Can't maintain erection with new mate.

Hey everybody,

First of all I understand most people will be a hard judge on what I'm going to ask and say I get what I deserve.

Im in my early 20's, and have recently started 'mucking around' with a new girl. All is fine until it gets to a part where I need to 'perform' I love kissing her and touching her. I have made her cum using other means but she and I want more, she wants to be able to "look after me' too but when every she begins to go down on me, I loose my erection.

Heres the kicker, this new girl is actually a close friends g/f their relationship is basically about to/has ended as far as i can gather from what she tells me, as she is moving out of their house soon and acouple hours away back to her home town for work.

It is extremely frustrating for both of us. I think it could be an attributed to some anti anxiety meds i have gone on since starting my first full time job.

I feel no conscious guilt for our actions, but could it be a sub-conscious thing? I am extremely attracted to this girl, as she is smart, funny and good looking. I know shes very much into me too.

I also tend to over think things could this be exacerbating the situation. Does anyone have any ideas or hints to resolve my problem?

Cheers.

Alex, I can't say I've been in your situation but what I can say is try this. Lay back and let your girlfriend handle your penis gently bringing it to erection... with no expectation that you are going to have sex. This is just about your erection. Let her just keep fondling your erection gently as you both talk and joke and have a laugh or a cuddle, while she just keeps doing this. You will find that by the time your erection has gone from a couple of minutes to 5 minutes, then 10 minutes, or 20 minute or even more, your erection will seem to have a valve that will maintain your very hard erection, like it's a permanent erection where you don't even need any help to keep it hard. That's when you can then take her and impress her. Trust me, once you learn to experience such a hard on, you'll never look back again or worry about this problem. Good luck.