My Problem...an erection. I was tested for testosterone, and was told it was normal. I am 58 years old. Most times when I get up in the morning I have a great erection because I have to urinate. Once in a while through the night I will wake up to urinate and it will be extremely hard. I could be typing something erotic to my girlfriend/woman friend and it gets hard. I could be driving in my car just thinking and it gets hard, however, it doesn't seem to get that hard when it's supposed to. I have tried viagara and cialis, and they were both a disappointment. The interesting thing is that if it starts to get hard, and I put a penis ring on it, or more specifically, put a rubber band around my penis and my testicles, it gets super hard and stays that way. It even feels different, more sensuous, more aroused. My girlfriend thinks that i have a circulation problem because i use the rubber band, and she's even made a joke about it. How abnormal am I? Would testosterone therapy..e.g. patches or something, make this thing react the way it is supposed to when it's supposed to? Please advise. Thank you.
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Unless you're into gangrene I'd stay away from the rubber bands. You don't want your business to drop off, now do you? You don't have a circulation problem now, but constricting the blood flow to your penis and testes is a good way to get one, so ix-nay. Got it?
If you wake up with an erection, that means you're fine--physically. One of the tests sex therapists and urologists used to recommend was putting a band of postage stamps around the penis before you go to bed. If you get an erection during the night, the band would be broken in the morning. Then you could salvage the usable stamps and use them to mail Christmas cards to your in-laws.
What this test showed is that the physical machinery is working fine, and that's what your morning erections are saying. Nothing's wrong with your erectile apparatus. When you're asleep or in that drowsy, semiconscious, waking up stage, you're perfectly capable of getting an erection. So what's missing? Your self doubt, your anxiety, your neuroses, your psychological baggage.
In other words, the problem is all in your head.
Obviously that rubber band was doing more for your self confidence than anything else, and now that you know this, you don't need it anymore. Right?
Since this is a recent occurrence, I don't think you're going to need counseling for this, unless something traumatic has happened recently. I think this is one of those things where you started feeling your age, or maybe you got distracted during sex and temporarily lost your erection, and you thought you might have a serious problem, and that anxiety made the problem worse. This is the kind of thing where the diagnosis is the cure. You stop worrying, you get a big ol' raging hard-on, and everybody's happy.
I suggest you pay a visit to Ms. girlfriend/woman friend soon and put this to the test. If you start to have any doubts, just pretend you're typing her a letter. ;-)
If you wake up with an erection, that means you're fine--physically. One of the tests sex therapists and urologists used to recommend was putting a band of postage stamps around the penis before you go to bed. If you get an erection during the night, the band would be broken in the morning. Then you could salvage the usable stamps and use them to mail Christmas cards to your in-laws.
What this test showed is that the physical machinery is working fine, and that's what your morning erections are saying. Nothing's wrong with your erectile apparatus. When you're asleep or in that drowsy, semiconscious, waking up stage, you're perfectly capable of getting an erection. So what's missing? Your self doubt, your anxiety, your neuroses, your psychological baggage.
In other words, the problem is all in your head.
Obviously that rubber band was doing more for your self confidence than anything else, and now that you know this, you don't need it anymore. Right?
Since this is a recent occurrence, I don't think you're going to need counseling for this, unless something traumatic has happened recently. I think this is one of those things where you started feeling your age, or maybe you got distracted during sex and temporarily lost your erection, and you thought you might have a serious problem, and that anxiety made the problem worse. This is the kind of thing where the diagnosis is the cure. You stop worrying, you get a big ol' raging hard-on, and everybody's happy.
I suggest you pay a visit to Ms. girlfriend/woman friend soon and put this to the test. If you start to have any doubts, just pretend you're typing her a letter. ;-)
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Thank you for the reply, that was well put. I will attempt to change my thinking..anxiety is hard to let go of...but your message helps.
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It can be hard to overcome anxiety at times because of the way it feeds on itself. Just keep telling yourself there's nothing to worry about, and remember that scene in MASH--the original movie--about Painless, the best-equipped dentist in the army. ;-)
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