I am 24 and just lost my virginity last night. Almost all my friend lost their virginity during teenage, so I told my bf that I have had sex with few person before but when I saw his penis size, I almost fainted, he is about 9" and very very thick around. I thinks his size is abnormal as I expecting something about 5". I am afraid that he will find out i was a virgin if he hurt me a lot.
I just told him that I never have sex with this big size before and hope he can take it slow. When he penetrate me, he try to make it slow but look like my vagina is very small and he need to thrust hard. Once he get the head inside, the pain was horrible, I felt like my vagina stretch beyond the limit and split, I try to control not to scream even it is too painful for me to handle, hopping he did not not notice I am a virgin. He keep telling me that I am tighter than the virgin he had sex before. I understand that the pain is from my hymen and the painful part was over (I think).
It is not easy for him to push inside me (may be he is too big or I am too small), each heavy push only able to enter me a little bit, once he enter a little more, the stretching pain appear again and split me into half again. This continue for few thrust (may be 9~10 thrust) and then he come, it is not easy for me to handle every thrust. He said he just enter me about 3.5" and he come so quickly due to my tightness. He said will have sex again next week and I am afraid the remaining 5.5" will continue to hurt me like that.
I have a few question:
1) Is his size abnormal?
2) Is this size not suitable for a first timer?
3) Is the pain I felt normal to a girl when she lost her virginity? or it is too much for me to handle?
4) I felt my vagina split, it is really split?
5) Everybody talking about hymen breaking pain, why I felt the stretching pain was more than hymen tearing?
6) My friend told me that its look like hurt a lot more than most of the girl lost their virginity. Is it true? Is it due to his thickness? or just I am too small?
I just told him that I never have sex with this big size before and hope he can take it slow. When he penetrate me, he try to make it slow but look like my vagina is very small and he need to thrust hard. Once he get the head inside, the pain was horrible, I felt like my vagina stretch beyond the limit and split, I try to control not to scream even it is too painful for me to handle, hopping he did not not notice I am a virgin. He keep telling me that I am tighter than the virgin he had sex before. I understand that the pain is from my hymen and the painful part was over (I think).
It is not easy for him to push inside me (may be he is too big or I am too small), each heavy push only able to enter me a little bit, once he enter a little more, the stretching pain appear again and split me into half again. This continue for few thrust (may be 9~10 thrust) and then he come, it is not easy for me to handle every thrust. He said he just enter me about 3.5" and he come so quickly due to my tightness. He said will have sex again next week and I am afraid the remaining 5.5" will continue to hurt me like that.
I have a few question:
1) Is his size abnormal?
2) Is this size not suitable for a first timer?
3) Is the pain I felt normal to a girl when she lost her virginity? or it is too much for me to handle?
4) I felt my vagina split, it is really split?
5) Everybody talking about hymen breaking pain, why I felt the stretching pain was more than hymen tearing?
6) My friend told me that its look like hurt a lot more than most of the girl lost their virginity. Is it true? Is it due to his thickness? or just I am too small?
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Hi ftchew,
I can help you on your guy questions, I don't know too much about your other questions so we'll wait for someone else to answer those.
Firstly, a 9 inch penis is about 3-4 inches larger than average, I wouldn't go as far as saying abnormal just he's on the very large size.
If he goes really careful, you should be OK and try to relax. If its hurting just stop him and ask to go gentler.
I can help you on your guy questions, I don't know too much about your other questions so we'll wait for someone else to answer those.
Firstly, a 9 inch penis is about 3-4 inches larger than average, I wouldn't go as far as saying abnormal just he's on the very large size.
If he goes really careful, you should be OK and try to relax. If its hurting just stop him and ask to go gentler.
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The key to comfortable sex is lubrication. You obviously freaked out when you saw the size of your mans penis which could have put a damper on your arousal, therefore being unable to get "turned on". In order for there to be sufficient lubrication, you have to be hot and excited. When arousal happens, you will start to produce your own natural lubrication which makes penetration easier.
First timers such as yourself have little "know how" and it may take some time before you get comfortable.
