I just found out my friend has HIV

Hi. First stop feeling sorry for him. He doesn`t need that right now. He needs his friends and their support. He is sick, he is not already dead. I have HIV and many feel sorry for me. I hate it, really. I feel sorry for them. They will die too. They feel sorry for me, because I will be alone, abandoned by “normal” people for the rest of my life. Well, it doesn`t have to be that way. They are not normal. I just have to find somebody who is. I still have a few best friends. They are cool and normal I guess. People with HIV need support and love, just like anybody else. What is the difference?

I have just found out that my friend iis HIV and of course I was very concerned, more about his welfare and how he was coping with adjusting to his life. I don't think it is a question of 'feeling sorry' for him. On several occassions, we have had prolonged chats about things and one thing that seems to come across is that, although he has the virus, and of course extremely upset, he has experienced a whole new side of love and relstionships. His relsationships with his parents, and close friends seems to have developed into beautiful and fulfilling relationships. I think its important to not discriminate against this virus, its there in our society, increasing number of people are contracting the virus, it should no longer be treated as a taboo, or even 'dirty' subject. My advice, support your friend when it is needed, but otherwise, get on as normal and enjoy your fantastic friendship and who knows it may become even better.