BOYFRIEND CAN'T GET HARD

I am in a similar position, last weekend we planned to do it. I know that was the wrong idea so i tried to say no it's okay its up to you but he kept saying i know you want to do it. We started having foreplay but he was touching me i wanted to touch him but it felt like he didn't want me to he tried to put it in and he was still not hard even when he wanted to do it. I kinda think he jacks off too much cause he hasnt had a girlfriend for a yearr. I dont want to ask him why he cant get hard.

i am a man and i no whot its like if there is drink or drugs involvd just stop becose it ant going to go no where

If he smokes weed, that could be his problem.

I will tell you why I had erection problems and maybe my reason could be the same for your boyfriend. At the time, I was a major porn addict, and masturbated several times a day. I failed to realize at the time that my over use of pornography and constant ejaculation, eventually made me impotent. The only time I could get an erection was when I watched porn. I was totally clueless at the time because I really wanted to have sex. I eventually did have sex, but like I said, constant ejaculation as a result from watching too much porn, made it almost too difficult to sustain or even attain an erection. I almost thought I was gay despite the fact that I loved the female form. Only after I stopped masturbating daily to porn, and learned to do Kegel exercises and started meditating daily, was I able to finally attain and sustain an erection. There is more to this, and I'm currently writing a book about it, but until it's published, I can only give you this much information. I hope it serves you well.

I'd like to keep in touch because I deal with similar issues on my blog. http://pickupfixup.wordpress.com
Do you know when your book is coming out? Perhaps you have a blog also?

the home alone factor is HUGE. it is too set up, not a spontaneous act...it adds a TON of pressure, and even if you build it up, like talking or texting about it, when its finally in person, the pressure it ON and could definitely ruin the mood because of whats racing through his head...

Okay this is totally not true.Performance anxiety can really be causing alot of issues. If the woman has more experience and he knows it he may be worried he wont satisfy. Not all men are s**m bags who like to cheat. There are medical problems besides performance anxiety too.

Yeah. I'm that guy. It's completely heartbreaking. You want to satisfy the woman you really like...even love...SO bad, but you just can't. It won't get up. And we know you're gonna leave us because we can't. We know its coming. We hope for a miracle. For the god of sex to bestow us with what most men view is the most simplest of physical feats. But, no. It still doesnt happen. We watch the act bring humilition to us and disappointment in our lovers eyes when it brings fire and joy and pleasure and love to others. We watch you give up. We watch you move on. We understand. And our hearts break...again...

thats not true it can be caused by stress, energy fatigue issues and a hundred different reasons because im the most faithful person I know have the hottest gf of my life and it still happens to me. I can always get it up no problem but thn the second time it feels like all energy is zapped. btw im in good shape and a personal trainer so fitness level is not an issue... still working it out but I do better with sport vitamin pack and creatine but I know my body is deficient in something... sry I cant help tho

I'm 24 years old and

i date a guy hes a year older than me. 

Tall, Sexy, smart, caring .. he's got it all!

When we're in bed its AMAZING. Perfect size, Oral sex and all that is beyond great :P

but the problem comes in when he gets hard.

He gets hard by touching me or kissing me like any other guy

But when it goes in its good for about 4 minutes and then i feel it inside

starting to die out. 

And i mean its funny and cute but its like COME ON! whats going on!??lol. 

Im the type of person that speaks my mind about everything because i avoid awkward doubts or thoughts

but with this im having trouble figuring out how i would tell him something about it.

Theres no way im breaking up with him because of it

But i also dont want to cheat on him just so i can have long sex with some one.

Its just not worth it!

-Its def not the temperature or that he has a medical condition. Its not that serious because weve had sex and he came before 

i just  think  he gets really nervous of what i would think about it.

He sometimes asks me " why do i find him attractive" and im like what! haha 

So what can i say to him? or how? im super confused lol

Im so confused that i actually googled this and now im writting on here... some one reply :)

 

I had a problem with maintaing erections at a very young age, too, and I was convinced that it was a physical problem. I struggled with it for many years and I even went five years w/o any sex in my 20's. I even had opportunities and I didn't take them because I was afraid I wouldn't perform. There were even a couple times where I actually did NOT perform. It was humiliating. Turns out I seriously, and I mean seriously, pscyched myself out. The one child I have is even a result of this problem. I didn't want to waste time putting on a condom because I was afraid I would go soft. And I was 19 at that time. For a long time sex made me nervous. I wouldn't get turned on, I would just get nervous. Turns out that was my problem all along. I feel like I'm a recovered drug addict. I'm clean now but I need to be careful because one bad experience and I could relapse. I am married now, though, so it's not such a big deal. If I ever got divorced, though, this problem might rear its head up again. I've screwed many a women in the last few years, though, and really haven't had any problems. Actually, with someone new I still do get nervous sometimes and I have had to explain to more than one woman that I need to get comfortable before I will get completely hard.

BECAUSE YOU ARE UGLY

can also so be emotional problem and his diet. My friend had to change his diet completly and it worked for him.