Christian girl addicted to sexuial things. help please.

well don't hang around here if you even get this.
it's completely natural to jack off but it's most just self control.

Theres nothing wrong with it, in my opinion, however I see the real problem is that your'e "super Christian." Well, where in The Bible does it say that masturbation is a sin? Where have you learned that it was?

A lot of people regardless of their religion do masturbate and most feel unhappy that they couldn't be with someone that loves you.... you will feel like your hiding something from people you know but its likely that they too have done it and feel the same way you do now.

polkijut,

From a medical standpoint there is no harm done through masturbation.

From your religious standpoint:

"Timothy 2:22 ; Now flee from youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart."

You will have to force yourself not to engage in those types of pleasures. You can try to occupy your time doing other things and most importantly remove the influence to do masturbation.

Hey, I know what you're going through. I'm 18 and I'm a hardcore christian, but I still struggle with sexual sins with my girlfriend, my best advice to you is try to stop before you go too far with a guy. It's a lot, and I mean a LOT harder to stop after you've started having sex with someone you love.

If you are a christian, then yes by your religious beliefs engaging in any kind of sexual act outside of marriage and without your spouse is a sin. First of all, don't get down on yourself, God loves you and will forgive you, I really recommend taking a look at this site http://www.pureloveclub.com/ it really helps when you're trying to figure out what's going on with yourself sexually, and there's advice from a lot of people there.

As for personal advice, I'm a male and I started masturbating and looking at porn when I was way too young (about 10 or 11) and didn't know what I was doing, all I knew was that it felt good. God created your sexuality as something sacred, something to be shared with the person God has planned for you to spend the rest of your life with. If you want to stop, praying whenever you feel sexually tempted is a really good way to calm yourself down, also try "bouncing your thoughts", so whenever you start thinking about sexual things, like masturbating or some hot guy you know, start thinking about other things like some christian music (if you don't know any good christian bands you should check out Newsboys if you like pop, Cross Movement if you like rap/r&b, or kutless if you like rock) or just how beautiful the world is and how amazing it is that God made all of this. Another thing is buy a ring or a necklace or just wear something, and if you ever find yourself sexually tempted, that item will remind you of how much God loves you and it will remind you to save yourself for that man that's waiting for you.

Finally, as far as waiting for the right guy goes, make sure at the beginning of a relationship you tell the guy that you are a christian and that you want to save yourself for the man you're going to marry. If the guy is worth it, then he will wait for you and respect that.

Sorry if you got bored reading that, I just didn't think you'd find many people who could give you christian advice here and I wanted to give you all I had, lol.

Anyways, good luck in your fight for purity!

Nathan J.C.

Seriously, I've heard many things about masturbation being a sin, but still masturbation feels sooooo goood! it's also natural. We are only human, and you will not go to hell for pleasuring yourself. Because God, is a loving and merciful God. He will forgive you.

fair point but tht verse means that its even a sin to love and be loved, as that is wat it looks like to me, yer u may trust religion more then anything, but how can say tht masterbatings a sin wen its clear loving is too.

It really depends on you consider yourself a Chirstian. The Bible was put in place not just as a guide to go to heaven but to keep order and to keep people from destorying them selfs. Like how the Bible says not to waste your seed or to not think of Lustful things, not to cheat ect. If you think about it if you stay truely "Chirstian" then you can never have sex unless its for procreation. Youll never beable to preform any sexual act besides sexual intercourse with no protection because that would be wasting a seed. If you just think of the Bible as guide lines to live your life instead of hardcore rules then it will be better. If you believe this then masterbating is ok just as long as its not a thing that distracts or hinders you from finding a spouse.

i dunno how old u r but i'm 14 yo girl, i ain't religos, i luv masterbatin and i watch porn like all the time, i even need 2 take a vive 2 skool coz i can't go more than a couple of hours without a cum, i say give in to the urge and just go 4 it babe, get urself sum dildos and vibes, u probly pray when u wake up, i have 2 watch porn and lube up me dildo as soon as i wake up, i'm just dyin 4 it, just get in2 it and let it take u over, u'll not regret it, kerri xxx

The above responses give you a range of opinions, from relax and enjoy yourself, to trust god to forgive you.

I hear two things in your original post.
First, you are young and discovering your sexuality. You have found something and someone that turned you on, but you don't want to continue with either. So, you broke it off with that boy.

But you kept the pornography that thrills you privately.

I would think this means you don't want to stop, you just don't want to be discovered or found out that you are less than the ideal that you have set for yourself.

Wow, that's a tall order.

If you want to get rid of the pornography, that's your business. But you are a sexual being, and your body knows it. You will find arousing situations throughout your life, and some will be more hot than others.

Part of growing up is learning how to handle these impulses and the choices that we make.

