Alright, Ive talked to my boyfriend and he says, from what he understands, that the first time (if he's taking my virginity) he's not really suppose to do alot. He's suppose to just insert it and let me get used to the feeling. Is that true? Or should we just have sex normally?
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You're lucky to have a boyfriend that is thinking this way, it shows that he is interested in not hurting you. Since that seems to be the case, you're in a position to suggest a way of going on.
The first time, it can hurt. The amount of pain varies from none at all to very uncomfortable, with most having something in between.
The best thing is to make sure you are extremely turned on prior to him entering you, which might mean a lot of foreplay, maybe including oral sex. (That's him licking you. But feel free to do the same for him if the urge takes you. :-D ) Ideally you should be almost on the verge of orgasm when he enters you, and he should push it in in one smooth movement, and then stay still, until you tell him to keep moving, or if it hurts too much (and stays painful for longer than maybe half a minute) you ask him to pull out.
Important not to put any pressure on each other. He might be anxious. You might be too. That can be a bit of a passion killer. You kind of have to let nature take its course. Like if you both feel anxious, and it kills the moment, don't mind. Go away from it, and let it arise spontaneously next time you're making out, or whenever the situation is right.
I heard one story where the girl (who was telling me about her first time) was quite aroused, and when the penis went in it did hurt, but then the guy just stayed still, with their pelvises in close contact, and the pressure was moving her clitoris a bit, and the pain morphed into this incredibly awesome turned on feeling, and she initiated the movement from that moment, and they both had a mind blowing finale, together.
I hope your experience is something like that.
The first time, it can hurt. The amount of pain varies from none at all to very uncomfortable, with most having something in between.
The best thing is to make sure you are extremely turned on prior to him entering you, which might mean a lot of foreplay, maybe including oral sex. (That's him licking you. But feel free to do the same for him if the urge takes you. :-D ) Ideally you should be almost on the verge of orgasm when he enters you, and he should push it in in one smooth movement, and then stay still, until you tell him to keep moving, or if it hurts too much (and stays painful for longer than maybe half a minute) you ask him to pull out.
Important not to put any pressure on each other. He might be anxious. You might be too. That can be a bit of a passion killer. You kind of have to let nature take its course. Like if you both feel anxious, and it kills the moment, don't mind. Go away from it, and let it arise spontaneously next time you're making out, or whenever the situation is right.
I heard one story where the girl (who was telling me about her first time) was quite aroused, and when the penis went in it did hurt, but then the guy just stayed still, with their pelvises in close contact, and the pressure was moving her clitoris a bit, and the pain morphed into this incredibly awesome turned on feeling, and she initiated the movement from that moment, and they both had a mind blowing finale, together.
I hope your experience is something like that.
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Its sex whether its the first time or not. It all really depends on how much you can take because in my opinion when I lost my virginity to my husband at the time boyfriend he couldnt finish because it was too painful for me. So in conclusion that is not true its just up to you and how comfortable you feel .
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If it feels good, keep going. :-D
If it hurts too much, stop. :-(
Unless you like pain, o.O then keep going. :-S
If it hurts too much, stop. :-(
Unless you like pain, o.O then keep going. :-S
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