I’m in love with my best friend’s sister, she also happens to be one of my sister’s best friends. I’ve known my best friend and his sister for about 6 years now. I get along well with his sister we’ve never argued or anything like that and I’m always polite and kind to her. She’s 18 and I’m 16, but I’ll be 17 in September.
I’ve told my best friend that I love his sister and he said that he doesn’t mind, he said that you can’t help your feelings towards someone, he even gives me advice. I’ve had girlfriends in the past but I’ve never felt like this before. I think about her all the time.
I really want to tell her, but I don’t want to destroy our relationship and make things awkward between us. I’m really worried that she’s going to find someone else at Uni.
I and his sister have never been on days out on a one to one basis or anything like that, but we talk to each other when we see one another.
Do you think I should tell her and if so how should I do it?
I could write a list a thousand miles long of all the reasons why she wouldn’t want to be with me, but I wouldn’t know where to begin for reasons why she would want to be with me.
When we talk we look at each other eye to eye which I never usually do with other people. I think about her all the time, but I have no idea what she thinks of me. She said that I would be a better brother than her own brother as I do more to help etc she also said I'm sweet.
I really want to tell her how I feel, When is the right time to tell her. Because it's not like I can phone her up and say "Do you want to meet up?" She's find that strange. She comes to my house to see my sister and I got to her house to see her brother.
I'm obviously scared of rejection. She means ther world to me. But I don't want to tell her because I don't want to make things awkward between us. But my her brother (my best friend) keeps saying "You can't just sit there and sulk all day, you've got to tell her, or she'll be with someone in uni." He's right but it's not that easy.
Please help me I love her so much!
Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
Do you think I should send this to her. I think that she'd find it awkward as we hardly talk on facebook, or in person.
XXXXX, there’s something that I’ve been wanting to tell you for a while now, but I couldn’t find the right time or moment. It’s been playing on my mind and I feel that if I don’t tell you I’m going to explode. I know we don’t talk much but when we do I feel that we get a long and that we share some of the same interests. I know this may come as a shock to you, and I don’t want to pressurise you into making a decision that you don’t want to make. I want to be friends with you no matter what the outcome is. It’s not easy for me to say what I want to say but I know that I would rather say it to your face as I feel that it would mean more to you, but every time I do come to tell you something knocks my confidence or I just think that it would be better if I kept it to myself. It’s been difficult to find the right moment as we’ve never been on a one to one basis together. So would it be possible to meet up and talk even if it’s for 10 or 15 minutes? X
Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
A) You have been friends for a long time.
B) Your best friend is compleatly cool about it.
C) You think she might find a partner at University.
Ok, I'm going to advise you on C first. My big sister is in Uni too, and she's 21. She hasn't found a partner until recently, and the person your interested is only 18. Well, ask your friend to ask her about relationship status. I presume there's not much difference in age, so she'd probably look at it as advice. Make sure your friend makes it look like they need advice, then ask the essential question, either: A) "How did you get this advice?" (and if she responds expirience, ask who she tested all these methods on.) or B) "Do you love anyone now?". If she answers yes, for you own sake, to avoid a complete heartbreak, turn away before it gets too hard, or until her fancy passes. You could also try attracting her, so here's three major turn-offs and turn-ons that could help:
Turn-ons: 1) muscular. Girls often like someone who they can trust to be more courageous than them, and it's always been a romantic idea for the man to be the alpha. If she doesn't like the dominant male idea, then have a very equal relationship goal.
2) Personality and kindness. Cheesy, but true. If your nice when she's around and a bastard when she isn't, her friends will tell her and that could be game over.
3) Be yourself. The oubvious one, no one likes a fake.
Turn-offs: 1) Body odour. Don't forget the soap!
2) Untidy facial hair. No-one likes kissing a porcupine.
3) Manners. Gimme gimme, never get. And return favours, don't be snarky, and try to be at you best all the time.
To explain B, why don't you just ask your friend to "slip"? She may see you as a relationship option after she knows.
And A, if you've been friends for awhile, asking for a private word can't be too awkward. If she rejects, you can still be friends I'm sure. Give it a go and good luck!
IF_WE_SO_RICH :]
Loading...
Loading...