HI
I am a guy belonging to India.You all know that here dating and having sex are not like that.(conservative minds)
Here i am coming to my problem.
I am 24 at that time my parents are telling me to get married after i get that job so i can get settled..And i am also searching for a girls which suits for me.and atlast i found her in one collage.
she is going to be 19 on this january.I fall for her sometimes we can say its happened and i really falls in love with her. and i gets her biodata through my cousin studying in the same collage. I came to know that she is a first yr student came from a village in india(that the problem also).
Atlast we started to meet and it makes understanding between we two and in this time i am in madly love with her because i didn't see such a girl in my life as she is so careing to me,she is dealing my problems and me also in such a way.
After 1 months(october) our engaement was over and our marriage is fixed on next march.
We both came back to this big city me for my work and she for her studies.At this time i want her to have sex with her so that she can know that how she is special for me and how much i am loving her.But when ever i stated the topic she will change it by saying something.One day i dreamed it also that i am having sex with her.Because i am thinking so much about that
Last monday i messaged her to come to my appartment to clean because my sister and husband are coming.She came by 3 in the afternoon bunking her 1lecture class and she was cleaning my room and all.I am also helping her in all the things and after somtimes she said i want sometime rest and i continued with my work and she was sitting there and starring at me with a small cute smile and at that time i cant control myself and i kissed her and at that time she tightly huged me and says I Love you.Then i think its a signal by her to move on and i kissed in her face,neck ,and i came upto her breast and she tells me to stop.All of a sudden i cant say aything.She said having sex after marriage only otherwise its sin and all.I tried my level best to get that out of her mind that its sin.then i came to know that because of this thing in her mind when ever i started this topic she just changed the subject.My friend tells me that in vilage areas the sex is only for married couples and its otherwise considered as sin.
Can anyone help me how to understand the value of sex in our life.
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Hi Edeph09,
Sex outside marriage is considered a sin by many cultures/religions. Since that is her wish you can only respect it and appreciate that she is truly saving herself for someone that she considers "special."
Good luck.
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thanks for the reply... i just cant able to reply at that time. Due to my wifes grandmothers 3rd attack she said that she wants to see her granddaughter's(my wife) marriage as soon as possible. so both of our family decided a date for the marriage and all happens in 2 weeks.And we both are exicted or cant say what our stage at that time. After the marriage she told me that these words as you told. She says she is giving herself to me to the most loveivg and special person in her life. I have one more doubt. We just tried once but she is telling me that the pain is in such a way that she cant bear that.I am afraid what to do.I know in the first time there will be pain Can i do anything to make the pain low.Or its like......
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Edeph,
LOTS of foreplay, get her "wet" and excited. Also, buy some additional lubrication, and use it. Take your time, go very slow and gently. Patience will bring you the reward.
Good luck.
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