my boyfriend has gotten soft while we've been having sex for the past couple of times. He says the first time was from stress and the recurring times were from thinking it was gonna have again. Im trying to understand but I cant, hes only 22 and I want to know if it me??
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It's not you.
Stress can do that...your boyfriend should find a way to get past his fear, whether it is talking to you, a doctor, someone else, etc. It sounds like performance anxiety to me.
Stress can do that...your boyfriend should find a way to get past his fear, whether it is talking to you, a doctor, someone else, etc. It sounds like performance anxiety to me.
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i am 15, but still here me out.
young, i know, but i have been through a similar situation. i was with my boyfriend for over a year and we decided to have sex. i did what i could to get him hard but once i stopped within minutes he would become "soft" again. i took it as nothing and tried again... he would get hard but once i stopped with four play to have sex he would go soft. he just put his penis in me anyways in hopes to growing hard once again. after a few minutes of feeling nothing and going no where i told him i had to go. we tried again the following day, with the same occurance. i was embarrassed and i felt ashamed. i was a virgin, still am, and i thought i was doing someing horribly wrong. that was a low blow for me and my pride would not take it. forever being smug i searched similar situations, went on forums and questioned my friends. what the main explaination i recieved was performance issues. alot of men feel pressured and woman expect alot these days. he may have a had a similar issue in the past. i think you should talk to him about it, if your relationship is open enough for sex then it should survive a "personal" conversation. i think you should linger on four play. just get used to eachothers bodies. compliment his body and his penis. make him feel sure of himself then try again. it's not your fault for his lack of response. you have a pure heart.
young, i know, but i have been through a similar situation. i was with my boyfriend for over a year and we decided to have sex. i did what i could to get him hard but once i stopped within minutes he would become "soft" again. i took it as nothing and tried again... he would get hard but once i stopped with four play to have sex he would go soft. he just put his penis in me anyways in hopes to growing hard once again. after a few minutes of feeling nothing and going no where i told him i had to go. we tried again the following day, with the same occurance. i was embarrassed and i felt ashamed. i was a virgin, still am, and i thought i was doing someing horribly wrong. that was a low blow for me and my pride would not take it. forever being smug i searched similar situations, went on forums and questioned my friends. what the main explaination i recieved was performance issues. alot of men feel pressured and woman expect alot these days. he may have a had a similar issue in the past. i think you should talk to him about it, if your relationship is open enough for sex then it should survive a "personal" conversation. i think you should linger on four play. just get used to eachothers bodies. compliment his body and his penis. make him feel sure of himself then try again. it's not your fault for his lack of response. you have a pure heart.
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