is more intense. I can masturbate to orgasm. It's true there are many ways to feel pleasure.
Gentlemen, both Stuart and Shepherd
Hope you don't mind me asking - I guess a concern I have is - if in a worst case scenario a woman (your wife) should lose her ability to become sexually excited or lose her sexual drive - how would this make you feel? How would you react to this?
How does a man feel when his wife/lover, despite her desire and intention to feel lusty for him, has a dramatic dwindling of her sex drive and their sex becomes lacking in excitement. How does this effect him and his feelings toward her?
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Hi Stuart,
Thanks for the reassurance on my ability to enjoy despite the physical changes in my body and also for sharing why you feel masturbation is more intense. I can masturbate to orgasm. It's true there are many ways to feel pleasure.
Gentlemen, both Stuart and Shepherd
Hope you don't mind me asking - I guess a concern I have is - if in a worst case scenario a woman (your wife) should lose her ability to become sexually excited or lose her sexual drive - how would this make you feel? How would you react to this?
How does a man feel when his wife/lover, despite her desire and intention to feel lusty for him, has a dramatic dwindling of her sex drive and their sex becomes lacking in excitement. How does this effect him and his feelings toward her?
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It's strange, I've just tried to post a reply 3 times to your post Stuart. But it doesn't seem to go through.
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Hi Shepherd,
Thanks for sharing about this, great to hear that menopause didn't cause your wife's sexual desire to decline!
I wonder - I know you mentioned it was "liberating" - sometimes though things like that (becoming dry, loss of lubrication) may sometimes affect a woman's sense of her own sensuality and feelings of her own juiciness - did that make your wife seem less "juicy" to you in any way? Sorry if this is quite private, I just wonder how it is to deal with these physical changes in a woman's body (for the woman and for her husband).
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