If you feel acknowledging your sexuality is a sin, then you will continue to have problems, even after you marry or partner with someone. It takes time to learn this behavior and to unlearn it later.

You've heard that there is nothing wrong physically with masturbating.

But you will make a choice.

Just because you masturbate does not mean you are a bad person. Millions (literally millions) face this same pressure. Some resist, some give in, some accept it, some suffer.

If you need more guidance, you might consider a religious leader in your church, or a counselor at the school or your medical health clinic.

All are better sources than suffering in silence.

Good luck.

I am a 22 year old Girl who is 6 Months Pregnant and I also have a 4 yr old daughter.. Although Both of My Children are with The same Man and We have been 2gether for 7 Years now, We are Not Married.. (Just a little Background on Myself).. I am a "Religious" Person but am also VERY confused about it. I have committed many sins as have we ALL whether or not We admit it is Our own personal choice but every one Makes mistakes... And EVERYONE sins.. ok.. as for Masturbation I really don't think of it as a Sin but I don't know if it is or not.. I think that is between you and God.. But Pornography However is a sin.. There is a difference between Masturbation and Porn.. (I Think..) My Opinion.. I also had a "Dream" of saving Myself for My Husband but unfortunately that didn't work out.. as I said b4 I have been with My Fiance' for 7 years but he was not My first.. And even before I lost My Virginity I to tried masturbation, Lucky for me I didn't become addicted to it so to speak as You feel you are.. Im going to ask a question to you but you don't have to respond, You can answer this to yourself and then think about your answer.. Do you have any kind of emotional stress or abuse or do you not feel loved by your "parents" whether they are your parents grandparents... Whomever.. Because sometimes we tend to turn towards sex or sexual things to fill an empty space as you would us drugs because of some underlying problem.. and Dont get me wrong there doesn't necessarily have to be a space your filling it just may be something you are doing... But just in case if there is an issue whether it be a void space or a lose or anything Sex isnt going to make that go away.. just like drugs it just covers it up.. I also have been addicted to opiates or pain pills and I'm not sure what my problem is im hiding by them but My Dr. and I are working on that... You need to talk to someone if something is wrong Please don't be ashamed. Because Everyone needs help sometimes.. ok... anyways.. If you really are trying to save yourself for Marriage I REALLY hope You make it.. Because even though I didn't I'm sure its WAY better than the little bit of pleasure you get when you have sex with someone you really don't love or you think you do and don't... Bcuz if you wait you will have accomplished something that is VERY hard to do.. almost Impossible in todays world.. I really hope whatever you decide to do tht you are happy with your decision.. and it sounds to me that you want to be committed to waiting.. So I agree with the previous post about getting some necklace or ring or anything that can remind yourself whats really worth waiting for.. Believe me giving up on your dream is a BIG disappointment.. I love My kids and My man, But I regret not being married and not being able to give each other the special gift god has given us to give one another.. as for you feeling ashamed.. don't.. God is a VERY forgiving God and if he can forgive ppl for the awful things that some do we will surly forgive you and I for our mistakes.. we are Human and We are faced with Sin every Minute of The day.. Just Please if you do decide to give it up to someone protect yourself.. because you seem young an intelligent and you don't want to end up a baby having babies or with something Ajax cant take off.. o might potentially kill you for just a moment of pleasure.. I'm sorry this is so long but something compled me to reach out to you.. I wish you The best.

Listen to the guy who is a guest and do what he tells you. It is a sin to masturbate. Think how sad God feels when you are doing this. This might help. Think of how wonderful it will feel when you are with your husband. Think how pleased God will be. What you are feeling is natural, but you have to control it, don't let it control you. One day you will totally stop, but do your best to not do it at all and you will see that you don't do it as much, the craving will subside and you will be healed. I went through the same thing. You can do it, I am a living witness, and I LOVE making love. But I know waiting for my husband is my reward. And just maybe God wants to see how you handle the temptation before blessing you. So be strong!

hey ok the bible is just a book of stories..its not to stop you from doing something but more of the lines to keep you in line..to like guide ou on things. dont worry masturbation is ok but it is all about self control..millions of people do that it's ok just think about other things.or maybe get a signifigant other.its ok you have no need to worry god still loves you and the bible is just stories

okay so yea i'm going through the exact same thing! i'm 16 and i can't stop doing it! it started by accident. i play volleyball i was doing ab exercises and accidentally gave myself an orgasm. now i do it literally non stop and i feel so guilty and it doesn't make me feel good at all. i've almost completely ruined my relationship with god because of it. i would stop praying because i was constantly apologizing for it and then just doing it again. it's making me miserable and i've tried everything to stop. i don't want people to tell me it's natural and that i shouldn't be ashamed. in my opinion, masturbating is wrong and i only want someone's advice that has the same point of view. i'm not trying to judge people that think differently but i just need to stop. pleeeeeeeeeease someone help me.