Hello everyone - I am so happy that I found this website because it has already been very helpful/inspiring to me. Here is my situation: I have been in a long-term relationship with a man for 20 years. He is a good guy, faithful, loving, kind to everyone, and my best friend. The major problem in our life, which has been going on for years, is he has not held down a job for years. He works here and there, that's it. For about 17 of the 20 years I was the primary bread winner. Can't go into reasons why, or how difficult this has been on me, I am fighting with him constantly and nothing changes. I stay because we do love one another, but I am not in love with him, and we are more like good friends, but we do have sex a couple times a week. Anyway, a few months ago, a much younger man came into my life. We attend the same organization and I was not even aware of how into me this guy was until I started getting tons of text messages, daily phone calls, and he started asking me to join him for concerts, movies and dinner. He is also very friendly with my boyfriend, and they both like one another and get along. About a month ago, something changed with me and this young man. We started going out more and more, and we get along amazingly well. He treats me like a lady, buys me dinner, and we laugh together, share secrets, and love being around one another. Recently we are flirting a lot more and making sexy comments, innuendos and text messages to one another. I have never had so much fun with a guy in my life! He wants me to meet his mom and family, talks about me all the time, and I now hang out with his friends. My partner knows all this, and is not really concerned. He doesn't, however, know I have sexual feelings for the young man, and vice versa. I'm not sure what to do, and the age difference is 20 years - he doesn't mind at all, but it bothers me sometimes when we go out. A few people have given us "the look" and made me feel uncomfortable. But I love that this guy brings out the real me again, and I feel sexy, funny, attractive, needed and wanted. I'm kind of confused. Does anyone else have experiences with this type of situation? I actually love one man (the 20 year relationship) but I am falling in love with the younger man. Here's the weird part - I don't feel the least bit guilty! (which is rare for someone like me, who has only been with one man sexually in my entire life). I truly care about both of these guys, and they both care about me a great deal - but in different ways. Thoughts? Experiences? Thanks so much for reading and sharing!