intense pain while losing virginity

The first time having sex isn't going to be a cakewalk. It's going to hurt the first couple times you have sex since your body isn't use to it and especially if the person is well endowed. But I would say wait on having sex again until its with the right person because a lot goes into sex that you wouldn't imagine... Don't get your heart broke! I'm 22 years old and I lost my virginity to my ex bf when I was 18... Till to this day I wish I would have saved myself for someone worthy of me.
I hope this helped :)

That's really REALLY bad advice to give someone... It sucks that you're bitter and can't let go but 90% of the world doesn't wind up married to the first person who they copulate with. The other 10 usually percent end up 50 in a loveless marriage blindly following religious doctrines that don't allow for divorce.
Alfred Lord Tennyson said it is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all.
And he's right, because until that faithful day you remain naive and truly a child. It's only after one looses something that they can appreciate it.
There's a lot worse ways someone can hurt you then by taking your virginity... Like taking my gay virginity (as in anal), and then breaking up with me and having aggressive gay sex in my bed while I cried silently on the ground trying to be "a chill guy".

Catrack19: Don't just hold out for the "right guy". The sad truth is life is rife with pain, to be human is to overcome that pain. It's silly to shut yourself off of romance and affection just so you don't get hurt.Hurt comes when hurt comes, but it hurts a lot less if you've been busy living your life in the meantime.

As for your issue, don't F+k your friends. 23 and talking from experience here. I've had sex with way too many friends. Don't F+k anyone you wouldn't date, unless you aren't ever going to see them again, OR the relationship is only based on hooking up. It's not a moral thing, sex just tears friendship's apart. It breaks down the walls that NEED to exist for friends to actually be good friends.

Don't save your pooter for the guy you're going to marry, because the fact is you'll end up a spinster like our guest commenter if you do that. A relationship can not work if the partners aren't sexually compatible. You might luck out, but you might also just end up in a sexless marriage.
THAT BEING SAID.
Do save your pooter until you know the guy cares about you. This can take many forms. If its a casual hookup, it means the guy should care about you enjoying the experience too. If it's a relationship then the guy should DEFINITELY care about ALOT more things then sex. Sex is very important in a relationship but a lot of things are as well.

Also: Don't put out for someone who hasn't at least kissed you, and don;t show him the goods till there's been a bit of foreplay.. If you leave those two factors out of the equation all you guys are doing is a really complex multiplay game of masturbating. I shouldn't have to explain why that's bad.

Finally, as for the issue of your vag pain.
Sorry but like, what's wrong with you? Why haven't you been masturbating? Get some of your fingers up in that Sh+t. Stretch yourself out. Treat yourself to a dildo, especially if it vibrates. My butt would have hurt something awful when I lost my virginity, but I had been expecting a penis to go in it for years before one ever did, when it finally happened I was prepared. It was uncomfortable at first but not excruciating.
Vaginas and butt holes are like every other part of the body, they need exercise.

So yeah,the TL;DR is this:
Dont follow the bitter advice of some 22 year old telling you to hide under a rock because life is a disney movie and prince charming will ride into your life on a white stallion and take you to his palace where hiis legions of servants will preform cunnilingus on you at all times and prince charming himself will never ask for anal.
That's not reality. Reality is a goddamn horror movie, which leads me to the advice of another 22 year old who suggests that you live your life the the fullest every day, but don't f*k your friends.
Or you end up with one ex having sex with somone else in your bed right infront of you, and another ex having sex with one of your firneds in your boyfriend's (who you were dating at the same time that you were also dating said ex) bed.
That is reality. That sh*t happens in life.
There is however, no such thing as a prince charming.
No one can afford servants in this economy and if they could cunnilingus would be pretty illegal to receive from them
and even if there was a prince charming he most certainly would want anal at least on his birthday.

(also don't read what im saying too cynically. While there are no and have never been prince charmings on the planet, there's plenty of Duke Suaves and Governor Sweetums etc out there. Just no princes, seeing as they can only be with princesses, and no one on the planet likes a princess. ;) )

Findally: Put phallic objects into your crotch until it doesn't hurt to do it.
Then keep doing that because apparently that feels good.

And avoid the sh*t out of friendsex. I cant restate that enough. Seriously it makes the gongshow of life a goddamn... there's no analogy for it you just have to watch your exes screw people where you screw your boyfriend and then have to smoke weed with the people they're screwing. Freindsex, just don't.
/the end.

Its simple, foreplay is the key.
I'm 16 and I recently lost mine to my boyfriend who i have been dating for 6 months, and it was wonderful. About 4 months before we had sex for the first time, we started engaging in foreplay regularly (oral, handjobs/fingering) and over time my hymen stretched, and made my first time love-filled and pain free. And sex is so much better when its with someone you love. We cant stop having sex now xD