The pain you felt was possibly the breaking of your hymen accompanied by the size of your mans penis and lack of lubrication. Those three things put together for an inexperienced virgin women can be alarming and painful.
As far as his size goes, he is a bit above average but not off the charts.
Whether you are a first timer or a pro, size really plays no part in it, it's just the shock of seeing a larger than normal penis. Until you can fully receive him thru intercourse, it may feel like your vagina is being stretched to it's limit, but eventually you will be able to enjoy sex. There are millions of women that are small in stature and can comfortably accomodate a large penis. Remember, a 95 pound women can vaginally deliver a 10 pound baby.
If your vagina had split, you would know it. After intercourse you would have noticed something wasn't right down there. I suppose if you tried to shove something hugh into a dry vagina you could probably cause some abrasion, but if you tore you would feel stinging when you peed and it would hurt when you touched yourself.
My advice to you is to just be calm and take it slow. Your man has to be considerate of you seeing that he has the experience. Don't expect fire works and flashing lights for a while unless you are fully stimulated.
Does bf do anything prior to trying to penetrate? He has got to manually/orally turn you on before actual intercourse. Well, he doesn't have to but it would be considerate if he did.
I think the first mistake you made was telling him that you weren't a virgin. He expected more than you were able to give due to your inexperience. And it sounds like you had no idea what was going on. So put that little secret to bed and try to relax. Keep trying. You can also get some luberication gel from the store, this could help to. Astro Glide, KY Gel are just a few. Don't use hand lotion, vaseline, cooking oil, anything like that could cause you an infection and it dries out to fast. Use something that is formulated especially for intercourse.
First timers such as yourself have little "know how" and it may take some time before you get comfortable.
The pain you felt was possibly the breaking of your hymen accompanied by the size of your mans penis and lack of lubrication. Those three things put together for an inexperienced virgin women can be alarming and painful.
As far as his size goes, he is a bit above average but not off the charts.
Whether you are a first timer or a pro, size really plays no part in it, it's just the shock of seeing a larger than normal penis. Until you can fully receive him thru intercourse, it may feel like your vagina is being stretched to it's limit, but eventually you will be able to enjoy sex. There are millions of women that are small in stature and can comfortably accomodate a large penis. Remember, a 95 pound women can vaginally deliver a 10 pound baby.
If your vagina had split, you would know it. After intercourse you would have noticed something wasn't right down there. I suppose if you tried to shove something hugh into a dry vagina you could probably cause some abrasion, but if you tore you would feel stinging when you peed and it would hurt when you touched yourself.
My advice to you is to just be calm and take it slow. Your man has to be considerate of you seeing that he has the experience. Don't expect fire works and flashing lights for a while unless you are fully stimulated.
Does bf do anything prior to trying to penetrate? He has got to manually/orally turn you on before actual intercourse. Well, he doesn't have to but it would be considerate if he did.
I think the first mistake you made was telling him that you weren't a virgin. He expected more than you were able to give due to your inexperience. And it sounds like you had no idea what was going on. So put that little secret to bed and try to relax. Keep trying. You can also get some luberication gel from the store, this could help to. Astro Glide, KY Gel are just a few. Don't use hand lotion, vaseline, cooking oil, anything like that could cause you an infection and it dries out to fast. Use something that is formulated especially for intercourse.
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Hey hon..I know that hurt alot so next time you do go to having sex I would tell him that you were a virgin..and first time sex is hard to handle because it does hurt alot well my husband was my first and he has over average and is very thick around so yes it does hurt more from what my friends have said they went threw..so next time just tell him the truth that you were a virgin and use some gel and it will feel a whole lot better and when you do not have the pain anymore you will enjoy it so much..just try and relax and let him get you turned on then but the gel and tell him to take it slow..it will hurt a couple of times but after that you will enjoy..so good luck and just use some gel and take it easy.
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Haha...you are in trouble, you're going to pay for the things you have done against us. I hope he uses the remaining 5.5" to hammer you until you repent and change your ways
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OMG, I almost in same condition, he is 8.5", very thick and I am a virgin. He know that I am a virgin. I really need more answer for the original post. Please help.
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