Heya,
Ok this is the first time i've actually gone on any of theses boards, but i guess no one has asked about a situation like mine, and there is really no time to look for more. The situation i'm in, is:
A while ago i started dating a guy who is a week or so younger than me. We are both in are teens, and i lost my virginity a year ago. However he was still a virgin when we started dating. He lost his virginity to me, and before it happened, i'd felt it, and it seemed average sized, enough to satisfy me, and to be really great if he learnt how to use it well. However, when we actually had sex, I could hardly feel anything, and it was great, but mostly on the emotional side of things. I He's a really amazing guy, i'm in love, and there is no way i would leave him, even if the sex stays the way it is. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through the same thing... We talked about it afterwards, and he said it was amazing etc, and other guys i've been with have said i'm great sizewise (and i've had some very critical boyfriends), so i'm guessing there is nothing wrong with me. What can i do? Maybe he's just nervous, and needs time to get used to it? What can i do? I dont know whether i'm being to critical for a first timer, and next time if its not better what can i do?
thanks =)
Ok this is the first time i've actually gone on any of theses boards, but i guess no one has asked about a situation like mine, and there is really no time to look for more. The situation i'm in, is:
A while ago i started dating a guy who is a week or so younger than me. We are both in are teens, and i lost my virginity a year ago. However he was still a virgin when we started dating. He lost his virginity to me, and before it happened, i'd felt it, and it seemed average sized, enough to satisfy me, and to be really great if he learnt how to use it well. However, when we actually had sex, I could hardly feel anything, and it was great, but mostly on the emotional side of things. I He's a really amazing guy, i'm in love, and there is no way i would leave him, even if the sex stays the way it is. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through the same thing... We talked about it afterwards, and he said it was amazing etc, and other guys i've been with have said i'm great sizewise (and i've had some very critical boyfriends), so i'm guessing there is nothing wrong with me. What can i do? Maybe he's just nervous, and needs time to get used to it? What can i do? I dont know whether i'm being to critical for a first timer, and next time if its not better what can i do?
thanks =)
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Hi,
Give him some time. He was probably doing all he could to last while dealing with all the hormones and feelings that were rushing through his body. Once he gets a little more experience he can focus more on your feelings. Size is not everything, it is more how it is used.
Don't rush him.
Please use some sort of protection.
Give him some time. He was probably doing all he could to last while dealing with all the hormones and feelings that were rushing through his body. Once he gets a little more experience he can focus more on your feelings. Size is not everything, it is more how it is used.
Don't rush him.
Please use some sort of protection.
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It sounds to me like you have a really good beginning. When you say the emotional part was great, that's a really important thing. The rest is all practice and discovering what works best for both of you. You seem to have a good start on that, as you say the two of you talked about it afterwards. Many people can't talk about it, so they never have a chance to improve what they're doing, except by accident and guesswork. Don't ever be critical about each other. That's the biggest downer you can do.
You said you felt him and he felt like he was big enough. That seems kind of critical but it may be an honest assessment on your part. If it is, and you didn't feel anything when he was inside you, you can practice squeezing him with your vagina. The two of you can try different positions to see what feels the best.
Size is really not important unless there's something really different about one or both of you.
Tell him what you like as you're doing it, and don't forget to have him do the same. I'm sure he's going to show you how much he likes your parts, don't forget to show him how much you like his parts. When I see a vulva that's attractive to me, I just want to kiss it and kiss it and kiss it. Oral sex is wonderful but it's not just flicking the clit with the tongue or sucking on his penis as hard and fast as you can, to see how soon you can achieve fireworks. The journey is amazing when you work together.
Play with each other, enjoy each other, that's what it's all about.
HAVE FUN!!!!!
You said you felt him and he felt like he was big enough. That seems kind of critical but it may be an honest assessment on your part. If it is, and you didn't feel anything when he was inside you, you can practice squeezing him with your vagina. The two of you can try different positions to see what feels the best.
Size is really not important unless there's something really different about one or both of you.
Tell him what you like as you're doing it, and don't forget to have him do the same. I'm sure he's going to show you how much he likes your parts, don't forget to show him how much you like his parts. When I see a vulva that's attractive to me, I just want to kiss it and kiss it and kiss it. Oral sex is wonderful but it's not just flicking the clit with the tongue or sucking on his penis as hard and fast as you can, to see how soon you can achieve fireworks. The journey is amazing when you work together.
Play with each other, enjoy each other, that's what it's all about.
HAVE FUN!!!!!
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Time and patience is best. The size of a mans penis is really no big deal, it's quality not quantity.
My first husband has a hugh penis o.O and there were only a few positions that i could accept him comfortably. My second husband has a smaller penis, about 5 inches plus, very comfortable and very accomodating. They both knew how to use them to where both of us were totally satisfied.
The first time i saw my first husbands member i about had a heart attack. I was only 15 and that scared me. I was expecting it to growl at me, i was looking for teeth on that bad boy.
Your bf may not have been fully erect or he could have started loosing it after he penetrated, this is all just nerves. Eventually things will start to work together and he will become comfortable with you and himself. Don't brag to him about "how good" you have been told that you are, he wants to be the one to make you howl, and don't compare him to an old bf, that will certainly cool things down between the sheets. Give him some time and the more he and you are romantically together, the more at ease he will be. Just relax and let him find his way.
My first husband has a hugh penis o.O and there were only a few positions that i could accept him comfortably. My second husband has a smaller penis, about 5 inches plus, very comfortable and very accomodating. They both knew how to use them to where both of us were totally satisfied.
The first time i saw my first husbands member i about had a heart attack. I was only 15 and that scared me. I was expecting it to growl at me, i was looking for teeth on that bad boy.
Your bf may not have been fully erect or he could have started loosing it after he penetrated, this is all just nerves. Eventually things will start to work together and he will become comfortable with you and himself. Don't brag to him about "how good" you have been told that you are, he wants to be the one to make you howl, and don't compare him to an old bf, that will certainly cool things down between the sheets. Give him some time and the more he and you are romantically together, the more at ease he will be. Just relax and let him find his way.
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