I had fat vulva, it is huge. It hurts sometimes

I have had a very fat vagina since the age of 13. My vulva it is so huge and looks like bump sticking out. This happened after I was taking prednisone for 14 years. Due to some health problems I had, I even ended up loosing my vision and hearing. Yes I am deaf and legally blind. So after taking this med for 14 years my vagina got really big. Right now I am 30 years old gay female and never have been intimated or sexually with a female. Nor has a female ever seen my body. My vagina really bothers me and I always have to lift it up. Just like ifi had balls between my legs. Is even hard to sit down, can not close my legs. If I close my legs it will hurt me. Even when I sit on the toilet too pee some times I sit on my vagina and it hurts. I been looking for dr for years and not one have helped me in this situation. I can not even were a panties because one of my side will stick out and I have to buy big panties and fit me to big. If I were a very tight panties it hurt my vagina if is to tight. So I wear tight boxers. The boxers help a little. I always have to lift up my vagina before sitting down. I do not feel comfortable and do not know what to do. I am so afraid to be in a relationship or a woman to see my fat vigina. My vagina is bigger then my hand. I have to buy my jeans so big. Even tho my jeans are wide you still can see the size of the vagina. I wear long shirts to cover myself. I hate this so much. Every dr I see are not helping. I am from New Jersey if anyone knos any dr that could help in my area or near New Jersey I would love to give the dr a visit. Please someone help me. Thank you